Face Book Friend
By Chrissy
@Java09 (3075)
United States
February 19, 2012 6:38am CST
Recently ,well actually yesterday,I stopped using face book.I'm sort of thinking of deleting my account.I have friends on there that I used to know.when I first added them they talked to me,now suddenly no one talks to me.
I sent this one guy on there a message over two weeks ago and he never answered.It's so weird,he came to visit me three weeks ago ,then started ignoring me.I don't even know what I did. He used to be a friend of my family, but I guess people change and don't stay the same,you know?
I'm just wondering if you ever had a friend that this happened with,share your thoughts with me.
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12 responses
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 12
I have some friends who become strangers like that, even I have ever had this kind of internet relationship with one of them. He's ever disappeared but now he came back as a completely stranger. I sent him message but he didn't reply. I was curious, but that doesn't stop me from using Facebook. Lol. Well, he has a life and I have mine. I won't delete him from my list because he doesn't do it either. But I agree that people change, but friends shouldn't change. If they really want to be our friends, then it should always be like that.
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@Java09 (3075)
• United States
20 Feb 12
You wouldn't expect that from a good friend. I knew this guy for years and he was a very close friend of the family. True friends don't change on you like that, true friends remain friends and never ignore you. Thanks for your response Miss Piggy, I did the best I can, I contact him a couple times and he never answered, I even told his sister that he don't talk to me anymore. There is not much I can do now but move on with life and forgot about it.
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
21 Feb 12
His sister must be ignoring me too. I find it odd that after being friends for so many years he would do this. It is hard to forget. But it seems like he won't ever be contacting me again. Yes, I think about him and how nice he was when I talked to him, then I wonder, what happened?
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 12
That's odd actually. But didn't his sister tell you what's going on? It's good for you to move on, but if I were you, I wouldn't forget that easily. I'm sure you're still thinking about him, aren't you? He's been a good friend.
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@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
19 Feb 12
Facebook isn't all bad. In my life I've only ever had one true friend. We've known each other for 15 years now. In those 15 years we've probably been what you might call active friends for about 5 years on and off. We're the types that can not speak to one another for a whole year, then pick up where we left off without batting an eyelid. The latest spell of non-contact resulted in getting reacquainted through Facebook after 2 years. Had it not been for Facebook, we probably still would not have reignited our friendship.
There are old friends and new friends on Facebook to be found and met, it can be a great social tool, but nothing beats getting out there and making real friends.
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@Java09 (3075)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I think I got what you were saying all wrong.I guess some people in life just move on ,and don't want to tell someone they don't want to be friends anymore.Their method of getting rid of one is to just ignore them.I think I would rather be told, instead of wondering what his problem is.I guess some people don't like to hurt feelings. Well,I'm just not gonna worry anymore.When I started the discussion, I felt mad about it. Now I feel,who cares,I'll ignore him back then.I'll move on in life here.I would not delete my account,because I have a couple of family members, that I would like to know how they're doing.They don't always talk to me,because they're busy, just sometimes,but better than never. Sorry..
@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
19 Feb 12
I'm sorry if you were inflamed by my response, no offense was intended. I did focus my reply to your discussion on the first paragraph and with my connection with a real life friend through Facebook.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
I have lots of friends in facebook who added but we never chat or we never say hi. They ask for confirming them as my friend but if I already approve they not even bothered to say hi or watz up. I'm just curious about them why they keep adding me for they don't talk to me. I'm a kinda of person who does not initiate first, If they will talk to me I will talk to them but I not go on first to talk to them.
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
20 Feb 12
He wasn't just an online friend, I knew him for many years. My mom knew him as a teenager. I knew him since I was a little girl. Anyways, no matter how long I knew him, I cannot do anything for the fact hes ignoring me. Its his loss, therefore I am not going to go chasing him to try to gain back a friendship that there never even was in the first place. He wasn't a true friend if he ignores all the sudden. Its some sort of mental disorder if you ask me.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
19 Feb 12
Hi java,
That some one did not respond you or you are not happy does not make face book bad. There are good people, rather, I say very intellectuals one. But one has to be choosy in selection of friends. And if one does not accept your friend's request or if they are there but not responding ones it is their cup of tea. Your grumbling would not stir their hair. Friendship is always a two way traffic.
I have been there for more than three years and have never found people/friends like that you described. You go to "Life Q/A" and take part there. You would really enjoy.
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@shalom220277 (10)
• Canada
19 Feb 12
this is the best way you choosed. if someone does not reply to your message, leave him alone. you will meet more friendly and more lovely guys with whom you can enjoy the rest of your life. don't let people make you sad or make your life like my love wihtney houston. because of one you can lose your relative don't let that happen. hope you will go better and better.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
19 Feb 12
Thank you java, that you took my response very positively and friendly as well. Had there been some other people they would sort of get offended as the way I put things straight.
