Advice for a long time complicated relationship!

Sounds to me like they are already married, in Canada by law, if they were to now go their separate ways, it would just as if they were married. So, the only thing that is missing in this faux marriage is the blessings of the family, and the little piece of paper that says you are now officially a married couple. I think it would be best if she stopped asking when, and started asking why not, it could cause more trouble then it is worth, Love is more powerful then marriage anyway. Many people don't even know their spouse before they are married. Best of Luck to you, and your friend.

the condition in your friends relationship is really very complicated.and the giving advice in that case is also a very difficult.but from your discussion one thing i can understand that your friend's boyfriend love his family also that is why he always denied for marriage.because he is not so confident to face his family after the marriage.so tell your friend first to sort out the problem belonging to his family.

your friend's relationship is very complicated. i think that guy is not truthful to her. if he was truthful,he would have married her. he is not even ready to say the reason for not marrying her. it is better for your friend to come out of that relationship.

If she wants to be married then she will have to find someone else to do it with. This man is playing with her constantly telling her sometime in the future and never doing it. It is not going to happen. It doesn't mean she has to stay with him just because they have children together. If she wants marriage and he does not then she should look for someone that does want the same things she wants. There is no reason for anyone to stay with someone just because they have kids together if they want different things out of life. I would tell her to make herself happy.

I wish I can talk to your friend. Does she myLot? Hehehe. Whatever I say in the next few lines, the final decision will still be hers. From the way you are describing the situation, I could only assume that the only thing stopping the guy from marrying the girl is the disapproval of the guy's family. The thing is, if the guy loves his OWN family, meaning your friend and their kids, then he should know his priorities, and nothing on earth should hold him back to make a decision. Not his father, not his mother, not his brother or sister, unless of course your friend is a criminal. See this is a problem with a lot of people. Some tend to think that you have to please everybody. Whether the guy admits it or not, he couldn't marry your friend simply because he doesn't have approval from his family. When you go into a relationship, and you start making your own family, you will need to realign your priorities. I guess what I'm saying here is that the guy is a coward. If he couldn't fight for his own family, then the best thing to do is send him back to his parents, who he can't seem to disappoint. At this point in time of his life, he should've known the obvious decision.

I am sorry about that. It doesn't have a good effect on both the wife and the children, knowing that the father doesnt have a decision to marry his wife. And I should say that he doesnt love your friend that much, unless the guy is very rich, and afraid that his wife's reason for marrying him is only his money. But still if the guy love his family not his parent's family he would do marry the mother of his kids.

Hi myzhian.. I personally don't believe in marriage, and weddings Its just a piece of paper given to you and your partner, something that binds them together. But the thing about marriage is not a paper, its life, its love and its commitment. well if they have kids I guess they should get married because the children will be illegitimate. if they are living for about 1 years I guess the guy should stand up for his family, and be man and introduce his wife to his family no matter how complicated it is.. unless the guy won't do those things, I bet it will never happen too soon.

Both should discuss the marriage topic. If they don't know where they stand there will be little hope for the relationship to last much longer. Marriage is a two way street.

If they still not marriage yet better to cool off than to make the situation worse. That way will be given them to realize the real feelings that they have. Enter to a relationship with misunderstanding is very complicated. Love should not be a burden with anyone but everyone...

Has your friend asked her bf why he doesn't want to marry her Has he given her a reson, is it because of his parents? Maybe your friend should ask him the reason for not wanting to marry and see what his response is. If she isn't feeling any commitment from him then I say that she should leave him but because she has 2 kids with him, it is very difficult to be a single parent. Also, they have been living together for so long now it is same as getting married without the paper certificate so if she is happy living with him then does she really need to get married to him...

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