Has a friend ever started a discussion so disturbing that you deleted them?

Hi JenInTN As I mentioned on your other discussion - I am choosy, selective and critical of the friends I make, and possessive too... That is too much and at times contradictory for me, I guess I have this friend who called me money freak one day. I felt bad. Then there is another who keeps posting stuff to me which means nothing but is hurtful at times as I just dont get what she tries to convey via her responses... Now, two ways - I either tell them to mend (I am sure they will NOT as I know I mean nothing to them) and the Other - Leave their friendship (this is the last resort if things dont change and I dont want to take that last step, as I know they are people with a lower mentality, will not refrain from negging and lodging wars - not that I care a bit about them but I do want peace in my time here. I see no reason to start fights, disharmony and other things - so prefer to stay with them). So what I have done is - Start Avoiding them. Over time, they will be forgotten as friends and also they will have no hassles or places to start flaming. So I see this (avoiding them) as a better alternative than merely removing them. And yes, I am harsh too. I ended my friendship with one who who thought she can take me for granted. She said something which I never had thought, I tried to explain, but she was adamant and unwilling to even listen. Other common friends tried to explain it was her fault and mis-interpretation but she will not understand. Too much for my simple brain and heart... I said Goodbye. But that was about a year or more back. Today I have matured and learned the tricks better... have to behave diplomatically I guess (quite unlike me when it comes to friendship). There are some friends though with whom I can share anything via PM or even discussions (like you, pergy and many more) and I am sure there will be no such mis-interprtations between us anytime.

Not really so far! I never any encountered any discussion started by any of my friends on this site because which I had to delete from my friends list! Like you said, I too believe in freedom of expression and I pay due respect and regard to it! Every one does have an freedom of speech and expressing one self on such social sites! They can express that! Now it is up to us to accept the views expressed by them or not! Since we are human beings with different temperament and taste we may not agree with others every time and similarly we may not expect others to agree with our views!I am very clear in expressing my views as a response t any discussion! I clearly mention in a polite language if I am agreeing to the discussion or not with legitimate and logical reasons! So far I never got any adamant or furious reaction from any of my friend where we had difference of opinion! Thus I feel that every one has the liberty to express their views and I personally feel that we should regard their views and if required they can be contradicted in a decent manner! Thanks for the interesting topic of discussion! I liked participating in it!

No, I've never done that, but I did delete someone from my friends list because they made a comment to me that I thought was uncalled for. I did think about other options first, but decided this was the best route to go as I didn't want to give them the satisfaction of doing it again. Apparently it worked as they never did do it again. (Okay, so I understand that doing this doesn't necessarily work, but I didn't see any way around it at the time...at least not without leaving a few comments of my own. ) Anyway, I didn't see the discussion in question, but no, I don't think you're wrong. If you aren't comfortable with their discussions it's probably best to delete them from your friends list. It may not prevent you from seeing all of their discussions in the future, but at least you don't have to worry about them landing in your inbox anymore.

Hmmm, must have been pretty bad to delete your friend. I actually have only deleted a couple, (not counting the ones who won't stop sending me spam) and it wasn't because of what they start, but because they come into my discussions and make rude comments, not enough to get deleted, but enough to push my buttons..I know by deleting them they can still reply to my posts, but they can't be notified whenever I start a post and they can't send me messages.. Now I also have a couple friends who make posts that can be offending, but if it gets to be too much, I can always turn the notification off, because especially now with my classes, I barely have time to view my friends in my inbox, let alone my friends with the notification turned off.

I have never yet deleted anyone off my list BUT I do not consider them all as friends, in the real meaning of the definition of 'friend'. I feel that myLot should have considered a different term for that list. I saw the discussion that you mention and responded there too. That user is on my list and is one of the reasons that I dislike the term 'friend list'. I shall not remove them, though they may make the decision to delete me from their list when they see my response as it was not a pleasant one

I deleted only one friend who did not stop asking for money. He wasn't poor ,he just wanted a luxury life.

Hi Jen, I am apalled by wanton cruelty to animals too, so I don't think that you over-reacted. I haven't actually deleted a friend because I have never come across such a conversation before, but I would do so. If they are bragging of such cruelty, they are laying themselves wide open to prosecution as I believe in most countries it is illegal. _Derek

I don't delete friends just for not agreeing on my topic. We have different opinions here and we are only expressing our thoughts. If someone do not agree we must respect them for they will respect us too. That's why we have different stories here because we want to point out each and every ones opinion.

