Cheating Husband

There is a saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. That saying is true maybe 80% of the time. Mainly because some people do in fact change. However, not to be too logical or not understanding. If he is cheating now, he was cheating before they married. I truly doubt he just picked up cheating suddenly during the marriage. There has to be something she is doing wrong as well, not cheating, but something he is looking for or missing. Most people cheat because their relationship is seriously lacking in one department like if a woman cheats with a man who listens to her and gives her affection because her husband doesn't give her the amount she needs. If she lets him go work or agrees to it, she will end up, in my opinion, causing a stressful home life for her daughter. Children are smart and they pick up things easily whether parents hide it or not and no matter how old they are. If my husband cheated on me once, I would expect him to do it again. At that point it would be about can I handle it if he does it again.

I don't think I would stay with him after he cheated with me, even "for the kids", i wouldn't. Kids are pretty perceptive, they can generally tell when there are ill feelings or tension in the air. (They're pretty smart). My trust would have been lost. I'm sure hers is, so I bet if she allows him to work abroad, she will drive herself crazy thinking about all the opportunity he will have to be unfaithful...

This would be a decision that would be very difficult for me to make because I would think that the issues would need to be worked out. However, I also know of many relationships that are still together several decades later where one of the spouses worked in a state that was far away from the family's home. I believe that it is only because the two adults didn't see each other all the time that the relationships have been able to withstand the test of time.

If I were in her shoes I wouldn't want him to be working overseas. There would be to many issues at hand. Having him work overseas would only make things worse and lower the communication. He should be thinking about strengthening his family relationship instead of finances. He might not have a family to come home to if he starts working overseas. Communication is very important in a successful relationship it is vital in one that is facing issues.

try to fix the issues before he leave, but do not stop him. However she hold him, it will always be up with the man if he behave abroad or not. I do not believe that there are perfect marriages. Older couple are still together because most of the time, the woman forgive and forget and continue accepting and loving the better half. if she is like that, then the marriage may survive but never expect that the man will behave 200%. Most men no matter how they adore their wife, will get involve with someone for a night or so. Some men are good in hiding this secret and with the help of a "well-oriented" significant other. I don't go for second chances because if he did one time, it will happen again maybe secretly and u will b torturing your feeling for life. cheated while with her- Plan abroad-going homesick-longing-a normal man= cheating again. I am just saying both sides. But don't stop him for doing what he want. x's: I am giving my side because I was once a mistress...and the man deeply love his wife but he wanted me. It's an own experience.

If I were in the wife's shoe, for practical reasons, I would definitely allow my husband to work abroad. This would help my family have a comfortable living and brighter future for my kids and at the same time being away to my husband would serve as a test for us, for our relationship. If he will change and would be forever faithful during his work abroad then I would definitely accept him again with arms wide open, but if he will cheat me again abroad then would without second thought annul our marriage. I believe time can heal the wounds but I also believe that everything changes, thus I will leave the decision to our destiny.

Well there is no other way better than to patch things up first and settle their relationship before leaving to work abroad. If the case of going abroad is just to worsen their present situation just because the husband said to better their financial status, then better settle their relationship status first before leaving the country.

Hello, It is nice to hear that she is still staying in her husband though the pain is still there she is not a selfish women because she always thinks what is the best for her child. Yeah, i got your point that after times the pain will be gone and soon it will heAl but if i were in her shoes i dont think i can do what she is doing. In my opinion i will let her husband go if he really likes i will not care for him anymore because i know he will do that again so if he go through thAt i know this family will no longer survived. A lot of temptation in other country.

I think most of the people can't tolerate with cheating in a marriage, but it happens. You mentioned that they were civil in front of their kid, but they don't actually take care of the real problem between them. And this make the kid even more confuse and stress. I think they should sort out the family and marriage issues first before going any where :)