Being Depressed and wanting some form of attention.

That is a very normal problem, I think everybody, specially mothers like you had experienced that kind of feeling at one point in their life. Maybe you feel you are not fulfilled fully. Why not plan a vacation for the whole family, just try to manage between your busy schedule specially your husband's. It would be nice to spend time with your family for a day without thinking other things but your family.

Hi blpthomas, i do understand your feeling cause we are somewhat the same, i work at night since i'm on night shift,comes home to take my older son to school while the other one still sleeping, then do the chores, try to sleep for an hour or two then again wake up to attend to my younger son. my husband work day shift. sometimes we don't see each other since our time is different..sometimes we see each other while i'm waiting for cab to work while he just got out of the cab to go home.. But i don't feel depressed, you know why.. cause love is sacrifice..i always keep in mind that this happen because the responsibility of being a parent is in front of us. What you do for your family is all for love, you don't need something in return cause you may not see it or hear it but i know your family is thankful especially your husband for being there while he is out. YOU JUST MISS you HUSBAND that is why, but don't let this depressed you cause it may result to a fight. try to enjoy the time provided to you to serve your family..I know your husband misses you too..

maybe you're not being selfish,you're just looking for some attention..women are very emotional at some point in life when it comes to relationship especially in long distance relationship.So i advice you that whenever you feel depressed,you pray to God to give you some guidance,give you some strength to handle things.he is the only one who can help you.

blpthomas ..Venting is good...and can often help in overcoming depression. Many of us have felt stuck and in a rut as you seemed to describe. I can only encourage you to keep trying to come out of it...Exercise helps me a lot...as does eating right and just a lot of positive self-talk. When I was at my lowest, I used to look for stories of people who had it worse..at one point I was comforted by reading of women in concentration camps..lol sounds silly now..but it worked... God bless you..and speaking of God, He will help if you ask, just maybe not right away..just keep trying..and good luck AND..wwlcome to myLot ..this is a wonderful place to vent and share with others...

i understand. people under estimate the time and effort it takes being a stay at hime mum. its like you look afta the children, cook, clean, do the washing, etc etc and at the end of the day you havnt got anything to show for it. and the next day it starts all over again. im 20 and i have 2 daughters. they are 2 and 10 months. its hard work and i dont get the chance to do much else apart from being there mum. if your children are in school you could try a part time job. maybe earning some money for your self will make you regain some of your independance and boost your confidence. good luck!

It's totally fine to feel that way. Somehow we women need affirmation, a little appreciation from your husband and kids will make your day better. It feels good to hear your doing a good job everyday.

Sorry for how you are feeling. This happens quite often especially if your are used to having your husband around then suddenly something crop up and you do not see him again. I suggest to you to try and find time that you can spend together when he is available. I think your husband is working hard for your and your children and what he needs most is support and appreciation. Try to join some groups/community that will keep you busy during the day so as to avoid spending time alone. I have a friend whose husband works with RedCross Logistic department and he is only around once in a month. My friend was depressed during the early days but with time she got used to it.

Well, life is a fight, you have many things in your life and surely lots of work to do, you accomplished things and still work hard for them, there are people which don't have those things and wish for them. There's always someone in a worse situation than yours, just be happy with what you have, regarding your problem though, did you try to take a vacation? Just tell your husband to take some days off sometimes, a little day just for you and him each month perhaps? So you'd work hard and wouldn't be depressed by looking foward to that "day". Work is important, lots of people don't even have one, but work is not everything, you just live once after all, so just balance the two things together and you'll be fine.