I think I have removed someone from my friends' list before because they seem to be very insensitive and abusive. I hope I never have to that again.

JenInTn Yes just once but it was more personal. in your case I really do not blame you. I am also apalled and sickened at hearning this. I am a dog and a cat lover. I cannot imagine anything a cat could do that wou ld make me stop so low as to poison it. That is so ugly and so in humane it makes my stomach tie in knots.No I do not think you were wrong at all. I know I wou ld surely have done the same. I would not want to be friends with someone who would deliberately poison a cat. that is gross and ugly and wrong.

I am pretty much the same way. Appalled and offended? Poisoning a cat is very disturbing. A nuisance huh? No, I have never deleted a 'friend' for any reason other than scamming me too much. I wouldn't want to be on their list any longer either. And taking them off your list shows you don't condone such things.

I have never deleted any friend in mylot. And no one has started any discussion that annoys me. Even if someone start disturbing discussion, i will not delete them from friend list, Actually I don't know who all are my friends here.. Have many friends here

That is a pretty disturbing discussion and I probably would've done the same. I'm usually pretty picky about my friends on myLot to begin with and that discussion would've sent me over the edge. I know myLot is a place where we try not to be rude to people and be as friendly as possible. But to me, that is animal cruelty and I don't know why anyone would post that in the first place. A few weeks ago, one of my myLot friends posted about how they thought gay marriage was wrong and asked people what their views were. Even though I'm not gay, I'm still supportive of gay marriage because I believe that people should be happy in life. I was a little offended by the discussion when I saw it. I respect peoples' rights to their opinion, but when a topic is controversial like that, I don't think myLot is really the place for it.

I don't think there is a right or wrong opinion here. We can all choose our friends here. We can start or end the friendship at any time. I am not a judgemental person at all either. I try not to start discussions about other mylotters because if they see it, it could be hurtful. I know because in the past it was done to me like I was not going to see it or something... Lol However, I think I would have deleted them too. Saying they poisoned an animal is a very cruel thing. I absolutely love animals so this is horrible to me!!! I would choose not to be their friend too. Some people can be cruel to animals and I don't understand it at all. Animals cannot communicate their pain and it makes me sad...This person should be LOCKED up that poisoned their pet!

I believe I probably have deleted for that reason. Honestly, I do not remember. I know that culturally things are different, but I do not support those actions either.I am not sure what they could have done about the situation, though. I have also deleted people that spam me, and people who never start anything I can respond to, or who seem to be getting their discussions from somewhere else. It is your option to be friends with whoever you choose.

Its always up to you to keep or delete a person You did what you felt was right for you!

Hi Jen, Though I have not deleted any one so far only because their discussion hit my conscience but I have avoided certain people who post discussion almost similar to what you read. Of course, there is no point to be happy to poisoned a cat to kill and to make it public. They did it, they did it and should not have produced in the form of a discussion. People like you are there who are too sensitive and it could disturb the psyche of theirs. We, the members need to consider one thing here is that this is not a confined room for a few people. This is a global platform and all people ae not alike. we have to think about the likings and not likings of those people too. No, Jet, you did not do any bad job deleting them from your friends' list. After all they are there and you would not be able to stand them any longer. Besides, there is personal choice also.

The intensity with which one gets affected by the doings of others decides the steps that one takes to cut them off from one's life. Being an animal lover that was the only way you could punish this 'friend' of yours. I have thrown people from my real life with no remorse whatsoever as they deserve to be thrown out and so what's the big deal in deleting a virtual friend Jen...

No, I've never deleted a friend for starting a disturbing discussion, but had I seen them promoting animal abuse, I would not only have removed them as a friend, but I would have reported them to the administration of the website as well.

I haven't experienced this before. I respect other's opinion. If they have a discussion that I don't like, I will ignore it and never bother to join in the discussion. What I've experienced before was I deleted a friend because he was so annoying. He made a lot of discussions in a day. He was spamming my inbox in my email. I was irritated that why I deleted him from my friend's list.