CAN WE TRUST PASSWORD Facebook TO BOYFRIEND/ GIRLFRIEND?
By mrswhitfield
@mrswhitfield (2044)
Indonesia
February 28, 2012 9:27pm CST
My friend asked me that her BF asked her Facebook password. may be he want to check her account, her friends list. Should she give him the passsword? if she not give, her BF will say that she hide something in her FB, may be she has crushed on some1 else. Can we accept that kind of reason if some1 we love asked our password of our social network account?
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15 responses
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
29 Feb 12
Sharing a password with a boyfriend or girlfriend is a big mistake. Several people have posted about the problems they experienced when they were having problems in their relationship, as you don't know who they will give the information to in the future.
The fact he asked for the password is a huge red flag. Clearly, there is a problem in the relationship now, as my husband would have never asked me for my password, as he trusts me.
@programmerprimo (77)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I completely agree with you Fishmomma. Clearly he has trust issues and like you said that is a major red flag in my eyes. Either he is insecure, or a controlling guy either way those are signs that she needs to bail now before he gets worse. I wouldn't give my password to anyone and my wife wouldn't ask for it because she knows I hide nothing from her. He doesn't seem to have the same trust so they need to either talk about this or go their separate ways.
@yaso4u (502)
• India
29 Feb 12
My personal advice to you is don't share the password to any one. If they had to see friends list means they can just see by visiting to your page itself. If you had hide the friends list you can active it to view for particular persons or friends but don't share your password for this simple thing.
@joystick (1675)
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2 Mar 12
I would never tell a person, no matter who they were what any of my pass words were for anything.I feel that if a person asks for it who they are dating, then it ,means that the other person do not trust that person.I tend to never let anyone see me type my pass word in.
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Nope, Never give your password to anyone, even to your partner.
If they really want to "spy" on you FB account, then log in your account on their laptop/cellphone and let them check it out for themselves, but in this kind of scenario I would be just a few steps a way from her.
I consider my FB account as a personal possession to me equal to my underwear that only I wear and wash for myself, and never let anyone wear it.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
1 Mar 12
Hi mrs whitfield: I don't6 think it's right to give this kind of information not even to your bf/gf because it's her own privacy. Even if there's nothing to hide relationships are based in trust and fredom of choice. You can't control every aspect of your partner. Tell your friend that say no to this offer from her boyfriend.
ALVARO
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
I think it's a matter of trust. If your loved one is asking for your username/password, it means that he/she does not trust you at all. It is an invasion of your friend's privacy and who knows what he'll do to her account if ever (only if ever) they don't end up together. It has happened to numerous people. But still, it's just my opinion.
@veedee13 (242)
• United States
29 Feb 12
Don't share passwords with people.I know it is your bf/gf but it's your personal belonging and you have every right to say no to anyone who asks for your password.You are not obligated to share them for they are yours.It's a bit risky for it can possibly create some problems so don't share.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
29 Feb 12
oh situation is very critical and your friend's boy friend has any kind of doubt in the loyalty of your friends.and i think if your fiend really love him and not cheating him and believe him then she should give password of her's facebook account so that his boy friend also have feeling that she is very loyal to him.but if she does not believe him then don't give your password.
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Hi mrswhitfield,
I've experienced that with my ex boyfriend who insists that I'm hiding something from him. At first I gave him my password for FB but found out that he's been deleting stuffs that he doesn't like to is in my profile. It really pissed me off and there's no respect for privacy, my personal space.
Giving passwords to anyone for the reason to prove trust is not acceptable. Trust does not need proof, you feel it like an instinct.
Sharing your password is like sharing your toothbrush.
@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
29 Feb 12
Requesting a FB password really shows a lack of trust in the relationship. This couple have deeper issues than Facebook profiles and I think they should work on them first.
@gvgarcia (21)
• United States
1 Mar 12
No, he needs to trust her, but if he really is interested I think the best way can be by both sitting down together going over it clearing things up and once everything has passed they can both put everything in the past and trust each other in the future. ***Theres a saying that says if one doesn't trust u and u know u don't have nothing to hide the other person automatically is sometimes suspicious!
@BlueBell02 (18)
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29 Feb 12
No, i don't think so. To avoid conflicts, you shouldn't share you passwords to anyone. If he wants to see it, you could allow him to check for a while but it has to be with you at his side and you have to be the one to input your password. If you suspect he knows it and plans to use it against you if you had quarrels, change it quickly.
Anyway, you don't have to let him/her check it if you don't want to. All he/she needs is to trust you the way a real lover should be.
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
29 Feb 12
I think we didnt have to share our password to other,its private,Tell to him if all of friends in fb.If he love u he must trust on u.Coz for me not all of our secret that our lover know it.Have great day...