What makes you guilty?
By airamtheb
@airamtheb (370)
February 21, 2012 3:12am CST
I have a friend who came to see me so she could unburdened her feelings of guilt towards a colleague who was under an investigation for verbally maltreating a working student. She is the head of discipline and was tasked to conduct investigation between her colleague and the working student together with the members of the grievance committee. After the investigation, she was asked to submit a report to the director for administration which stated all the facts of her findings of which have put her colleague into bad light because she was found guilty of maltreatment. Her worry was that her colleague might be angry at her for being a cause of her colleague's suspension.
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@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
22 Feb 12
If your friend conducted an un-biased investigation in compliance with established company policy, then she should not feel guilty or responsible. Obviously the investigation revealed that the verbal misconduct occurred to some degree, and that can only lead to two assumptions; 1 the misconduct did in fact occur, or 2; the accuser embellished or even lied about the incident. In either case, your friend was doing the job assigned to her, and the two parties involved must and should bear the responsibility.
If a person steals from a store, if caught or not they are still a thief. You can't blame the police who caught them for making them a thief, they did it all on their own by action.
@airamtheb (370)
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22 Feb 12
It was an unbiased investigation however it was not her personality to offend a colleague who is also her friend. She was just afraid their friendship would be affected.
@airamtheb (370)
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23 Feb 12
Hopefully but a doubt it because the accused friend has a closed-type insecure personality;(
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
On the first place, why would she be worried that her friend might get angry with her? Does she not worry that God will get angry with her if she will not reveal the whole truth. 
And besides if her colleague is indeed guilty then she has no right to be angry with her friend, because she is the head of discipline.
And besides if her colleague is indeed guilty then she has no right to be angry with her friend, because she is the head of discipline. 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
I really just hope the erring friend will not take it personally against her, but would realize that if ever, her friend is just doing her job rightfully. 
@airamtheb (370)
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23 Feb 12
Well stated my friend. I think she was just letting out her feelings which made her uncomfortable at that time;)
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
24 Feb 12
I would hate to be put in such a position myself and I have been put in a position of confirming someone's guilt or innocence. Well, if the person did do something wrong they maybe angry but they should direct the anger at themselves and realize the behavior was unacceptable and the colleague was just doing her job.
