Toddler out of control

Well I don't have any experience in caring for toddlers really, most of the kids i've taken care of are less than four months old and the toddlers I deal with in the hospital are most of the time behaved since they are sick and can't really go nuts since they have IV lines so i wish you luck and best read and listen to those whom had toddler experience, I agree on one of the lotters here, positive and negative reinforcement is key...

i have read about this terrible two from a parenting forum and most moms agreed with such toddler's behavior. maybe it will pass as ge will learn to understand what you are saying. i do have a 20 month old son and by this early i think he is understanding what we are talking about. he will follow our instruction and do as order. but there are times he is uncontrollable too maybe because he is trying to control his feeling and his independence. try to alwasy talk to your son in a calm tone because the more you got angry, the more he is feeling winning the situation because you are reacting. and sometimes also their way of saying he missed us is by making terrible thing. just remind him what are the possible consequences than his actions might result. happy parenting!

My 3 years old girl and 2 years old boy are same way. They are going through a 'I will cry until I get what I want' phase. They act up when I take them for doctors check ups and their doctor told me I need to put a stop to it or otherwise they will be doing it forever. She says worst thing you can do is give them attention, they just realize their crying is working and keep doing it. Advice was to put them in time out and ignore them, just keep going on with your activities. The time out is the hardest part since they just get up instead of staying there but the ignoring their tantrums part is working good. My daughter realizes that I am not going to go her way and finds something else to entertain herself with.

my daughter is now in her terrible twos. she too is good at playschool and for others. she is not too bad for my partner but often plays up for me. she listens to me and usually does what i asked but will often throw a tantrum aout it or do it really really slowly just to annoy me. i think she is like this for me because she knows that i am the more leniant parent and children defiantely pick up on that. I have recently been more strict with her and have shown more confidence with my parenting. i think that she has realised this and she is now better behaved for me than she was just a few weeks ago. i believe the stage will last until about 3-4. your child is realising that he can say no and play up for you if he wants. he is exercising his indapendance. you need to show him that you are the parent and you are the one in control. children pick up on your vibes and the way you conduct yourself as a parent. if you are confident in your parenting and stick to your rules then you should see an improvement as your child understands that you are in charge. good luck.

I think it's normal about the age of 2 kids show their temperament/own will. Since it's worser at home I assume you have different rules. At day care he knows the rules so no need to try out how far he can go. At home it's different.Trying out all kinds of discipline is not the way. It's easy: yes is yes, no is no. Misbehaving is: time out. Also: have a day scedule, do the same things each day at the same time (breakfast, getting dressed up, shower, paying attention/reading a book/bedtime). No matter if he likes it or not, is sleepy or not. Plus encourage great sweet behaviour. It seems to work at daycare plus at his grandma so you two have to change.

I have absolutely no idea. My son is 3 and it just gets worse. He is very disrespectful and demanding. I have tried everything to get him to stop, and it just doesn't work. He is also the same, when he is with someone else he behaves, but as soon as mom and/or dad are around he starts up. I do know that he is a wonderful big brother and he loves to help with that. But when he wants something it's NOW or else he will freak. If you figure it out, please let me know.

Never give in. Every time you give in you actually add to the period of time this phase will continue. There is a reason he behaves different at daycare and Grandmas, their discipline is steady and consistent. Parents unlike teachers are more apt to give in to small behaviours becasue the child is their own, (we all do it at one point or another) but the more we do it the longer it goes on. I see this with my 20 month old. She knows where I stand. My husband has recently ended a short term job and school and is now home during the day where he wasn't before. Over the last week she has intentionally hit every button she can find to gain a reaction from him. That being the other point have a calm, cool reaction. The bigger the reaction the more likely they will try to get it again. Boring works ya. Anyway my youngest has been down right horrible for her Dad the last week and a half and we are hoping the phase ends quickly. They will go through this phase a few more times though at different stages. We just got out of one with the 10 year old. As they hit independence steps they tend to push to see just how independent or what freedoms they have. Each kid takes their own amount of time to test the parents. Fun this being a parent thing isn't it?