how to maintain consistency in a relationship?

Sustaining a relationship to stay strong takes a lot of effort on both parties involved. The time element for an open heart-to-heart talk, the element of surprise of doing extraordinary things just to point something out or giving something, the frequent and consistent of celebrating special occasions, and the list goes on and on. It only takes ample thinking process to initiate things to keep the spark alive.

Ya know I see alot of young people get married and the relationship seems to end rather quickly. They married for love only, which of course is a good thing. Some of them have asked me how I have kept my marriage strong and I had to think about that for a time before answering. Was it love that kept my marriage together? Yes of course love plays a strong role in any relationship. Was it mutual respect for each other? Yes that plays a role in it also, but I think after much thought the strongest one thing that holds a relationship together is FRIENDSHIP. You see I love my wife more than anything in this whole world but I think our friendship is the glue that really holds it together. I don't know if this makes sense to anyone but me, but I really feel strongly that without our friendship, just love may not have survived.

Yes I agree with you. It is because at the beginning of a relationship a couple have strong feelings for one another which are a big part of starting the relationship. But over time people the everday cares of life take over. It means that a couple has to work at it to keep the chemistry their and keep their relationship strong. It's just like with most things to keep them going and in the best shape it has to be maintained. And that is very important or the relationship can go down heal. I was reading a book about it at one time and it was very interesting to get that perspective of things. It takes work but it's because a lot of the media makes it seem like it doesn't that people start to think that they can't feel as strongly about one another as they did in the beginning. The start was a great feeling but if a couple makes time for each those feelings can be their and a couple can really have a life with one another. Growing and changing together and loving one another in new and different ways.

I think we have to try to rebuilt the relationship each day because like you said everything change but we can make the change good. Reinvent the relationship everyday, and is going to be better.

I think the most important thing we must do to maintain the relationship is the communication and trust. Then "patience" should follow. Women and men see differently in relationship thing. Women need men to inform everything while men think it's really unimportant. At least they say they're going to do something, they want women to understand. It really is complicated to keep this thing going well. When I see my father and brother who keep informing my mother and sister-in-law about everything they do, it seems like relationship is so easy. And they did it before they got married. They've been through hard times too, they argue too, but somehow they can manage to keep their relationship warm all the time! However, when I did it with my ex-boyfriends, it didn't work. :( Well, I think I'm not patient enough. It's simple, cliche, but somehow it's very important.

In a relationship,there should be patience.To stay forever, u must rspect ur promises in the presence of ur witness...and of course to God itself...Never react to ur partner if u have a quarrel...Be calm s tht it wont lead to a big problem..Make some romances also to hasten tiredness in ur life as the days pass by....