what if your husband wants to have onother wife will you allow him?
By Jhovarie
@Jhovarie (1168)
Philippines
February 27, 2012 9:53pm CST
if you are a woman and your husband will ask permission to you he said he want to have another wife will you allow him? in this example your husband is lot of many he can support 2 family but the opinion of different woman is also different its because there are existing woman say aslong as my husband support me and my family its ok but other woman will never accept it.
how about you what if you are woman will you allow your husband to have another wife even he can has a lot of money? i ask this because muslim man is allowed to marry 4 woman but they have a reason its because woman is far larger number compare to man and also 4 wife is legal LOL.
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@jasminjasmin (98)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Feb 12
Its just impossible !!!
In our culture/community, noone does like this.If couples are not satisfied with each other then they can take divorce and marry some one else..But having more than 1 wife is illegal, even the man can loose his job.. In my culture its like a SIN and I am happy for this...
@jenn88 (57)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
If you married for love then most probably you would disagree with this request.. But if u married out of just for the sake of being married or ur forced to marry some1 ù don't éven know.. Then most probably u won't mind this request...I dare say,it dépends on what circumstances u and ur partner are in... As for me... I won't commit to anyone not unless I would give it my all.. N when I say i will give my all it means that my heart is in it.. N no, I won't allow him.. It would be an insult to me and my pride. Not only that I'm a roman catholic but it will contradict everything pertaining to marriage n love.. N I'm not one to do that,.. So no! I won't allow him.. Not unless he will give me a divorce or annulment wit alemony.. N if I don't love him anymore.. Or hate him in this case... :D loving some1 and wanting to live for the rest of ur life wit that some1 isn't rocket science it plain n simple... Love n make sure u love wit all ur heart... And commitment is all about all this...
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@Jhovarie (1168)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
@sabado_dc what do you mean here is this act of some other people or some other religion?
@sabado_dc (1001)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
It's a heartbreaking reality that some parents will trade their child in return for something. At the age of 11 or even younger, as long as she had her 1st menstruation done, her parents will find someone to buy and marry her. The disgusting and most scary part is that, when the buyer or husband get tired of her he will bargain the girl and the buyer will use her as a toy. There are so many people in this world that they do not want to recognize the value of women. They think women are like football. They think women are like mannequins that they can buy any time they want. They think women do not have part and share in the society. They think women are like food that if you don't cover them, anybody can eat them. They think that they have all the rights to beat their wives if they went out the house without prior consent from their husbands. They think that when a women operates a computer are flirting. I think that we should live straightforwards leaving all the unnecessary things behind....
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@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
I think the only religion that allows such thing is Muslim.. No offensement with them, for me personally. no I won't allow it, as we all know that it is written in the bible about adultery. If you're married, you've taken a vow that you'll be honest, loyal and faithful with your partner. So no, I don't really go that for such setting.
@Mashnn (4501)
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28 Feb 12
I have read your comment. First, it has do with how you value and take your self. If you think that been a second best is ok then you will have no problem accepting been a second wife. The other thing about been old and not having someone to take care of you is not relevant to this discussion, this is because, no one knows how long you will live and even if you live long enough, there are nursing homes that are meant for old people. The men, woman ratio theory, is a theory that is used to satisfy men's urge of marrying many women. Lastly, I will not stick with a cheater just because he is providing for me. I got my pride.
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
28 Feb 12
I would allow him especially if I happen to love him very much. It would be with a very heavy heart; but I figure it will just show him more how much I love him. And if things do not work out with the other woman, he'll realize who sticks by him through everything no matter what.
@samar54 (2454)
• Egypt
29 Feb 12
Islam did not give man the right to marry more than one woman, but the condition of justice .. Can a man of justice in everything between his wives? I do not think, and this was confirmed by the Quran :you will not be able to do perfect justice between wives even if not keen , don't tends every tendency leaves her as pending ,If making peace and piety,God was ever Forgiving, Merciful [women :129]
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 12
Yes i know a man can have 4 or more 5 wife is legal.but for me if i have husband i didnt allow my husband to have other wife excapt me.For me i didnt want my husband share his love to other woman,i want he only mine.I think to if it it happend to me better i choice to divorce coz my heart will soo hurt.But if a man want to have more wifes if he can make all of his wifes happy and didnt fight each other,its good.But for me i war with polygami.I hate it..Sorry lol.
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@Jhovarie (1168)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
i know all woman dont want it but you must accept the truth womans number is far bigger than man.
even muslim woman dont want a rival but law of ISLAM man is allowed to mary more than one woman as long as he can support it and also if the first wife allow him to marry other but if the first wife dont allowed his husband to marry other woman so it is prohibited if man will still mary other woman even he can support both.
permit-ion of first wife is necessary before marrying other woman not only if he can support it.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Mar 12
hi lovelysofie, i agree with you that no any woman will not accept to share husband love with other, In Islam it is that allowed up to 4 wives, but its not mean that you to do 4 is necessary in Islam, Islam mentioned that if you afford up to 4 then you can do but you will keep happy to first if you not to do then not to do for more. now i will say to you that please as a same agree with me please.
