My Father's Concubine and I Had A Fight.

Philippines
February 20, 2012 3:09am CST
My Father's Concubine and I, have been communicating through text. It was her who initiate the communication, at first she didn't introduce herself at me. But as time passes by, her motive was evident. She wanted to be known as my Father's Concubine. When I heard from her that she was my father's concubine, it was nothing to me. I had that feeling before that my father really have a woman. We've been exchanging messages, but it doesn't mean that I had accepted her. When my father is not at her side she would keep on sending a message and calling us asking where my father is. Take note: She's not only asking me but She's asking my mother, My brother and She is also asking to my father's employee. Last Saturday, I reprimanded her to stop sending messages and to stop calling me. Why, She's been calling me thrice or more in a day. I told her that she should stop what she's doing and she should know her place. She got mad at me, She said something about me, She told me something about my past ( I'm a Single Mom and The father of my son left without a word . Yes, I got hurt but I didn't take it into my heart. It's because she doesn't know anything about my past. She told me that well she's thankful for herself it's because my father faces his responsibilities ( They have a child) P.S: My Mother and Father is separated, but they're not legally separated. They haven't filed any annulments or anything. My father and I haven't talked anything about that b*tch, I know my father knows that woman is communicating with me, but he never started any conversation about that woman. All of my relatives knows about it but we never had a guts to talk it seriously. If you were in my shoe, what will you do? What's your reaction if that person will say something about your past?
3 responses
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
Well, I will simply ignore what she said and not stoop to her level. Seriously, my past is my business. I was the one who lived it and tried to overcome it. Whatever my actions or decisions during that time are my business and no one else. It is a part of my life and she doesn't have a place in those. Whatever my faults are now lessons that I will forever reflect on. I am not judging your father's decision ins seeing or living with another . That is his action and decision, and his over-all business. I think it is extremely rude and very demanding of a concubine/mistress to ask or even approach the family that her current lover had. If they have lived away and didn't bother you (especially your mother), maybe you could just pretend that they had a life of their own and the issue would have moved on. But constantly disrupting your peace when you are no longer part of the picture (sorry if I cause some hurt and nasty feelings) is a serious breach of etiquette for me. If one is in peace, why disturb them with petty questions? People have a lot of priorities and problems in their lives that need no more complications. If she calls you again, I suggest you say to her to contact your father instead of them. If she wants to find him, she's an adult (physically) to do that by herself.
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• Philippines
20 Feb 12
That's what I did! I just ignored her and deleted her contact number in my list. I told myself that I should and never will stoop into her level because I'm an educated person. It never came into my mind to judge my father's decision as well, it's because I know what he feels. I told that mistress to contact my father but then my father can't be reached.
20 Feb 12
talk to your dad and have him tell her to stop this nonsense, she was utterly wrong to bring your past up, it's none of her business, she did this to have a poke at you, to see what buttons she could push, this shows how weak and shallow she really is, if she is calling your cell phone, block her number, if you have caller ID on your house phone, check it first and if it's her, ignore it, but if she wants your dad, she is to call him, if he is not answering her calls, it just proves that he's not that interested, she sounds like a very needy person to me, ignore her nasty words, you know about your life more than she does, if she says it again, laugh at her and hang up, she's a lost cause
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
If I'll talk to my dad, then he would just think that, I am affected with that woman. I never brought up this issue to my dad because I don't wanna waste my time talking about that woman. That woman would call my dad, if she is in need of money. If my father is really interested with her, then he wouldn't lie to her wherever my dad goes.
21 Feb 12
this is what i mean, she is affecting members of your family plus you too, you certainly do not need this it's a form of harassment and stalking, if your dad spoke to her and told her to back off maybe things would be peaceful in yours and you family's life, he's not interested in her, if he was he would take her calls and see her often but i think she's there for when he needs her which isn't often, i know you don't want to waste your time talking about her but the only way to stop this is to talk to your dad and get him to put a stop to this once and for all
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
I would ignore her. She's just trying to hurt you. This is her way to get even to you so I guess you don't need to make her feel that what she said had an effect with you. She don't know you so well and don't know every little thing about your past. If you show her that you got pissed off with what she said, then she'll just feel happy about it and will keep doing that to you. Maybe it is better to just ignore her and never reply or take her calls anymore.
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
I just ignored her. Although she said some hurtful words aside from judging me from my past, I won't gonna stoop into her level.