How do u fight depression when u have no one to help you fight it?

Hi Robswife, Depression isn't really anything you can fight. I've had major depression disorder for about 30 years now. There is no fighting it. Some days are better than others, but it's always there. I may not feel it or know it, but it's there. My depression is so deep seated in my brain that my body responds with somatoform illnesses, like being unable to speak. I have aphasia at times and other times I stutter and stammer. It's all due to depression. Depression is a brain disorder. The brain chemicals get out of balance and you can't make yourself well if you have clinical depression by just fighting it. There is nothing to fight.. depression isn't just a feeling of feeling sad, but there is complete despair and hopelessness that doesn't go away... there is having a poor self image and not finding anything you like in yourself, even though you know you are a good person. There's the feeling of being alone, because you are alone. I have social anxiety disorder, so I don't like being around people, that also isolates me. There is also the being afraid to go too far away from home. If I get too far away from home while driving I have panic attacks because I am so scared of being lost. There is a whole lot that goes with my depression, and it's not something you can just shake yourself out of. I don't know if you can relate or not... some folks have worse than me and some don't have hardly any problems at all.

Hi there, Are you on depression meds? Have you talked to a preacher? What about a counselor or your doctor. Do you have any brother's or sisters? What about doing some volunteer work? You need to get yourself out of the house, you also need to treat yourself to something fun, a treat, a haircut, get your nails done, go out with a friend. Talk with a friend or your husband on how your are feeling. Make little goals for yourself. Take a short walk each day. Or write some things down that you would like to do or things that need to be done. And try to accomplish one of those things each day. Take small steps. Hugs from someone that also goes through bouts of depression. It will get better, but it takes time. If it seems like it is getting worse then you need to see your doctor.

My friend how I can relate with what you are going thru and feeling as I have been there many times myself. It is hard when you loose someone close to you and no one really seems to understand. My Mom has been gone almost 4 1/2 yrs. now and since I am not really close to most of my brothers and sisters sometimes having no one to share with in my family can be depressing. But for me my husband and my Church and many people praying has helped me thru many days when I thought I could not carry on. Maybe you need to share with your husband more what you are feeling and take time just the two of you to get away and be alone and relax. I will be Praying for you that things can get better. Hugs here from WA state.

I've been there. Try fight the need to sleep more. I found that when I gave in, I slept more, I would be so tired the next day and lost appetite at the same time. I also looked terrible. I had no one to talk to at the time either. Only now I am meeting mental support, once a month. I know how it feels having no one to talk to. can your doctor help ? maybe he knows a group you can meet to talk every 2 weeks or so? there is such a group here for depression and anxiety etc but I like being alone so then I just spend more time in nature or meditate

I think it's normal for someone with depression to feel like that sometimes, but you really need to seek treatment to stop yourself from doing something you may later regret like running away or hurting yourself. Medications and counselling will help.

Hi Robswife2006, everyone feels down or have low point or something at times. Sometimes you are not even sure where it comes from. Its so hard to get out of the situation. But, what you are doing right now is a good thing. You are making an effort to get out of what you know your situation is and communicate. Just keep doing what you are doing now, that is communicating with the world, you will be able to survive it. Do what everybody is doing even when things are bad or tough, that is, keep breathing and just keep walking, this is life. I am not saying that all problems and question will definitely be solved or answered in the end, because life isn't always like that, however, you'll get by and survive it. I always look at things like this, we breath, we drink, we eat, work, sleep, talk, and see everyone grow old around us and so are we and then, there's nothing else to worry about. Even when things get tough, like divorce, almost loosing my house or my car, facing shame, failure, lost of loved ones, when I think about it, you know, life growing old and things, then I realised that this is how it is, we just keep breathing, and walking and whatever it is that we were facing or worrying about will eventually get disentangle by itself over time. I pray you'll walk out of it. If you still can't, get professional help, advice or med. Take care of yourself.

I understand how you are feeling. I have battled depression for many, many years. I find that the best way to combat depression is to stay active. I spend time with my dogs and my horses and even if I don't want to get out of bed (which happens a lot) I force myself to get out of the house and exercise. Of course, another thing that works well is medication!

Exercise is good for depression. I know that it is really hard to get motivated, but anything helps. Baby steps. Finding a new hobby might help. It is good to get yourself excited about something and to keep your mind occupied. As far as not having any support, you could try finding a support group online. I know that facebook has quite a few. Sometimes it is just good to have someone to talk to. If you can afford therapy, then that is definitely a good idea. If you can't afford it, I know that a lot of therapists have sliding fee scales and payment plans. I also have heard that there are people who do it for free. I don't know really how to find them or what their requirements are to qualify, but it's probably worth checking out.

I have a friend who I am sure that she has depression and I will say that she is feeling really low at the moment.All she sees is people having fun and getting on enjoying their days, where as I know her days have been getting to her and making her withdrawn more.My friend said she wants to be put on a boat and just sail away, she do not care where and if she was to leave it would be a not coming back thing.It is a dark place to be, but you must find something to do to occupy your mind.My friend use to be on here a lot, which in a way helped, but now she is on another site, as she has gone for a break of what she calls her every day thing,lol.Not saying that the answer is on this site, but I am saying that there are always people on here that you can talk to.

I really understand about your feel, I had experience about that, when my father passed away, about ten years ago. But, I think only "the time" all sadness will disappear. Feeling depression is different to mental depression. Mental depression is need special therapy and it can not cure by the time

First off *hugs* to you and my condolences on the loss of your mother. I am in therapy right now and we are covering Coping with Change and Grieving. I really believe that a lot of what you are going through is grieving of your mother's passing, especially if you both were very close to one another. As for your depression, it is not unusual to experience depression with grieving. I really would encourage you to seek medical help. Seek a doctor who can help you get counselling for your grieving. I know this sounds very scary, and you may be experiencing anxiety at the idea of leaving your home. I am as well, but I made a conscious choice to want to get well, I've been in and out of the hospital and therapy for at least 10 years now, I am on anti-depressants, and I won't lie my years of trauma, grief, loss have been significant, but the years of being chronically depressed have robbed me of my life; just as the trauma's have as well. Your husband, just like my boyfriend can't fix us, and I know this, and this is why I walk into my counselling and therapy groups solo. My boyfriend has been amazing, he is supportive, he is caring, he is loving. We don't put expectations on one another, we support one another. Please come here, write whatever you are feeling. Feel free to friend me, we can chat by PM if you wish. You do have so much to live for, even when you really feel like you don't. I have a vision of a rope in my mind's eye and no matter how hard everything has been, no matter how often I have cried to the point of wanting to vomit because the pain is so hard to take, I have always said that so long as I can see that white rope with the big knot, it was my job to use whatever I could to hang on. Hang on @Robswife2006.

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