What if they send you a friend request and have no activity prior?

I have thought that they might be getting their things in order before they got started. I was not quite so organized I guess. I was thinking that maybe we shared some interests or something that led them to request me. Have you had requests from users that don't have activity yet?

Really I don't see the concept of friends , as its on open forum you can comment on everybodies discussion any do I don't really see the concept of it.

Well...I was pleasantly surprised at the quality of friends that I have made here. We participate in each others discussions and establish closer relationships than one might expect when they first come. It has been a very good thing for me. I hope that you see what I mean as you are more involved here. There are a lot of great people here. Take care.

H krajibg! I hope the little artist in your home is continuing his work. It is very hard to understand the reasoning behind 0 activity and the request for a friendship. I have thought that maybe they were just trying to get some things established before starting, but like you, I have also noticed sometimes there is no change after a while. I am one that like to see what kind of person I am befriending before doing so. I would be a lot more likely to accept even if there were low numbers of activity versus zero. Thanks for the input!

Hey Jen, yeah, the litl artist is doing big jobs now. Just the other day the created a bat and it was so alike the original creature that I could not help uploading that on face book. here is the link if you wish to view. http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=391957647487276&set=a.246979738651735.80311.100000191316390&typ. on zero activity befriending I have my own stand and that I have already told you. Be it 1 I will add but with a zero, 'nope'.

I usually accept all requests unless they're a spammer or they don't start being active.I have alot of inactive friends on my list,I'm thinking of going through it getting rid of inactive people.It's pointless to have them there if they're not using the site.I'm talking about new people that join then don't do anything. I was inactive for the past two years because I didn't have time to come on here.I didn't notice if I was deleted over it.I'll be trying to stay active this time.

How ironic, guess what I got in my PM this morning? You got it, a spam message..So I did what I said I do, ask him to check my profile and to not send me another message. If he does, I'll just delete him...

Oops, sorry, zero activity users request? Are you asking if I don't get many friend request? I guess so, I still get requests, like perhaps 2-3 a month, sometimes more, sometimes less, but it doesn't bother me that I don't get a lot, because like now I have a new friend, (new as in the last 2-3 months) that posts a lot of discussions I never reply to because they are of no interest for me, so I will have to go in and turn off the notification. That is the drawback if I get too many posting uninteresting discussions..

I bet he did. I need to put something like that on my profile too. Have you had many zero activity users request you? I can understand they are maybe more organized than me..prepared before they start kind of things But at the same time I usually do like to know a little about them before adding. Even one or two posts would be cool. Thanks for the response!

A bot? Really? I hadn't thought about that! Wow!

Oh yes and I love to help. I guess I would just like to see at least one post or response before I accept them. I take my friends here seriously. I am so glad to help anyone. I remember what it was like to be new and it is tough to get established. Thanks for the response and welcome to mylot!

Welcome! That is kind of the same idea as I have about new friends. I like that someone might request me because I am more than a referral. There is so much to learn from each other here and lots of great people. I saw that you have already met SomeCowGirl. You seem to be off to a great start. It's hard sometimes when you are "new." Believe me, I remember. I want to be helpful and kind but at the same time I would like to see a little something about them before I accept them as my friend. Thanks for responding and I hope you continue to have fun here!

That's great! You will get the fullest advantage out of myLot with that mindset. Take care!

Thanks very much for your kind response Jen and your welcome to MyLot. I did meet SCG on another site and she sent me this way and I'm really very glad that she did. I can already see that there are a great bunch of people floating around, even if there is the odd 'bot' and person who is not interested in the site other than for the purpose of furthering financial gain. I thought that was all I would use this site for but I quickly changed my mind!

Activity is important to me too. I know that I can't respond to everything that my friends post but I would like to be able to answer a few of them. I am very open to differences and I love learning things about people and places. I think that just getting a general idea of their activity and interests is nice before accepting. Even one post or response would make me feel better about accepting them. Thanks for the response!

EW...Jen, I am so sorry! We had a NASTY cold bug, circulate here in November...and I fought it, too. It won, and knocked me flat on my a$$ for a coupla days....SO, dear, Grandma...ME thinks, a wise move for you, today (I have a good idea your anticipatory level) WOULD BE...that you stay "as snug as a bug in a rug"...in your "jammies" AT HOME! Can't you just hear yourself giving that same advice to your daughter's!!!! Catching a chill, right now..not a good idea! And as much as you NEED to be there, modern technology means that you will know instantaneously! Wow..you must be anxious??? Thank you for sharing the link...I feel like a "DUH", as there was little mention of the reason for the holiday..just that it was a long weekend! From what I saw on T.V., where-ever the snow landed..it was a real dump! NO, no more for me..it is a struggle getting around on my E-bike! Please take care of yourself..stay warm, and there is truth in Chicken Soup! Also, please let us know...GRAND daughter or son!

