is it really wrong too?
By juggal0Xx420
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
United States
February 20, 2012 10:29am CST
is it really wrong to interfere with a relationship between two people who have been together for a year? i don't have a grudge or a reason to but i have been talking to this guys girlfriend lately and she seems more interested in me she gave me her number and told me to call her anytime and i do like her and i've wanted to beat the Sh!t out of her boyfriend in the past because in my freshmen year i got into a fight and it was a brutal one we both left complete mess and blood everywhere and this guy caught it all on video and it was turned in 2 days later and i was arrested and taken to juvenile hall. i am not saying i am using this against him or anything but his girlfriend does seem more interested in me and straight told me "we are friends with benefits for now until i think about some things."
all i am asking is would it be wrong for me to take this girl from this guy or do anything with her while she's with him still?
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11 responses
@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
20 Feb 12
If she's stringing both of you along (and that is exactly what she's doing, without question), then she doesn't want either of you enough to be with just that person and she doesn't deserve either of you.
Your best bet would be to walk away from this girl and find someone who isn't already showing you that she'll cheat on you by doing so with you on her current partner. Start as you mean to go on.
Best of luck with it.
@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
20 Feb 12
If she really wanted to be with you juggal0, then she would. If she had the integrity you want from a girl in a relationship, she would have ended things with him before she decided to start fooling around with you, which shows that she is interested in both of you, but not enough to be faithful to either of you.
Whatever happens, I hope that you are happy, everyone deserves a bit of that.
@trinkabelle (432)
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21 Feb 12
are you sure this girl isn't giving you the wrong signals, maybe she just wants to be friends with you to keep the peace with her bloke, first and foremost, you say that you want to beat her boyfriend up for taking a video of you fighting with someone else, maybe you should sort out your anger issues before even thinking about taking her from him, because twice in this thread you have mentioned violence, let this girl be with her man, you have no place in their lives apart from talking to her, i don't think her man will be too happy knowing that she gave you her number, she shouldn't be doing that if she is in a relationship, so she is betraying him already, watch her, she may be playing with you, this is just my opinion, i may be wrong, don't get stuck inside someone else's business, it always turns nasty in the end
@trinkabelle (432)
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21 Feb 12
yeah maybe she does, but she would have done it by now, watch this girl she could be playing the two of you, if she hasn't broken up with him she shouldn't be coming on to you, i don't think he knows what she is doing, be careful, she may cause trouble between you both again
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
21 Feb 12
i am pretty sure she does want to break up with him for me and i don't want to beat up her boyfriend we already resolved the issue a year and a half ago and we been cool with each other since its just lately his girl has been hitting on me.
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
21 Feb 12
i will be sure to keep a close eye on her thank you for the advice
@soulist (2985)
• United States
20 Feb 12
I think doing things with her while she is still with another guy is wrong. As for taking her away from him, that is something she needs to decide on. if she needs to think things over let her think about them, but if she choose him I don't think you should keep doing things with her. How would you know she wouldnt do the same while she is with you?
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
20 Feb 12
i don't i did have that happen to me before where a girl just gets with me and then leaves me and i wouldn't like the thought of that anymore but it is on the list of possibilities but i hope it's not cause that would just shatter me.
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@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
hi!
i do agree with soulist.. if that girl can cheat on his partner what is your assurance that she can't do that to you, right???
and if that girl really likes you she would finish their relationship not later than tomorrow or whatever. but in your part there will still be a question. as stated by soulist.
Good luck!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Yes that would be wrong. You should let her think about things and make her decision about who she wants to be with. If she would so easily cheat on him you've got to be careful because she may do the same thing to you if you are in a relationship with her. Having her make a decision first is best. You should give her time to make that decision.
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
hi my friend!
