why people love to talk behind the backs of others?

Hi. there are only two reasons for talking behind back. 1. Jealousy and 2. Envy. Talking behind back is a sign of weaker people. And if someone starts caring about it, makes him/her weaker too. I think people who can't set their life right or obsessed with their own life's problems always talk about others looking for their flaws, that's what make them happy. (I do not understand, how???) How somebody else problem can make you happy???? That's so gibberish to me. I,myself, like to keep things straightforward and its better to speak or tell face to face than talking behind back like a B***h would(in rap terminology):). Hate such suckers and its better to avoid such people no matter how close they try to pretend. I have learnt from my experiences of life, one who talks to you about flaws of others, sooner, or later, will definitely talk about you behind your back some day. Such people are never trustworthy. They always pretend to show a positive feeling for you but deep in their hearts they are always negative. I have met hell of them. But I like to keep them suckers along with me, to burn them more in their jealousy. Let them suckers burn because such dumb-a** can never realize what happiness means to life. This is a nice discussion. Rapper 2pac once said "Real men do what they wanna do, b***h men do what they never can, so keep your head up and do your thang and let them haters burn". Tupac R.I.P.

Hi friend, i am not interested in this kind of gossiping activities as well as never hear this kind of stuff. I will keep distance from gossiping persons, some people are interested in making ills about others and spreading it to others. But this kind of persons forget that other's can make some gossips about them.

The reason is they cannot tell it to you directly. It is either they are scared or they are afraid to hurt you. People here on earth have different personality. Some people are shy and they cannot tell it directly to the person or they are afraid to tell the truth. Some people are very frank that even they hurt you; they do not care as long as they tell the truth rather to talk to you behind your back. That is all I want to say, so if you look for a friend, find friends that are compatible to your personality and character, and choose a friend that has a personality and character you like.

After experiencing such things I am now convinced it is human nature to talk pleasingly when one is present and differently when one is not present. I consciously try to avoid such a behaviour but am not sure how others perceive me. How about you? Incidentally how is life in Bulgaria? where is it? what is the main occupation of people over there?

Talking behind the back of others might be easier because they cant bite you back if they do not like what you are talking about them. When you are talking behind the back of other sometimes it means that you care for that person that if you talk something about him/her, it might hurt his/her feeling but at the same time you have to tell somebody, maybe to release your frustrations or you are hoping that the person to whom you are talking is more courageous than you and tel your concern to that particular person. There are many reasons why we talk behind the backs of others. Sometimes we do not like them and we have to voice out our opinion to verify if it is just you or others dont like him/her too. If you are just being judgmental or there is really something that needs to be done or corrected.

We are social creatures.

wELL i don't know why o why there is such thing... People are fond of talking behind your back and i am nnot cleaning my hands with that for sometimes i can talk about someone behind their back unintentionally but still not good, i am trying always not to backbite at people, specially when i talk about misjudging them really not a good habit to tolerate with. i also don't really understand why it is so common to people anywhere in the world to easily talk behind their back specially thse negative aspect of their side.

That is the very human thing to do. Most people are passive aggressive. They will not confront when there is a problem, but will tell others about whatever is going on. It may be the truth, or their version of the truth, but it could be ironed out if they would just talk things out face to face. Very few people are actually confrontists. They want to keep the peace and pretend there is no rift going on between them and the other person, but when the other person finds out they have been the topic of conversation, it can be very hurtful and even aggravating.

I think those who likes to talk behind people is those that dont want you to be better, even if you did wrong, they wont tell you face to face, and they are waiting for the chance to hurt you just to talk behind you in front of others. If those really want you to be good, they will straightly talk in front of you, and they will tell you what wrong had you done, because they really take you as friend.

Sometimes I do that! maybe because I don't want her to hurt her. And sometimes she pretend that it is not true.. She's playing safely so I can't direct her for the things that I want to clear about her and the topic that I want to be discussed.

Long answer short: It is because they enjoy talking about someones problems (by the way I don't know why that is), but also they knowit is bad, so they talk about that person when he or she is not arroud.

I am wondering this question too. Maybe these people do not have courage to face their competitors. And I think it is better not to think about the whisper.

backstabbers are good at it. It happened to me to too, unfortunately with my sister in law... jealousy is one of the reason behind it.

People like to talk beside the person because this is a formality. People doesn't want to hurt another its also a reason. And people want to keep their image so they like to talikng beside or backside

Ha ha, you're right. It is human nature. I think all people that there is such a problem. Like others in the back to talk about, but dare not face to face said. This is also one of the false side, selfish side. Happy every day!

People talk behind people's back because they are hypocrites and sometimes just plain bad minded in their outlook.A honest person or true friend won't do that.It is something the world will never get rid of.So it is best if people just learn to appreciate the true and ignore the false.

Every person do have their own reason. Some would talk behind the back of others because they're annoyed or insecure with the existence of that person. Some can't talk directly it's because they're afraid that relationship might get ruined.

Hello Neza, They do it because they don't have the courage to say it in face of that person secondly they are afraid if they talk it in face of the person their relationship may be ruined.Moreover they don't have anything to talk with the people so they just gossip about others.Really its a bad habit and one must not do that.

Maybe because, most people like to do it that way where they can focus and express their true feelings from the person. If they talk in front to the person they loved, they can not express their coming from their heart and somehow they felt quite disturbed looking at their lover's faces I guess.

It's not about courage, it's about jelousy or they just have nothing else better to do and they enjoy spending time that way. But don't worry, it's a chain effect, people that talk behind the backs of others get also talked about their backs. It happens just to about everyone, the secret is not caring, because if you do care, you'll get affected by it, it'll ruin your mood, your health, and is that worth it? I don't think so. Just be happy with what you are and what you do, don't depend from other people's judgement.