I am thinking that MeeMees aren't supposed to be sick...especially not on very important days like this! Maybe she will come over right after and tell me..maybe have me a special picture You know I will be fighting myself over this all day Her appointment is at 3pm..I thought I was going to be working and insisted it be so I could go. It actually did do a dump here and there..LOL..I am kind of glad we weren't in it. I bet an ebike would be quite the challenge to get around in the snow. Might be fun if I were there to rid it with you though Oh..President's Day has become quite the consumer holiday here..no need for guilt as to not knowing about it. President's Day sales are the only real mention of the holiday that I have seen in years. At least in the area I am in...it might be different in other areas. Maybe if I down a gallon of that chicken soup and take a ton of cold medicine..which I hate with a passion...I can make it through school tonight,daughter's Dr. appointment and work tomorrow. Life doesn't slow down a bit...lol.

Good morning!! Yesterday was President's Day but unfortunately I am not off work celebrating it, I have a very nasty cold I have been fighting it for a few weeks now but when I got up this morning I felt like my eyeballs were going to pop out. I am cashing in on a vacation day. My daughter finds out today if we are having a boy or girl. I am debating on driving out and just staying in the car so as not to spread my bug but still able to be there and find out. I am cautious of the spam thing too. I have accepted one or two friends that burned my PM up with referral links and such. I don't think that would have bothered me as much except that it was the only reason they were here. They never started or responded to discussions. It was just a way to try and promote something else. I actually didn't get a bit of snow in my area. It snowed all around me and all we got was dust here..LOL. I don't know if I think of it as lucky or not. I would like to see just one snow here this year...maybe. Here is a link about that holiday we had yesterday. My daughter was out of school but I had to work. http://usparks.about.com/od/historicalparks/a/Presidents-Day.htm

It was a while before I started sending them out too. I have found the same thing to be true with the no prior activity. I hate not to accept someone but at the same time I like to see that they want to be active here and not just out to land potential customers or referrals. It wouldn't even be that bad if they were active here too and not just out for that. Thanks for responding!

Heyya GavinKaos! Great to see you! I can understand, on one hand, about wanting to branch out and be prepared before starting. I started not knowing anyone and it was really tough for a while. I would have really liked having some friends to get started with. I guess I would just like to see a couple of their responses to others at least. I have had some that have spammed the fire out of me which wouldn't have been near as bad if they had been active on here too. I also befriended someone once and the next thing I knew, they were flaming everyone. That was a heart breaker for sure. Thanks for responding and I hope you have been well.

Me either shibham. I am not about collecting friends. I like the experience of learning and developing relationships among the people here. I guess I just wonder that without any activity at all...what would make them choose me or anyone as a friend? Hmmm...maybe we will get a first response out of a previous no activity member and find out. Thanks for responding!

Hi thesids! Friendships here are very important to me too. I would just die if I accepted someone and they ended up being nasty to one of my other friends or if they spammed me versus being active on the site. I like to look at their profile and check out some of their posts before deciding to befriend them. Even if they had just one it would make me feel better about it. I have a lot of friends on my list but I don't think that even a tenth of them are active. There are some that I am waiting on to come back too. Every few months I try to go through and take off the ones I am pretty sure are never coming back but there are some that I was close to and just can't bear to take them off. Thanks for responding!

Hi louievill! You right about currently active members disappearing. I hate it when that happens. I think its nice that you give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I am a little more cautious when it comes to accepting friendships. I guess I would just like to know a little about them..even if it's only two or three posts. Thanks for sharing!

Oh...don't get me wrong. I love new users and will do anything I can to help them out. I guess I would just like to see a couple of posts or responses to get a little bit of an idea of who they are first. Thanks for responding!

That has been my experiences too. That is one of the reasons why I am cautious about the 0 activity thing too. Thanks for responding!

I think that there can be alot learned from being able to follow the discussions from someone that's been here a while. There are members here that I learn a lot from when I first started and they helped me so much. Thanks for responding!

Oh Jo! It is so good to see you!!! I miss you a ton! You better be getting better or I might have to come over there and nurse you back to health. I have been worried about you. My daughter is doing well...I'm becoming more comfortable with the fact she is not living with me anymore too..that's not to say I don't want her to though. It's a girl! We found out today. I like checking them out too. It gives me an idea of who they are before accepting them. I have not always been so careful but there is so much spamming and flaming that has happened in the past that I just can't help but be careful. Thanks for stopping in! I hope to see more of you!

Oh...me either. I accepted a friend request once and the next thing I knew they were flaming everyone. I usually like to check out some of their previous responses now before accepting. Thanks for the input!

I try to help the new mylotters too. I actually love to meet new people on here, but my experiences with spam and people who only come for a week or two has made me a little cautious. Thanks for the response.