Losing myself to make others happy :(

You need to find a balance between making others happy and making yourself happy. Sometimes you need to let other folks sort themselves out while you concentrate on you. Try not to aim too high to start. Set small goals for yourself. Pick something small and relatively easy to achieve today and when you achieve that, set the bar a little bit higher. You don't need to go to college or go on holidays to be happy. I don't go on holidays and I had to drop out of my college course for health reasons after just 2 months. All the same I set myself small goals to achieve. One at a time. I'm happy now and still setting goals. Slowly I've worked my way up through doing courses, learning to drive and have now reached my final ultimate two goals and those are to own my own house and have children. I used to focus too much on making others happy and helping others. I never stopped, but I prioritised. Best of luck with it zukichucha and I hope that in time you can learn to love yourself enough to focus more on YOU. You're the most important person.

YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE. in 2006 i was in an rta and only for the grace of god i am alive today. dont wait, forget about wot other people think and live life to the full. dont be afraid of trying new things, live everyday like it is your last. work hard and play hard,

first thing to do, say no! it took a long time before i could do it. now i do! once a week, find time for yourself. do what makes you feel good. check out nearby colleges, between the campuses and internet, there's no reason to go. but do something that will make you happy. don't worry about making others happy. first off....you'll never make everyone happy, least of all...YOU! the way i see vacations....it's more about doing something that will make you happy, not so much a destination. i haven't traveled, but i don't have the desire to travel the world. i'd rather spend time with my family.

We all have dreams, hopes and wishes, but most important is that we need to know we are exactly where we are meant to be at this time and place. Look around and see what is available to you. Give to others whenever you can even if it is just a simple smile. Blessings

people around us always try to suck all our energy and wealth for them. even though we do so much things for them,they will try to find mistakes in small things. they will always discourage us. it is not bad to live life for others. but you should avoid sacrificing your whole life for others. we should make ourselves happy first and then we should try to satisfy others. happiness should start from us. if you don't find peaceful mind,then you wont feel that happiness when helping others. so make yourself happy first and try to do different things which makes you happy. after satisfying youtrself try to satisfy others.

Similar to me, I'm 29, I have no money, no good job, don't know how to swim or drive, I haven't traveled, have not gone to college, and I never dated with a man, but I need to get married before 30, oh my god. I feel so stagnant all the time, I know there's no one could help me but myself, so I often told myself" god help those who help themselves". We need to be help ourselves from now on, and I'm sure we'll be better in the future. :)

I understand the pain you feel on your situation. For me, Whenever I feel unhappy, I always talk to our LORD and tell him what I feel, I always ask his guidance to make signs for me on what will I do next. Though, I have friends to count on.. I still keep my faith stronger. I pray for those people who tend to hurt me, so that one day when they wake up, all will change.. I try to go to places that gives me peace, a quiet moment where I can relax and realize things. At most, I am always being optimistic in life that it is like a roller coaster ride.. Time will come and it will end and the travel experience is over.. I do not wish myself to be suffering myself with all those problems or inhibition in life. So, I divert my life in many ways I can explore myself and learn more..Until, I find my inner peace and contentment.. Do not worry.. All your worries will be relieved.. Just struggle even you do not have all the great things in life you wanted.. There are always time to meet your wants.. If you keep worrying so much all the pains, you will never be happy.. Always think that when there are bad side of life, there are also the good one's. God know our fears or worries, he will help us in many miraculous ways...

I understand how you feel. I don't know how to drive either and I am 27. I am going back to school soon because I had to think of myself for once and better myself by going. I have not traveled either except little weekend getaways. I hope to someday go on a real vacation. What I have learned is there is no way to please everyone so we should at least please ourselves... I have had plenty of people tell me there is nothing I can do when all I do is help people... It is hurtful and frustrating I know. The best thing I can tell you is for once do something for you. Do something to please yourself and to make yourself proud even if no one else is proud of you, you can have pride in yourself. I hope you find happiness soon in yourself.