But I don't want you back...

I understand and believe that it is hard for you to reject any person feelings though it is in you that you have also to take in consideration of your true feelings and decisions. Though you have some ways how to reject them, it is not an assurance that they will stop their emotional feelings for you, except if you have directly told them that you by all means will not anymore open such door for that kind of relationship but only for the level of friendship. It is good approach for you when entering to a new relationship again. You give yourself a SPACE and TIME to heal yourself and realizes many things that happened and what should not remain in your coming relationship. The best way to deal with rejection is to observe the guy first, if he can be talked in a one-on-one manner and if he is understandable enough to you, then he will accept your opinions, there you will know his inner thoughts to have a clear understanding that you understand his feelings but you are not ready for such any commitment at this point in time. Assure him, that you are not closing your friendship with him. Give him ideas that life must not stop in this point but continue enjoying and meeting other people. That, if he need a friend, you are there to listen.. Although, there are some guys who have been rejected still strive to insist what they feel, and I guess, just let them to express their feelings to be inspired with you and at the same time you know your limitations and remind them of to what are their limitations too or extent they should be so that at the end, you have given them that chances and they will not take your actions negatively. Still, it is in your decisions, you are directly in the situation. This time, if you really do not feel entering into a new commitment, do not push yourself.. Let other people show they care for you and who knows, in the right time, the man you are looking for is just around waiting also for the right time you are healed and ready to start over again..

it is quite difficult to hurt other people's feelings and ego. but you may turn them down politely by saying that they are not the one you're looking for. some may be adamant to refuse the rejection, but soon they will accept the fact that you are a different person. just stand your ground and tell them why they are not the one you want in life. soon and eventually, they will understand.

I've been through that also when my husband and I was not yet dating at that time. I had suitors, a lot of them, but if I really don't like the person, I tell them right away rather than giving them false hopes. I also had friends who can not say "No" to suitors, i don't know why. But, in my case, I tell them right away so that they can move forward and find another girl who will care for them. My usual line is "You are a great guy and I admire you for that, it;s just that I have no feelings for you. If I say "Yes" to you then it's just as if I'm fooling you and myself. I know for sure that there will be other girl who can make you happy. Can we just be friends instead?.. and you know what happened to my suitors right now? they are also happily married like i do..

I am probably not the best person to give my opinions here coz I ended up being a stranger to those guys I have rejected before. I only have 2 of them who are still a good friend til now. One of them is still trying so hard and not giving up. What I usually do is tell the person that I am not ready for another commitment. ANd wanted to be alone for sometime and focus on my career and personal life alone.

for me, you are hurting other people's feelings if you don't tell them you don't like them the way they want you to..it's like giving them false hope.. you should make a stand to which decision you made..if you don't like the person, just tell it straight to them..yeah it could be hurtful for them to know that..but eventually, they will understand you after they have accepted your decision..

well if you want to be single you must state this but tell them you do not mind the odd date but with no commitments, this is what you should tell them as soon as you meet them, they need to know before they get too involved, the one who is near hating you took it badly, so the next time you date someone tell them that this is all it is, a date, no commitment, i know you don't like hurting peoples feelings so telling then the get go is the right way, that way they know the score, if they get too involved then that's their fault, you did tell them and they didn't listen, you need to say this before you even go out with them,

mrscallands22 just tell them what you told us,be open and frank as that way there will be no mistunderstanding. I am sorry but I am very flattered but am not re adt fir a relationship with anyone right now.if they are so touchy they get mad then they were not much of a person to start out with. Just say I do not want a relationship with you or any one else. thanks but no thanks.We can be friends but that is all.blunt and to the point saves misunderstandings later.

There will be no other way except tell him the truth that he is not your type~(^^) It's hard but there is no way to get him out of you if you are not telling him the truth. He can be like the first or second guy but at least you have tried to tell him the truth. If he feel hurt then it is up to him. Even if you tell him the nicest way if he can't accept it he will be like that forever~ Don't worry sooner or later I am sure he will accept the fact that you do not want him back.(^^)

You must be a very attractive girl, that many guys are going for you. Well, there is no other way to reject them but to tell them the truth. It is more wrong to give them false hope right? Just try to be polite as much as you can.

In my case ,I would tell the real to them ,this is good for eveyone .There are many things hapened in our life.we should take it esay .