It is just work......don't take it personally..
By ardoy0731
@ardoy0731 (7308)
Philippines
February 28, 2012 8:01am CST
Hi friends..just to share something that maybe can release my irritation
The month will end again and there are some reports and works to be done for monthly reports and assessments.I'm viewing some files in our system to check if there are something to check or to correct.Usually there are some minor glitches and mistakes that need to correct.There is one office mate of mine that I always need to correct and remind of some things to be done for the monthly report who take it too personal.He will definitely do the things that I have said but you will really notice that he take it so personal to his actions and the way he become cold in approaching me than the usual.He will become so quiet and don't know what's running in his head.We can't even joke around with him that we usually do in the office.
Why don't he just take it not too personal and just pure work and stop saying things to other that I do act like a boss to him.Come on...I'm just doing my job and I guess he should do his part too well to avoid conflict in the end.
I think small conflicts are really can't avoid in the office especially to those people who take it too personal.For me,I do my best at work,ignoring any negative vibes and just enjoy the day..
The month will end again and there are some reports and works to be done for monthly reports and assessments.I'm viewing some files in our system to check if there are something to check or to correct.Usually there are some minor glitches and mistakes that need to correct.There is one office mate of mine that I always need to correct and remind of some things to be done for the monthly report who take it too personal.He will definitely do the things that I have said but you will really notice that he take it so personal to his actions and the way he become cold in approaching me than the usual.He will become so quiet and don't know what's running in his head.We can't even joke around with him that we usually do in the office.
Why don't he just take it not too personal and just pure work and stop saying things to other that I do act like a boss to him.Come on...I'm just doing my job and I guess he should do his part too well to avoid conflict in the end.
I think small conflicts are really can't avoid in the office especially to those people who take it too personal.For me,I do my best at work,ignoring any negative vibes and just enjoy the day..1 person likes this
7 responses
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Hi ardoy,
You are doing great. At least you're just ignoring the negative vibes and try to enjoy the day. Such thing that's happening to your colleague is normal. I have seen and encounter such kind of person. Some people just don't wanna be asked to do such thing even if it means that the person who is responsible in giving the job has to do it. They take it bad rather than thinking it was just a work. Well, for you at least you are just doing the job you're supposed to do.
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@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Thanks..
I just doing the work that I suppose to do.The problems still always occur every month which not only affect my work but could cause delay to others too.I truly believe that Patience is really a virtue which I always obey to avoid conflict in the end.
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
29 Feb 12
Hi. When people get stressed out at work either because the work becomes too demanding or because of their own inability to cope with it for a variety of reasons and don't get the right environment to share with management, they try to give expression to it in many strange ways. This is a result of unresolved frustration possibly.
I think it is better for those who can handle stress without getting worked up, to take it in their stride and overlook such behaviors.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Yeah stress really contributes a lot of pressure in work.In his case,his work is quite easier than others which really just consume not much of his time in a day and could be done immediately if he will just focus in it instead of using much of his time surfing the net like Facebook.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
28 Feb 12
I think that there are far too many people in the world who will take things personally at work, because it is a highly stressful environment, and often a place that is very important to an individual. When we are at work, there is a chance that we would get a little bit competitive because of the fact that we are trying our best to stand out from the crowd as much as we possibly can, as this means that we would be the most likely to get a pay rise if it were a choice between other people in the same job, or ourselves.
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@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
I was trying to make work smooth for us to move to other work.I don't being so competitive to him and to impress my boss.I just wanted it to be done correct and faster.My boss didn't know about it cause I'm avoiding any conflicts in the end.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I agree with you 110%. I think too many people stress over the little, unimportant aspects of work that are annoying and/or overwhelming. I try to leave work at.. work (and not bring it home with me) but sometimes things just frustrate me so badly that I need to vent outside of work! I guess the best thing we can try to do is LET IT GO and try not to sweat the small stuff at work. Easier said than done, though, huh?
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@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Yeah just let it go.I just do my part and I won't bother what he will think about it.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 12
Work is work. It should not be mixed up with personal life and a good worker should know how to separate that. If he don't want you to point out the mistakes, then he should ask you to check things out before the evaluation. Human made mistakes, I am sure he didn't notice it. But being cold at end won't help a bit.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
Indeed, work is work.He should take it professionally so that our future works would not affected and everything will run smooth.
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Maybe a different approach would help him to not dwell on the fact that he has to revise something again. How about complement first before telling him what's needs to be corrected. You can't take away from some people that they take their work seriously and personally. There's a fine line between those two words and for some, maybe you, knows how to handle them differently. It may also help if you get to talk to him personally but away from your work about how you feel. You can't just ignore him if it bothers you this much.
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@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
I always approach him in nice way and even in a joking way so that I won't offend him.But the more I approach him in that,he don't bother to do it right away instead occupying the time in surfing the net like Facebook.He just do what you have said if I really needed it badly.I to approach him in serious way cause I really needed it but he take it too personal.
@gnansekhar (330)
• India
28 Feb 12
hi arday,let your colleague know what you were expected to know him.and convincing say that its all work and dont take it too personal.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
He is older than me and still he is acting like that.I just wanted to have a smooth work.It is up to him if he will take in which way he wanted.I just spend my time in doing my work instead of bothering myself on his acts.