@Darren84 (57)
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20 Feb 12
Some people on Facebook is very strange. They add you as a friend but then they hardly ever socialize with you. They update their status on a daily basis but almost never respond to comments from friends. These people forget that Facebook is a SOCIAL network where people interact and not a place for one sided self- promotion.
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@Java09 (3075)
• United States
21 Feb 12
Yes facebook is a social site. But I wouldn't have expected this from my friend. I knew him for many years. I knew him when I was a little kid and my mom knew him when she was a teenager. We were always good friends. I don't know why he would do this suddenly. I sent him messages over 3 weeks ago and also told his sister he is not talking to me. I just got to face the fact, that he isn't going to be talking.
@trinkabelle (432)
•
20 Feb 12
treat this as their loss, i have people add me all the time on FB and they hardly talk to me, it doesn't bother me at all, i don't know them, they don't know me, but at times i de-clutter, meaning i clear out the ones who don't interact, i certainly wouldn't meet anyone from face book unless i knew them, the ones who ignore you, block them, after all, they don't want to talk to you, so why have them on your friends list, i wouldn't let it bother you, just get them off your list and ignore them, they choose to do this to you, so there's no loss there,
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
20 Feb 12
I agree. It is his loss. He wasn't just an online friend, I knew him for many years and I didn't expect this to happen. I must move on with life, this has happened to me in the past with other people. It is true that there is no point to keep them on my list if they don't talk to me. Thanks for your response, happy mylotting.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
19 Feb 12
The internet is confusing like that, because answers are not immediate. Maybe you should try calling him instead and see if thhere really is a problem or not. Because some people don't answer instantly, when they're online. and so facebook sometimes makes it confusing. Good luck!
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I think three weeks is more than enough time to reply.Considering I see him active on there .He plays games and he's on the chat.He's always on there.I'm just gonna delete,someone who ignores me is not a friend of mine.I'm sure I'll meet other people to talk to who will not ignore me.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I used to be freinds with alot of people in life, two ex boyfriends of mine i was actually pretty close with and one now just cares about going to church and doing missions and he wasnt like that at all so now we really dont talk much excep when he might IM me on facebook and we talk and now another one is married, with a child and lives in Italy so we dont talk at all. I think its just life and we all move on from there. Yeah its just life and i get over it and used to it, it happens alot with people and it just doesnt bother me at all.
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I guess people just change in life.Thats something about life,that things never stay the same. People seem to move on in life in one way or another. It feels sad,but I get over things easily. Things like this have happened to me with other people. I shouledn't let it bother me this time.
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Hello there maybe the reason why he/she did not respond to your message is because he/she is busy or is away from his/her computer or keyboard.It happens most of the time.If that scenarion would happen to me I would not easily jump into conclusions, but I would ask my friend about it.
@Java09 (3075)
• United States
19 Feb 12
I did ask a couple weeks ago and he didn't respond.I see him playing games and being active online,also he's on the chat.I don't know.I'm not gonna give anymore thought about it and just move on. He obviously don't have nerve to tell me ,he don't want to be friends.I'll probably just delete him.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
20 Feb 12
Hi Java: This must be a hard decision. At least it would be for me. Maybe you just need to find some other interesting things about facebook. I use it to know what my friends are doing but also as a fan I have the chance to meet people who has the same interests I do and to know what is happening with my favourite artists and find some good stuff about them. And there are also the games.
ALVARO
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@Java09 (3075)
• United States
20 Feb 12
Yes, the games are fun. I enjoyed playing lots of them. Its not the site Facebook, its the long term friend who no longer wants to talk anymore. Its their loss and I must move on with life. It is a hard decision and it hurts, but there is nothing I can do. He was obviously never a true friend if hes ignoring us now. Hes a fake, a phoney, and was never even a true friend. Thanks for your response. I am not going to go chasing people to get back a friendship that there never was.
@puneetgzb (61)
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19 Feb 12
do not delete your facebook account. send a final remainder to your friend, weather he is interested to continue friendhsip with you or not. might be he will answer ur post. if e answers then you will get your friend back, if he don't just delete his account from facebook account.because delelting your account is not a solution of your problem. but your problem will be resolved by knowing that why your friend is not talking, there might be some anpther reason that's why he is not talking with you. first try to know that one than do accordingly.
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@vt689586 (584)
• India
19 Feb 12
yeah this also happened with one year ago,but if anybody ignored me with this way then i start ignoring that person also.and i do not care about anything if i was not wrong in this.i suggest you don't delete your facebook account because of just a person who ignore you.try to make some new and good friend who knows the meaning of the friendship.
