Giving love a bad name

I think TV shows give love-making a bad name, not love 'per se'. If people confuse love with lust or just plain horniness that's a matter of how clear headed they are. If you can't think right and jump into the action you're bound to regret it later on.

hi bluangel, i think that the tv shows are just a reflection of the real world of love. we may think it's fiction but we just don't know that some time, somewhere love is crazy, stupid, controlling and hurtful. BUT i also think that the media is also a big influence on how the people deal with love in reality. watching love on tv needs parental guidance. we shouldn't take what we see seriously because some gets an idea that what they see on tv is acceptable like taking hostage, blackmailing, and so on . Love is love, it sometimes hurt because you have to let go but to hurt someone for love is not love at all.

i know two stupid girls who would do dumb things for love. including let her boyfriends ex (who he still admitted he loves to her while in dummy's bed) stay over their house together. it ended up with her being dumped the same day she had her baby. he could sleep with any one he wants, cheat on her, then dump her. this happened three times already with a different girl each time. each time dummy comes back to him as soon as he is in financial need. my dummy sister in law lies on her baby's father, and says he is abusive just to get away from him (he WAS NOT hitting her, she admits this to me on the side). gets cps involved in her life, tells them he is abusive, and then takes him back. yes, there are some stupid lovers out there.

i agree with your observation about TV shows these days. love on TV is poisoning the minds of the youngsters. TV shows are seen as mirrors of real life. what is worrying is that the youngsters may see and interpret the shows as reality. this is dangerous. the drama on TV is too much. it is also the responsibility of parents and adults to explain and remind the youngsters that TV shows are for dramatic effect for us to be entertained.

Some people can do nasty things in the name of love. Yes, it looks nasty, stupidity- but it is their way of loving. Maybe some are too selfish,some are fool, some are martyr- and what else. We can never judge them- but we can tell who is fooling one or cheating the other. that's love.. One is ready to be fooled and one is a cheater.

If that is the case then that is not love but obsession. If they tend to be selfish just because they want that person to be with them even if he doesn't feel love at all then how come she needs to force him? I can say that giving love a bad name if other people cheats on their significant person. In the sense that others are associate it with flirting without decency.