being jealous, good or bad?

I would say jealousy is okay to a certain extent for sure. When it is overboard it is no longer okay and healthy. My husband is more jealous than I am. He had a really bad childhood and was always left and no one really cared for him at all. He was used to being mistreated so that is what he has grown to expect from people all the time. He has major trust issues. He always thinks I am going to find someone else because in his mind I deserve better than him. I don't feel that way at all. He is the only one for me. It is hard to convince him that I am here for him and I love him. He hasn't really ever been loved so I guess it is just hard for him to adapt to being truly loved and cared for. I don't think he takes it too overboard though because it is not like he tells me I cannot go anywhere or anything. He just worries a little when I do...

i think is a bad thing. I have been jealous for serveral times and it was not needed.

Having a feeling of jealousy is just normal especially if your partner tends to be bias with you and he wants to look for another partner. Of course you have fallen in love to your partner. But there are times when it is not necessary to have a feeling of jealousy then that is the time that it is really bad.

I think that a certain amount of jealousy has it's place in a relationship. A person doesn't want to be overly jealous or possessive to an extreme. But it shows that we care about the person and that we want them to have feelings for only us. And that we want their attention to be towards us as well. My husband and are able to talk about people who we think are pretty or attractive when it comes to people in general or celebrities. But he never makes me feel like I'm not important or unattractive by looking at other women while we are on a date. Yes he may notice that someone is pretty, gorgeous or beautiful but he doesn't look them over like some people do. He is respectful.

Hello shrike, Jealousy of course is bad thing but till it does not harm anybody if someone is hurt by someone out of jealousy then it becomes intolerable.Jealousy is common thing and msst of the people can't resist it and if they say that they don't feel jealous of anything then i must say they lie.And if my partner sees someone else during date then its a valid reason for my jealousy and i don't think anyone wont remain not being jealous due to this.

thanks for this discussion you raise here...i even know that jealousy is a bad thing and a signs of immaturity too...sometimes i get jealous but i have been fighting for it since i knew it wont do any good to me at all...i have been jealous too but i don't want that kind of attitude would rule on me...it is not good as it leads to distraction of one relationships

Well,I've never been jealous of someone because I know I can trust my partner.For me being jealous is only bad when you overdo it.Let me give an example.I knew this guy who had a girlfriend who becomes jealous of every girl in his life including his friends,cousins, & even his mother!She always takes hold of his mobile phone & replies rudely to every girl who contacts him even if they mean no malice.Well,they broke up.It's a good thing.I think the girl's scary.

Jealousy is normal in most people, but we consider it a disease if the limit increased. Jealousy less frequently in people who have great confidence in themselves.

Well in a way it means that you care. Of course, jealousy is always a slippery slope down not a very good road. With any kind of relationship, whether it be romantic or friendship or just someone that you are casual acquaintance. It does make one wonder if the trust is really not there somewhat. It makes someone really look at the entire relationship in a completely different life. Jealously is just really something that is a very human emotion. But sadly it can really overwhelm the absolute best of us. To the point where we are struggling to really figure out if our jealousy is justified or not. And really it can lead to a stifling, rather smothering relationship if our jealousy tends to get the better of us.

I think that is a normal reaction. If my partner look at someone else, or not paying attention to me, I might feel jealous, or let out too. I might not enjoy the rest of the date. I don't know that is good or bad, at least I know that I care about my partner, and I want her to be for me only. That is how I feel at the moment.

Being jealous can be considered as a healthy emotion. I think most of us had it. But there's a saying that all that is too much is also not good.

Hello, This kind of feeling is normal especially if you are in a relationship. And it always depends On the situation itis good because it is just shown that you are really affected on your feelings. It is bad when it actually affects your relationship and you almost lost a chance of retrieving it. I experience it everyday and i really hate that though how much i am suffering from this. I hate when i am always jealous in everything i think for me this is a bad effect because i always starts a war to my. Bf and thank god he always understands me.

Jealousy definitely isn't healthy in a relationship. You need to be able to trust your partner and give them enough space to do things by themselves. I once had a really jealous girlfriend. Almost every time she saw me talking to another girl she would join in the conversation and make it extremely obvious that I was hers. She also tried to forbid me from going out without her. Obviously that didn't go over too well and I broke up with her.

it is rasional, dosn'n matter.. cause it is naturally reason if u love someone.. but u have to manage it :-)

My husband is very jealous. Whenever we meet other men he is afraid that I will become interested in them and leave him. I love my husband and I am not interested in other men, but he is very insecure and he doesn't think that he is good enough. He thinks that other men are more interesting or handsome than him. I often tell him that it isn't true and that I have chosen him because I love him, but he is still insecure and worried that I might leave him one day. He is aware that he is very jealous and he is trying to change that, but it is very difficult for him.

I do think that a little jealousy is good. I do want my boyfriend to get jealous from time to time but there is a limit of course. I guess it makes me feel good when he gets jealous sometimes and it quite cute. I do think that it is normal to be attracted to someone else even if your in a relationship. A simple crush for me is ok but that the end of it, no more. i won't believe my boyfriend if he tells me that he finds no other pretty girls than me because that is just BS.

Jealousy is, indeed, a sign of insecurity. Back in the day when I was dating, if someone showed too many signs of jealousy, I dropped the person. There's no way I am going to deal with that crap. My husband and I were older when we married; he has many colleagues of both sexes, works with them all day. I've always had a few male friends. Because we knew each other we trusted each other - jealousy says, "I don't trust you." Oh,sure, there are those who will say, "I trust you - just not all those guys (or girls) around you," but the truth is, if the person trusted you he or she would know you wouldn't succumb to another person if you were serious about your relationship. And if you did - if you aren't engaged or married - well, no one else owns another person. anyway, jealous is immature and childish. Adults are not consumed with jealousy. Envy, on occasion. Jealousy belongs in the realm of sibling rivalry and other childhood memories.

Always remember that too much is not good. Getting jealous is not bad if you are in right timing and you can control the situation. If you let your emotions controls you, then you would say something you shouldn't say because of madness and jealousy that you will regret.