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
29 Feb 12
Yes i accept it if a large of women number is far bigger than man,and i know in Islam is allow to have more than 2 wifes.But not all man want have more wifes.Just try to faith with 1 wife its enough i think.But the one thing make me confuse is sometimes why a man want have more wife?is he didnt feel happy to have only 1 wife?
For me i never approve poligamy.coz i was divorced with my hubby coz he want poligamy too.sorry..
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
28 Feb 12
Well it is not legal in my country for one thing, but if it was I would not allow it. It would break my heart if were to even ask for such a thing. I married my husband because I love him and he loves me. He is my best friend and my soul mate, if he were to feel the same way about another woman and want to bring her in to my home it would mean that everything I thought we had was not real. To me it is about love not financial capability.
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@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
28 Feb 12
I would not allow it. It's me or nothing. I do not share well. I do not understand polygamy at all. Not fair to the women or the childen.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Feb 12
In some cultures its okay I suppose but here where I am it is not okay. I would never allow this. When we married it was saying we will only be with each other for the rest of our lives and no one else. Thats how I feel it should be.
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@Lucas818 (377)
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28 Feb 12
I'm a man and I won't even allow myself to do so. I mean, what's the point to have more than 1 woman? We have only one life, one heart and it's good enough to spend the rest of the life to love a person. It's not necessary to mess up the life and make things complicated. I've seen too many incidents which man who has more than 2 women screw up his own life.
@mauve02 (133)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
For me, I will not allow my husband to have other wife even though he can support many wives. That is one thing that I do not like in muslim people, They can love 4 women as long as they can support them. I do no agree on that rule. If ever my husband is a muslim I will make sure that I will be his only one and no other woman that he will love or marry. :)
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
I don't think a real Muslim man has a limit in marrying a woman they want. Here in our place, it is not limited to 4 wives only but it is unlimited..lol! They said that it is as long as the man can support the family he maid and so he can still add on another wife if he is really bountiful/ wealthy/ rich to support his families! i just don't like the fact that they allow such things like that. I am a woman and i dont allow polygamous husband.!!!!
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@Jhovarie (1168)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
hello hunibani "i dont think a real muslim man has a limit in marrying a woman" this word indicate that you only watch negative side of muslim.. my i ask can you find a male that has more than wife only in muslim? here in philippines actors ramon rivilia has so many wife, jorge regan has 8 wife if im not mistaken they are not muslim mate if you are open minded dont just watch negative side of other watch also positive and negative from other and watch also yours.
@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
28 Feb 12
I understand that in some cultures this is the standard way, it is normal and expected. I also understand that some women are happy to have a marriage with a man with other wives.
However personally, I could not see myself sharing my husband with anyone but my children. Perhaps I'm just greedy, but he's mine and nobody else's! :)
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@gen143 (26)
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28 Feb 12
Since marriage is a covenant between both couples and GOD. the 2 bodies become one. And the 10 commandments given by GOD through Mses, one of them stated,"thou shall not commit adultery. JESUS CHRIST warned us that even if a man looks to a woman with lust, he already commits adultery inside his heart. For me, I'll never allow my husband to have another wives except me like Muslim men. I have many friends having biological father like that.....they couldn't able to support their previous families or even the recent ones. Aside from that, I don't want that my husband commits adultery.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Feb 12
I always have known any man who wanted to marry me would Need another woman Right after the honeymoon. So As long as I am not bothered by her I wouldn't mind at all.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Feb 12
jhovarie well good for the Muslims, and glad I live nowhere
near them. If my husband had asked such a nutty thing, I would
have called a psychiatrist for him. Of course I would
not agree t o such a ridiculous request . For we women
in the US its not whether or not he could support two families,its that we here believe in monogamy and in loving
each other,one wife to one husband.,If you like the Muslim
way of life go join them.
@marguicha (222997)
• Chile
28 Feb 12
I understand that it depends on the culture, but for me it is as unthinkable as asking myself if I can have two husbands if I am rich. It has nothing to do with money, as I see it. Besides, marriage has enough problems with one spouse so I cannot imagine how it would be to deal with more.
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@Jhovarie (1168)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
ngrrr........ man is only the one allowed to mary more than one and woman are prohibited to marry more than one its because if for example you are a woman that has two husband and its happen you and your first husband has a honeymoon after that next day your second husband and you also have a honey moon then after three month you get pregnant now it is not sure who is the father of the child.1 person likes this
@sabado_dc (1001)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
If I were a married woman, I am not going to share my husband. I am a christian so I will not allow him to commit a sin by doing polygamy. Some prophets are polygamous as it was mentioned in the Old Testament; However, Hebrews at younger generations during the intertestamental period did not follow the same path; the old practice which is polygamy at that time then has began to be critiziced and declined. There's a three passages found in the New Testament in the pastoral spistels of Timothy 3:2 and 3:12 also in Titus 1:6 about the prohibition of polygamy.
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@mariab2000 (740)
• Canada
28 Feb 12
I would never allow my husband to have another wife and would never give him permission to marry again even if he is able to support both wives financially. If he still wants to marry someone else than I would step out of his life. I would never tolerate for him to have another wife.
@olliekobra1 (1825)
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29 Feb 12
You should only have one wife, how can you devot your time to more than one woman
