Loving my mother.
By ZRData1723
@ZRData1723 (14)
United States
February 23, 2012 7:19pm CST
I love my mother, but i have to admit that sometimes i wish i live far away from her. My mother is a person that she helps all of the kids, but when it comes down to her grandchild there's only one that matters the most, the thing is that she'll let all the other ones know.
I guess she think she's doing a good thing, but really she's not. I can't tell her nothing cause every time i try i end up with my feelings hurt, and it's like she can care less.
What gets me real mad is that all the other grandchild knows the different. And if someone try to treat the special one bad, that's not fare for him. so we always back and for with the situation. So i will appreciate if someone can tell me or have any idea of how should i deal with this situation that i don't like being in.
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6 responses
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Feb 12
ZRDATA; welcome to mylot. Perhaps you hail from India. I am telling like this because similar problems arise here.
As daughter of your mother you expect your mother to take of your child when you wnat --repeat when you want --you do not want her to poke her nose when you do not want--
your mother feels that she has done enough for you --she wants you to progress -- but she cannot commit herself fully.
Expect less from your mother--your expectations are more because you think that you and your children deserve more. allow her to be what she is. let her do whatever she can balance you do it yourself.
good day.
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@ZRData1723 (14)
• United States
24 Feb 12
I love my mo the way she is. The only problem i have is that she shows more love and attention to my older nephew and no attention what so ever to the other 10 grandchilds that she has. I have 2 girls and the same affection i show one i show the other. I just think that she is making the same mistake she mad with us. while raising us she was always more closer to the older and still is, and the rest no attention at all.
But i love my mother, and i will always be there for her when ever she needs me.
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
24 Feb 12
As the grand kids get older they will probably accept how she is, just as you do. It is important you do not make the same mistakes with your two, and it seems you are not. If she does not think she made mistakes with you she will not believe she is making a mistake with her grand kids.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Feb 12
This is a universal problem. When I was young my mother use to complain to my grand mother--that she is not showing enough affection to us. There was reason -- my aunts were richer than us and automatically my grand mother felt proud and happy and showering affection more to them. After a few days we got used to it. this is how it has to be.
thanks for your response. I can see that you like/love your mother so much.
@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Other than telling her the truth, that it is hurting all the others, I do not know what to say to you. Do you have children? Do you make sure they get to visit your mom when the other grand kids are not around.
@ZRData1723 (14)
• United States
24 Feb 12
I have 2 girls. I was taking them in a daily basic to see my mom, the thing is that now my older nephew lives with my mom. Last time i took my girls to see my mom i have to get out of the house in less then an hour, i bought some stuff that my girls wanted and since i didn't came back with something for him i couldn't stay in the house. Cause it was not fare that i bought my girls something and came back with nothing for him.
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Oh, I see it gets complicated. My cousin who is younger than me seemed to always be the favorite. She and her mom eventually lived on the property with my grandparents. When it was Christmas or anything else she always got the biggest and best presents, but in many ways it was people feeling sorry for her and spoiling her because her parents were divorced.
@wqdayang (137)
• China
24 Feb 12
You love your mother and your mother love the kids,that's no matter about that,but there is a very important disagreement between you and your mother,that is howw to take a good care of the kids and make them grow healthy,I think you had better talk about this face to face to get a agreement about that with your mother,take it easy and don't angry with your mother,for that may cause the things worse.I hope the situation can become better.God bless you.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Feb 12
ZRdata-- You yourself know that this problem has solution within yourselves. We have to start feeling that we are being treated well by others. the moment we get a feeling that we are not cared for we find reasons for not being happy.
py.@ZRData1723 (14)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Thank you! I have try many, many times to talk to her face to face. She don't get the point. i have record the way she acts to the other kids to see if she reacts. like i don't know what else to do. she's always making the other kids feel less important to her. And it don't matter what i tell them, they think she don't love them.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I hope you'll have the courage to tell your mom how you feel and discuss to her what is significant for you. Be open to her and i do hope she has broaden mind, if she's not then that's a big problem. I know soon , you'll feel fine..
are you living in the same roof?if yes, then better to find ways to live with your kids..
Before I forgot, I would like to welcome you here in mylot!
Welcome to the world of fun..Enoy and feel free to post discussions and respond..
see you here!Godbless
@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I remeber my mother with this qoute who was already in heaven.Istill love her in any ways....She is my inspiration inlife.I do love her and remeber her memories that weve shared will always be recorded in my mind.
