Destiny, do you belive it exist? Or do people just use it as an excuse?

Have you ever heard about "grand design?" I think I have mentioned this is so many of my responses. Believing in destiny though is tricky. I believe that destiny is real, that there is one person destined for you. If not then there's a single turning point in your life when you will find that being single is your destiny. So it could probably be true that destiny is real, and that no effort is needed because destiny will find it's way to you. However, love isn't the same. Love requires effort. Achieving goals isn't the same. Achieving goals require effort. Success isn't the same. Success requires effort. It could be your destiny to be loved by someone, but if you haven't exerted effort to find the love of your life, there will be no love if destiny finds it for you. It could be your destiny to achieve a goal, but if you haven't exerted any effort in achieving that goal, then the goal is meaningless if destiny achieves it for you. It could be your destiny to be successful, but if destiny succeeds for you then it is not at all your success. It could be true destiny will find its way to you. But everything that makes that destiny worthwhile is in your own doing. "An apple you've harvested from the tree you yourself planted will always be sweeter than any apple you ever buy from the market."

People have the bad habit to believe to pretty much ANYTHING. Destiny doesn't exist, only the fact you can question its existence means it doesn't exist, no one would ever write a book and in a part of the story make the character question himself if he's in a book or not. Thing is, world is full of possibilities, every action you do (or not do) leads to a consequence which may be good, bad, really bad and in the few cases in which is "perfect" (at least for the moment being) leads people to think "it was destiny!" But nope, it doesn't exist.

In my opinion,we create our destiny.Everything in life is based on our choices.

cyclopz Could be destiny is just God's knowing in advance what choices we will make in our lives.

I do believe in destiny, I believe that my husband and I are destined for each other, for we live far from each other and time finds a way to bring us together. I also believe that you don't have to look for love, love will find you, in the right place and in the right time, you will not know when and where but it will just come and you will be surprised when it comes.

I believe in destiny. If people are destinated to be together, they will be brought together, even if it seems impossible. Yes, it can be used as an excuse, like if I want something I can say it's my destiny to get it - but if it's my destiny I will get it even if I try to avoid it in every way. I also think that destiny can be changed, or be changed in a way that it has less affect on our life.

I believe that there are multiple destinies out there waiting for us and which one we end up with is a result of the choices we make. A good example was my choice to go into the military and travel after high school. If I had decided to stay home and go to college after high school, I would not be the same person I am today and I am sure that the person I became would have found the right person for me. But, I went into the military and travelled the world. My experiences made me the person I am today and the person I met and married is the roght person for who I am today (married for 32 years). I did not go out searching for the "right person"; but, I kept myself open to possibilities and meeting new people. When my "right person" came along I was ready and so was he - our destiny got us together at the right time and place.

I think that there can be people who get on really well together and because of this it might seem as though there was a kind of force pulling them together, but to be honest with you I don't really believe in it myself. Out of everything that happens, there are endless possibilities depending on the small decisions that we make, and the eventual outcome depends on each one of these outcomes. Because of this, I would say that we are in control of our own destiny even though it might well feel as though this is not the case at times.

Every one of us do have a different believe on what destiny is. Some would say that destiny is a matter of choice, some would say that we have to work for it. No matter what they say about destiny, it is still our choice. I partly believe that if you're really meant to be, then you'll be meant for each other, but you have to fight for it even if it's an against-all-odds love story.

Actually I am still not sure up to this time. I have heard this topic several times before but I would neither choose whether I believe it or not. Well, what I do think is that there are things and situation destined to happen but we still have the free will to manipulate that destiny. Like perhaps for example, one company is destined to fail but the people who work on that company works hard to keep the company going. So despite the fact that destiny says it will fail, people still work around things to overcome that destiny. Maybe the same with love life. One person is destined to be with you but if you will not create the bridge for that destiny to come true, nothing will happen. So therefore, I think destiny is not just something that happens out of the blue, it is something that we need to work for.

I believe in destiny. If you are destined for each other no matter what comes between you and your partner, no matter what travails and trials are met, it you are really destined for each other all these will be overcome. Happy are those who found their destiny in life. I myself am thinking where is my my destiny, is it in this life or in another life. It may have passed me unknowingly when I was not looking. I just wish that if he is somewhere around that I should meet him before it is too late. But if destiny brings him in the twilight of my life, so be it.

life is what you make it, you only get out of life what you put into it, things happen for a reason, not sure if i believe in destiny, each day to me is a blessing, what ever happens each day is a blessing,

I've found myself reading a lot of discussions started by you today. I think we have to understand there's a difference between believing in it and it actually existing. I know a lot of people want so badly to believe there's some kind of sacred timeline already written for them, I sometimes find myself in that place as well. Sadly, that's never the case... except in movies of course, what wouldn't we give to be those guys? I've always leaned more towards a deterministic view of the world. Being familiar with quantum mechanics and Heisenbergs uncertainty principle, I still believe that the outcome of the world could actually be forecasted if we had all the necessary variables. Now, does that mean that everything has already been decided? Not at all, within those variables lies the freedom of choice.

I do believe in destiny. Destiny,fate, true love, karma- and love at first site (or hind site hehe) I think its one of those things that you cannot look for. You just have to go about everyday life and it will present its self when you are not even aware of it. What do you think about it?

If that is really your path even if you wanted something more good to your taste. There are individuals who takes up Commerce to study yet ended up in a restaurant as a chief even if you like to become an accountant that your destiny brought you to where you are really good at as a chief.