Deal with colleague

Try to check first why is your boss delegating task which you said not your responsibility. Maybe your co employee responsible is absent or not available or mind you he has a plan of promoting you so you are being trained with the works you'll do later. Talk again to your colleague or ask a friend close to you or to her why is she like that they may know so you can explain everything to her.

I think this happens sometimes in the corporate world. For your first problem, you can set up a meeting with your boss to discuss your responsibilities and tell him about the problems that you are facing with handling things outside your responsibilities. May be your boss is trying to challenge you to move to a higher role. So you can find out this after discussions with him/her. Regarding your colleague, this could be due to many things. Either someone could have said something about you, or something you might have said or done might have hurt her or she is under stress with what she is doing that she has got generally disinterested in everything around her. In such scenarios, the best way is to give her some time. And after some time approach her in an informal setting such as lunch or tea break and then discuss what went wrong. Don't rush it as at this moment the thing might be fresh in mind and that would mean that there would be more anger at this moment. Cheers! Ram

If there is anything happening at your place of work which makes you feel uncomfortable, then you should let your boss know because they will probably have plans in place to deal with situations like this. You should tell him because it might be having an effect on how well you're doing your job and, if he is picking up on this, it is important that he knows that there is a reason that you're not performing to your best at the moment. There are a lot of things that could be done, so don't worry about it, and it is always best to air your concerns whenever you can.

Hi Jiangsai, This is my advise to you. First problem : just follow your boss - it is your duty to follow his order/instruction. Second problem: You did your best to confront your colleague & it seems she's ignoring you the whole time. Give yourself a break - stop whatever you're doing to get her attention but rather try to make friends with your other colleague. If it makes you uncomfortable, I guess you should start looking for a new job. It is so hard to do something that makes you sad.

So sorry that you have to go through that! I had a brief period in the past where someone went strange on me out of nowhere, and it took me quite a while to start feeling comfortable again. Maybe look at what you needs are at work. List them and then approach your boss first, and then go to Human Resources if (s)he is unable or unwilling to help. Chances are they will be of assistance to you, it is part of why they are there. HR will also assist in seeing to it that your needs are met. As for the colleague, well, there are a multitude of reasons that that could be happening right now. I think it is a good idea of yours to ask what is going on. Perhaps an email is less confronting...? I think that is a good idea. All in all, just see to it that you take your power back, you are there to work and to create a future for yourself, stay focused on that - you are not there for them, you are there for you. SO basically - keep boundaries but see to it that your needs get met.

Sorry to hear about what you have to go through at work but I can only advise you to talk to your boss and let them know how you are feeling with the way you are being treated and with regards to your work tasks and responsibilities. Also, you should try and talk to your colleague again and find out why she is behaving like this. Maybe it is just a small thing that can be resolved easily...Good luck!