Is it worth it to work?

First of all, I would like to take the defense of the SAHM which you criticize. I am also a SAHM, and babysit 2 other children for income. I feel that it is great way to be available for my family and still be earning income to help with expenses. For more than 10 years, I worked in the corporate world feeling as if what I was doing didn't really matter in the long run scheme of things. It was also causing me undue medical issues i.e. anxiety from too much stress. My husband and I finally decided that I should come home. So for more than a year now, I've been working from home with my own small business as a virtual assistant and as a wellness educator, in addition to babysitting. Trust me when I say that there is no less work involved watching children than there is working at a corporate job. Most days I'm more tired at the end of the day than I ever was when I used to come home from the office, with the exception of stress. Honestly, you should never underestimate the power of being your own boss. If you feel that you're in a neverending cirle in your corporate job, maybe its time to explore other options...instead of just criticizing what other people are doing.

That's the problem occasionally when there are people who can make use of loopholes in the welfare system of the society. It's supposed to provide help to those who are really in need. However, if too many people make use of this loophole, then there will be not enough taxes to collect for this welfare expense and the whole system will just breakdown and the country becomes poor.

With the sound of it, I think you might not be enjoying your job. You might see a friend happy with her life but probably because she is happy with what she is doing. If your work is related to something you actually love doing, you wont be thinking the same way as you are thinking now.

cjfoust look i thinkyou have answered your own questions.the person yuou are jealous of may not have it as rosy as you think and the nomnebnt the children are of age she will ha ve to find a job and she is not trained at all. no look the grass is alway greener on the other side of the fence but what of moral values.You know you are not cheating in any way and she may be. if she is and she gets caught she will go to prison and her kids will be farmed out. amd the state health insurance is for bare essentials. no her life is no all roses.If you were not so busy worrrying about what she has and you do not have, you might realize and be glad for what you do have. stewing about her is not helping you in any way.Jealousy has never helped anyone to make more money or changed anything, forget her and concentrate on what you could do to make your own life better.For one thing you might think of changing your health insuracne so you do not have that highly deductible thing.also why does not your employer not have you on an health insurance plan. also look at your expenses and think do you need cable tv and a laptop and a this and that,could you cut back an thus have more money and less bills?Do you not get paid maternity leave? are you and your husband building up retirement funds? Your friend must be a lot less well off than you financially to get those benefits you outline so perhaps you and hubby have been spending every dime on things you do not have to have right now so you have money for the child you are carrying. For get the friend and think on how you and hubby can make your own lives better.

I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time. Life isn't always fair unfortunately. It just happens that way. I'm sure that there's a way for you to earn some extra money from home, while taking care of your family and such. You can always sit down with your husband, and try to find a way that you can increase your income.

I live in the UK, and in a lot of cases, you are able to get more benefits from the government for not working than you would be able to if you were working every single day of your life. This is not right, and certainly something has to be done about it otherwise things are never going to get better for the country. You should always try to work, because it makes you a better person and means that you're doing something positive to the country. I don't believe that people who are sponging off the state can possibly be happy about the state of their lives, so try to think about that while you're working.