Will children hate their parents for absenting during their growup time?

That would be unfair for your father, he works so he sustain your financial needs and it just so happen that he need to work in a far, I guess you are just saying that you hate your father is because you really miss him and you want to ask you needed him s much as his money, but if you are trying to say is that you actually hate him because he never came back from working and made a new family from a far, but I think that is another story and you should hate him if he did that to you.

I believe that the presence of a father is very crucial in terms of a growing son, especially if you are a boy, a father should guide through your growth into becoming a man, about the financial needs, a father should strive not to be so far away in their children, he should have look for alternattive job.

This could be explained by those whose childhood time was without their parents. They certainly knows for sure how it feels being away from parents while they needed parents' care and attention.

It would be hard growing up without a parent to live with or to be by your side/support you. Kids become lonely very easily. I know that my mom left my dad (and me and my sister) when I was 12. I am somewhat close with her now, but man - during those adolescent years - I was bitter, resentful, and ANGRY all the time at her. I no longer have "mommy issues" - I love my mom, and she left my dad for a reason. (I love my dad too, so, nothing against him personally..) It was better that way for me, I guess, because looking back, I'd rather have them separated than together and always fighting - THAT is scarring when you're a kid, too. I guess I hold no ill wills toward anyone in my family. You should try it. I mean, I guess your dad, if he left you guys to work in the city, he was trying to provide for you and look out for you - does that not grant him some kind of appreciation? I would suggest letting go of your anger. It is not healthy for you, I'm thinking.

Well all of my life my dad would go out of two for weeks he was never gone longer then that. But I never hated him because he was gone. I knew even at a young age he was gone not because he wanted to be gone but because he loved his family and wanted to provide for us. My mom nearly never left out of town for work. As I got older she worked more and was gone more and going to school as well. So did my dad he went back to school to. But even though they where doing things after school they always tried to make it to our actives at least one of them. Never even if we went a day or two with out seeing on of my parents did me and my brother feel they didn't love us or want us or that we didn't need them. Different children will feel differently about there parents being gone all of the time. When I was 15 my dad was gone for a year with work in a different state my mom was always working so I took care of myself most then because both of my brothers where in college. With my dad gone for a year I did really miss him and miss he seeing me do the things I loved doing but I always knew he was just a phone call away even if I just need him for a second to tell him how my day was he was there in spirit for me.

I did not hate my parents,because my parents work at other place for me and my family,so for me,there is no reason to hate

No one can hate their parents just because they dont stay with you, you miss them a lot, a lot of hurt feelings when you others along with their family, but then it for your well being that he is out to work and earn... just because your father works away from your home, you should not hate him, but that also depends on whether he has spent a quality time with you whenever he was with you...hope that did not happen and that is the reason for your frustration

What happens to the child when both parents leave? Are the children left to take care of themselves? In rural area why cant they grow their own food?

I understand your feeling. I know kids wants their parents to be with them especially with function or school events. They want their parents to share every special events in their life. And if their parents is not there, they feel envy for other kids who have their parents with them always. But, you have to understand your father's situation as well. He is not working for himself alone. Don't you think it is easy for him to leave you and seldom sees you? It's not easy for a parent to stay away from his family- it's a sacrifice. You may fully understand about this once you become a parent yourself.

HATE, not maybe.. Maybe they just missed u when u are not with them in their moments.. they take it a way like they hate.

Hello Dandan, Hating your father for this reason i think is unfair as he has gone out of hometown to earn for you people you must realize it and imagine how much hard he would have made his heart for staying away from his kids.No doubt kids always want their parents to stay with them.I would not hate my parents if they had stayed away for this reason though i might not be that close to my parents then.

i understand your frustration with the condition. I feel the same way because during my teen age both my parents are busy working. Never done a birthday celebration etc... but none of this were your parents fault. It's because (in my opinion) modern life and family just doesn't mix. We all need money for our kids and family, and to have money we need to work, but at the same time while we're working, we left our family behind. It's like circle of hell where everything you do is wrong. That's why i probably won't build a family of my own unless i can figure out how i can be with my family and working at the same time.

mAYBE IT DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION........iF PARENTS ARE WORKING ABROAD FOR THEIR LIVES,AND THEY SEND FINANCES TO THEIR CHILDREN, OF COURSE THEIR KIDS WONT HATE THEM.........tHIS WOULD MEAN THAT EVEN HOW FAR THEY TO THEIR FAMILY, PARENTS STILL THINK AND CARE FOR THEM ESP, TO THEIR FUTURE,.,sO THERES NO NEED TO HATE THEM, BUT INSTEAD LOVE THEM AND PRAY THEM FOR THEY ARE SO FAR WITH THEIR KIDS.

I can't blame the children if they will feel that they are not important to their parents because of lack of time. Children who are below adolescent are not capable to fully understand the hardwork and sacrifices that their parents are doing for them. But it is not right to hate the parents, they are working so very hard to give their children a good future. Proper explanation and finding time to spend with your children will help to ease the situation.

It really depends. Sometimes the kids would understand the parent is doing what was needed to provided for them. My father was completely absent from my life, I never seen him since I was 5. I would take seeing a father from time to time due to work over a father who was never around.