Before deciding on stuffs like this, I usually ask myself, would I feel good about it? If yes, the next question be, would I have guilt in doing such actions? If you will be revenging this guy through the girl, do you think it would really hurt him? I don't know... But the more, I see the people/things that remind me of the people who hurt or make fool of me, the more hurt/ anger it gives to me... So, just continue being a good person my friend.. You will gain something from being good like friends... Anger and vengeance can only result to losing the real you... As they said, if someone throws a stone on you, throw him bread (not inside a jar, of course).... Enjoy your day my friend!
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
21 Feb 12
ah thank your for some more good advice my friend i will keep this in mind(:
@wangxiaomeng521 (14)
• China
21 Feb 12
Don't make it worse.whatever you want do to the guy or the true or false the feeling you have to the girl,interfereing to others relationship isn't a good idea.Too much trouble you cannot image may being brought in and always be with you....In another words,we cannot control the futuer.Don't have a risk and expect a better result.
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
21 Feb 12
alright thank you(: and i will let everyone knows how this situation goes once it is all figured out?
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
21 Feb 12
Ok so what you are saying my friend is that i should give up on the girl?
@wangxiaomeng521 (14)
• China
21 Feb 12
Usally,happy ending need many factors,not only just need feeling but also ask for the chance.The common saying says that we would better see the right people at the right time.I think the key of the solution is the girl you love.She has the right to choose who she love or who she want to be with.You are always the third part before the girl leaving that guy.So,talk with the girl to get a common opinion,for the girl,love or not love anymore is only a choice.For you ,interfering to try to separate them is out of morality.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
In my own opinion if a person you like is in a relationship, I think you should not interfere with it, but then if the girl is giving you any motive maybe she doesn't like the guy anymore.. I guess just wait for the time that she is not committed.. because I think nobody doesn't want to happen such things to them also, so do good to others..
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
20 Feb 12
but i am not in a relationship and haven't been in one for quite a while and im just confused on this situation
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
20 Feb 12
If the person were a friend or acquaintance who trusted you, I wouldn't think you should interfere with their relationship. But he if he is not, I don't see any reason why you can't go forth with pursuing a relationship. I mean if we never dated anyone who was seeing someone else, there wouldn't be anyone anywhere available to us. I wouldn't go as far as using the video or pictures or blackmail or anything like that, but I would still certainly consider going for it, but talk to her long enough to know if you were seeing her if she'd do the same thing to you behind your back.
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
20 Feb 12
thats what i am going to do and have been currently talking to her about it. thanks for the help guys i've been confused on what to do for the past few days about it and i don't want the guy thinking i am trying to get payback for him getting me arrested, i don't him thinking i am dating his probably soon to be ex to make him mad i mean its not my fault if she is really willing to choose me over him.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
26 Feb 12
it's always wrong to interfere in other people their relationships. No matter what kind of or how long they are together. Interfereing mostly means you break more as you can heal. It also means you can play for the saviour and the ones who are involved will never be able to see reality by themselves, so they won't change. They won't learn, grow up, make the same mistakes again. Also you won't be needed at certain point anymore.. the moment that person you saved changed into a stronger person. Life is full of lessons/experiences and we all have to to it ourselves and make the best out of it.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
It is really up for the girl, but if she still staying with a guy, why? I think there's nothing wrong if you are going to be with her, as long as they both already separated. It is not good to be with her while she is with a guy and hurting other feelings. Talk to her, ask her what she really feels for you, if its only a friend with benefits or there is something more?
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
20 Feb 12
i am sure its something more i know she plans to leave him but she's not leaving him soon just yet but she's willing to fool around with me before she leaves him to be with me but i don't know what to do i know most guys on here "would be like go for it!" but i am really not sure yet.
@nicola531 (43)
• Italy
20 Feb 12
Normally a lot of relationships finish because of a third party. This could seem normal and I tought it that way.
Only one thing: be brave because it may be the kind of "threesome" that can last a lot even if she leaves him, it can happen that their relationship will last. if you can stand it, ok you're ready.
Good luck.
@juggal0Xx420 (509)
• United States
20 Feb 12
ok this seems understandable too thank you for the response(:
