From friendship to relationship!!!!!!

I had the same situation 10 years ago. I fell in love with my friend and my nosy brother told him about it. I was so shy but that helped us become closer to each other because he started visiting me in the house and hanging out with me. We had been texting back and forth for weeks and then I thought we are really getting into something serious. Then, one day he started not texting me, then he didn't visit me, and then until I found out he already has a girlfriend. That was really sad and I felt really devastated. But I moved on with chin up and pretended I didn't care. So, eventually I had a boyfriend too, also one of my brother's friend. I gradually forgot about this boy since I focused my attention to this new love interest. One day, they had decided to form a musical band and they need a vocalist. So, my brother asked me if I could sing for them. And so I did. From that day on, I became very close with the previous guy again and we almost became best friends. We hanged out again, joked around alot and even slept together in one bed. Of course nothing happened between the two of us because we already have our own relationships and there is really no "something" or physical attraction between us since we see each other as friends. Everyone was really saying we look good together and maybe we should be together but we just laughed at it (very common response) ( typical stories between bestfriends) Everytime I was broken hearted he was always there to give me company and that's what I did to when he was also broken hearted. And then, things suddenly changed when we are already becoming older and older. I have to transfer school, my brother lived together with his gf who doesnt like him to be in a band anymore and then the rest of the group decided to move to another country to work as professional musical band. It took 10 years before we met again. He became very handsome and was really attractive. Alot of things changed in their family's finances and he began managing their own family business. He had a lot of savings and his own car and such. I was happy for him. This time we are 4 hours away from each other so we only get to hang out when I visit my family back in our hometown. One day, I recieved a message from him. He wants me to go to his birthday and celebrate it with him. He said he won't accept "no" as an answer. He would really want me to go. So, I went cause I really can't say no. Because bfore that day he alrady did my family a big favor when he gave my brother a job at their warehouse and also helped when my dad was brought into the hospital. So I went. I didn't expect that's gonna be the best night. Nothing happened as usual (of course!) but he did something really weird and really made me think twice about everything in my life that time. He confessed his love to me!!!! I was so stunned because I couldn't believe it. He told me what he really felt about me, he said he only was able to have the courage to tell me now. NOW that IM MARRIED... and so... long story short....IT DIDN't WORK and I dont think we are still even friends right now. SO SAD..

I have been in this situation a couple of times in my life, and it really hurt at the time, but I have to say that it was for the best in the long term because I got a better boyfriend and am now very happy with him the way things are. If he doesn't like you in that way, then there isn't really all that much that you can do about it other than try to act normally with him. He will get his head around the idea in time and will hopefully be able to treat you in the same way that he did in the past again. Things will all work out for the best.

Newyorker06 ..Could be he is nervous about how you feel about him now. He might grow to feel the same about you but he might be uncomfortable in not wanting to hurt you..If I were you I would just be honest and ask him. Tell him you noticed a change in him and see what he says.