Why am I so super jealous?
By hati3kuro
@hati3kuro (269)
Malaysia
February 25, 2012 3:52am CST
I dont know if this ever happened to anybody out there but I'm just curious, why does it strike me so hard everytime when my roomates pat my cat and calling out her name just like I do? I am so afraid that the attention that she's getting would turn her attitude towards me, or in other words deviate the ownership. Is this a true feeling or am I just pure jelly? What is it that I'm losing if she also likes the attentions that my roomies are giving her? Thanks a lot in advance, any comments and rersponses are welcome and deeply appreciated! :)
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@Mashnn (4501)
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25 Feb 12
This happens so often when human beings feels insecure or threatened. I think your are not jeolous but afraid to lose your cat. It just shows how much you care about your cat.
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
Yeah I am afraid to lose my cat...
It's nice to know that that shows how much I for my cat...thank you fie the kind words)))
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Feb 12
First off many people feels jealousy in different types of relationships. I think that in your case you have some self-esteem issues and maybe even have lost someone to someone else, or felt like you did. A cat is an odd animal. They pick who they want to be with. the cat may even be alittle confused as to who its real owner is. Just enjoy your time with the cat and treat it right and it will give you all the love you could ever want. And isn't that what it's all about anyway? And work on the self esteem. It will help you out in your relationships with those darned humans.
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
An odd animal indeed, they choose who they want to be with that's why I was so afraid to lose my cat...
Thank you for the advise! I'm working on it especially the self esteem part...what kinda advice that u can give me on that? I'd really appreciate it))
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Feb 12
Advise on the self-esteem; I would go to www.amazon.com and check out their bocks on the subject. Put post it notes on your mirrors with positive statements on them like i am a good person, i am this or that depending on what your problems are. If it is very deep seated you might want to think about counseling. If that is some that would be hard for you to afford then think about this: (Something I didn't know before) Most counseling businesses hire afew people right out of college. They have to get a certain amount of hours to get their licenses. I can't think of the name but if you call a counseling center you would ask them if they have someone there that gives free hours of counseling towards getting their counseling license. They are supervised and I have always had a good experience.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
26 Feb 12
I've had these random feelings of jealousy, because I like it when I am the preferred person. So I can understand you feeling this way too. I don't think your roommate petting the cat will cause the cat to prefer your roommate, but I can understand why you might think this is a possibility.
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
Yes what you said is true, despite how much I hate to admit it, but it's true. How do you get pass that feeling?
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
25 Feb 12
I'm sorry to say this but are you jealous that someone is patting your cat? Why would you feel like that? Why are you so jealous because of a cat? I think you should not think like that. You must appreciate that your pet is being cared of others. You act like it's as if that you're so possessive.
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
Hi craziestqueenever
Wow I think i just had an epiphany...that may be true, I am a possessive kinda guy!
I always afraid that I am gonna lose someone or something to somebody else, that I'll try literally everything I could to prevent that from happening...
I am so confused what to do now, I think I have the answer already but to practice having the right feelings on a daily basis is really hard...do u have any tips on that? Thank you in advance!
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
Awww thanks for the kind words! )))
Just like the comments above, you made me realize how ungrateful of me and how lucky I am to have roomates like that...I sincerely thank You for that))
@fdgirl9 (2)
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26 Feb 12
I can understand why you may feel jealous, but I think you should try to work through it and get past that feeling. It wouldn't be fair to tell your roommate they can no longer pay any attention to the cat because it's yours. I'm sure your kitty will always favor you anyways. :)
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
When it's time for meal, yes...lol
Yeah I still can't understand it myself why can't I just be fair to them?...that's why im trying to find out what's the root of my jealousy here and thanks to you good people now Im able to understand at least what I have to do now, that is loving my cat even more...that way I hope that she'll feel the energy of the bond that I want to share with her.
Thanks again! )
@yanzalong (18987)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 12
If I were you i would not bother too much about it.
Isn't there anything else that is more important? This is only my view. I maybe wrong.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
25 Feb 12
a pleasant day hati3kuro,
please dont feel jealous about that. for sure, your cat knows you very well since it was your pet. although, according to the old article that i have read, cats are the type of pets who are not really loyal to their master. that whoever picks them up and feed them, then, they are looking forward to go on to their new master.
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
Hi airasheila....yeah I've read about that too...it's really hard for me to accept it !
It's good actually to be aware of this trait that they have...makes me realize that I have To love her more than other people do
Thanks for the wake up call )))
@hati3kuro (269)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 12
Omg they do? Huhu now I feel ungrateful...thanks for making me realize that (
