I Love Him...But..... :(

This is a common thing in love marriage. Ask him to approach your family members and try to convince them and make it as arranged marriage so that there wont be any problem and no one will feel for this. This is the only way to get happy.

Dassodils -- Now I recollect one of your discussions wherein you said that you do not believe "love at first sight" is possible. You said that love will not come at first sight. I also remember to have added you will realise it when you fall in love with a person, Love is blind. Love has no reasoning. If you are a student love will affect your studies. Love a person after verifying fully about him --his educational back ground, family back ground, status, employment, temperament, habits like drinking, smoking etc. It is preferable to love a person of your caste so that 50% objection can be avoided. Best suggestion will be for the present --keep aside love and the lover --complete the education and still the person is unmarried and is sincere then you can think of it. Please - stop love affair during college studies. I have seen and am hearing in many classes students do not get marks because of love affairs.

Oh I think it is sad when parents try and direct their childrens lives, we all have our own journey to live and no-one should try to live it for us...Love is a wonderful thing and marriage and life without is empty...

Your boyfriend himself is avoiding you , now that he knows about your family. So, there is no problem.Just take a hard effort at self-control and manage your emotions. Stray away from him and cultivate a sense of determination.This will soon pass.

If there is nothing you can do then you need to keep busy with other things. I think it sad that these traditions are so that people can't really be happy with the person of their choice. I hope that changes at some point.

aw that is sad! Why not introduce him to your parents and they might like him? such cultural traditions are often times heartbreaking.. you should marry someone for love

Parent usually have their reasons for rejecting those who seek for their daughters. Frist love may not be true love. Person must be suitable and capable to take responsibility. In any case, if your friend is suitable, get him try to meet and confence your parent.

Hi... The best solution of this situation is to make a bridge between your love and parents. I think it is not an inter cast love (most cases parents does not admit such marriage). If yes, try to prove his good habits to your parents. try to make them understood your mantel condition ... how much you have hurt. I do believe they will understand. All the best.

If we look around, we will get thousands of people to love. You are just 18 years (if you are true) and you can still have enough time to get involved. Take it is simple and silly. When you are matured enough, I am sure that your decision will change. As long as your parents are agaisnt and your partner also is ignoring, you need to wait. Keep the relationship as just a friendship and wiat for some more time. These days people look many things before getting into a love affiar - the boy's education, family, finance, appearance & look, religion, cast, social set up etc. Why? We need to lead a better life in future and for that all these kinds of parametres are essential. Simply for the sake of love we can do it. But when it come close to life, we may have to face somany real facts. So, in my opinion, you can wait and continue the relatioship with the other person just like a friendship and enjoy life with the person whom you like (if all these are real and genuine). Thank-s

Hello,Dassodils. That's a difficulty question for everybody,ask your heart how to do it. If your lover can face your family with you together

If your love is true , discuss with your lover and go ahead . Love cannot be bound by and chains . It may be difficult at the beginning but it will change with time as you know time is the best healer . Never compromise or sacrifice your love for anything . But be sure your lover is ready to do everything for you . My best wishes are with you .

If this is the person you want to be with. You don't need your family support. Okay we aren't back in the 18th century. If my parents did that I wouldn't be a live today and either would my daughter and our soon to be new baby.You can't help who you fall in love with. It doesn't matter what other people want for you its what you want.

The advise that i am about to give you might sound stupid to some people but its my opinion. Listen to what your parents say... they have loved you even before you were born and i am sure that they would think the best for you in every aspect of your life...sometimes we consider elderly people not able to see the things that we are, but the fact of the matter is that they have the experience of their lives with them and if they thought that this relationship is better for your life and future they must have permitted it.

As the saying goes true love can wait. If that man truly loves you he will wait for you no matter hindrance would that be.. for now spend time with friends and family to comfort you.

Well, I think that the first thing is to know if he feels the same way for you, and, then, talk with your parents, if you don´t want to hurt them, it is a must. But, think that you are still too young, and there is plenty of time for such things. I wish you the best, and may all this end the best way for you.

If he is avoiding you, then he doesn't love you. Move on. If he will come, then you must ditch your family to love him.

If you are really looking for it and you seems he will take care of you, go for the extremes. But be prepared to face the consequences. You said he is ignoring you. If this is true, how he would ready to accept you? Also, in the modern times, getting married for a day is not life. What you will do on the next day or afater a few days of your marriage? So, you can take your own decisions along with yoru other party. If he is also not willing just ask him for what you want. He will be ready to give you. May be a good life or a life time experience for ever. Life is not so easy if the things are turning around. Be prepared to accept atnything.. Thank-s

may be according to your parents have not the right time for you... you're very young and looks very pretty.. of course still a lot that you can achieve and which want both your parents are be proud of you "always follow the flow of the rhythm of life a difficult guess what is the best way to deal with life n keep smiley"... ;)

Hello, Dassodils! I am glad to know that you're already inlove. I have been seeing most of your discussions about your brother for few months now. You always say that you cry because of him, but you still love him. Now, you are already inlove! But does it mean that your brother doesn't also like this man? What is the reason? If this man really loves you, he'll do everything to win the heart of your family. If you also love this man, you'll fight for him.

We are all humans. We all make mistakes. To promise not to fall in love is by itself, a silly and impractical assurance - just like I promise you that I won't die before I am 100 years old. It is something out of our control. Nobody can make a decision to love someone or not because love is a gradual process. There may be a "love at first sight" but still it is a natural reaction - it is not something planned. I don't think people will know that he/she is on the way to love someone. Love does not work that way. Love comes naturally. The only sure way for love not to happen is to stay in a room and meet no outsiders. So don't feel sorry for the promise you made. You just couldn't help it. I am not an Indian. I am not familiar enough to talk much. I am just saying it in a logical way. Correct me if I am wrong but I sincerely hope that all our myLotters here can help you in anyway. I suggest you to talk with your parents. Tell them your feelings. If they love you they will care about how you feel. But you are only 18 now, an age not too young but not too old either. Although you may think otherwise at this moment, when we grow older, we will change. No, I don't mean your love for him will change. It is not something you can control. What I am trying to say is that when you are more matured, you will think better and make better decisions. You are still a student. Is there a need to rush to get married? If there isn't, maybe you can talk with your boy friend to stay cool and wait for the right time after you have done your part as a student and as a "good" daughter. Time will tell whether what you are thinking now can stand the test of time. If it is your custom that an arranged marriage is preferred, then do something to make sure the arrangement is sided on you. How is your boy friend's family thinking? Are they likely to accept your relationship? Will they go along if your boy friend wants to wait for a better time for you? One thing to ponder: your boy friend is avoiding you because of your family - do you think he can be strong enough to face and overcome all the obstacles? Or is it only you are doing something to improve the situation? Talk to him about that. Both of you have to be in it together or else it doesn't seem worthy of the sacrifice anyone will make along the route.