The basis of the success of married life.
@taheraa (1545)
Giza, Egypt
February 29, 2012 1:10am CST
Love, Trust, understanding and Commitment Between the spouses is the basis of the success of married life, Before all that everyone have to have great faith in God, and He created us for the reconstruction of the universe and not to destroy it and create problems.
The golden rule when the difference, is to put yourself in the other partner and trying to explain the situation through your understanding of the causes of his behavior. This will be the wiser if you followed this method to overcome many obstacles to marriage.
The factors of closeness and intimacy between the couple set aside time to pray every day, worship, closeness and love our God. Also, spend some free time to practice some hobbies such as reading, drawing and exchange views on public issues one of the activities that work to strengthen emotional bonds and poetic as between husband and wife, which helps to find a happy married life.
What are your views on this subject and this proposal?
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11 responses
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
29 Feb 12
Gosh, taheraa, you seem to be a philosopher!!! Well, i certainly agree with you and all that you have written.The bond of marriage between husband and wife is sacred because the vows that are taken are in the name of God.Even though women are supposed to be the weaker of the two, still in the eyes of God they are equal.Then may i ask why is so much injustice done to them in the name of religion? Where is the sense in praying to God five times a day or even more and then treating the spouse as a slave,not giving them the freedom to live as human beings and not treating them equally? It is always the female who is punished for the sins committed by the male.Why this injustice?
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@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
Dear veejay:
I'm sure if our actions, our work and our followers to be the result of religious teachings of our love to God, so in order to succeed in our life in all its branches, you should know that we are observers of God, so all in his satisfaction. Religion revealed by God to His worship is the cause of human happiness.
From your comment on this topic, I note that you are a great faith in God. So if you do not have objection, May I ask you what is your religion?
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
29 Feb 12
Hahah... veejay I also think such he is philosopher but he is telling truth understanding and trust is most important in spouse. This is main factors to live happy life. I also believed on God and I know God is seeing us.
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@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
Gosh .. veejay and fantabulus.. If you are both think that i am seem to be a philosopher !!! well why you do not rate my discussion as positive rating. Never mind, I am kidding.
My best regards to all
@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
29 Feb 12
In my opinion , it is always good to read and learn new things , having an open mind and being aware of many things to understand the reality better.
If one stops for a minute and put himself in the shoes of his spouse , he can understand his behavior , he can understand how he see things better and being less selfish.
Having a faith in God can also help because we then believe everything will be alright if we work and do what we have to do for God. Some people are not religious and still are capable of having a good relationship. They know how to deal with their problems , they respect each other and love each other , communicate well , and are satisfied with what they have.
Our religion , judaism , has a lot of wise lessons that help the people to deal with life. I personaly am not so religious , only on special holy days in judaism.
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@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
I agree with you, Our behavior, Our actions are sound and acceptable if they all work for God's face and his satisfaction.
Our religion Ordered us to learn, and follow of good manners in our dealings with others.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
29 Feb 12
marriage takes work and so many are just not willing to work at making a marriage work and really, it means to think of the other person more than yourself. hubby and i have been married almost 25 years this year so i think i know a little about the subject!
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
1 Mar 12
It is very simple, deal with others as you like them to deal with you.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Feb 12
It's certainly not easy being married. It definitely takes a lot of work, in order to make it work. If you're willing to work on your marriage, then you'll be fine. It's sad to see that it's not everyone who is willing to do so, and simply choose to take the easy way out and divorce.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
1 Mar 12
It is simply saying " Treat others as you would be done by them ". and " Smile at your brother is charity ", all these teaching had been Laid down by God for us to be the platform of our lives in our dealings with others.
@yanzalong (18987)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 12
You are right. Some of the easiest way to lead a happy and long lasting marriage life is that both can understand each other and avoid trivial problems from growing into serious ones that may cause the two to fall out. Most failure in marriage is also due to one of them having an affair.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
1 Mar 12
We have to watch our actions and treat others as we like from to treat us. understanding, respect, Commitment, Exchange of feelings and and belief in our Creator and the followers of his teachings be the cause of our success and happiness.
@smilemoon (766)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Mar 12
Yes, the most important this is understanding.It is good that the other partnet be good in discussion and undertand the other partner.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
1 Mar 12
Understanding only is not Enough, it Must include with trust, respect, commitment and belief in our Creator and the following of his teachings be the cause of our success and happiness.
@GemmaR (8517)
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29 Feb 12
I think that the most important thing in any marriage is that you have to be able to talk to your partner about anything that should be bothering you at the time. A lot of relationships fail because of the fact that one or both of the partners is not able to say when they have a problem, and this then means that the problem will never get resolved and the issue will just get larger until it gets out of hand and the individual feels as though they can no longer cope. You should never let things get out of hand like this, as you will certainly live to regret it.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
1 Mar 12
The most important thing in the transactions, especially with couples, leaving the small problems without solutions, so grow up and be difficult to access to appropriate solution in a timely manner.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 Feb 12
Added into that successful married life must have RESPECT at the same time and that is one of the most important factors in love life. Because if there is no respect then love will be really useless. And if you love the person then respect will be one of the first requirement. How could they treat each other well if they don't have sense of RESPECT?
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
We all get our fascination and woder, if we knew that religion revealed by God to mankind, having all of these instructions and ethics that give a positive impact on our behavior toward others and the behavior of others toward us, therefore our knewledge of the God religion is everything in our lives.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Feb 12
I think the basis of a succesfull marriage is: self esteem and confidence plus a big doses of humour, giving in, sacraficing and courage.
You have to be a fighter and survivor and be able to keep focused on marriage itself. Otherwise you won't make it in hard times.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
In most religions revealed by God to worship, let love, respect, self esteem, confidence and Commitment with others, are the way of life for all of us. Which is what you are saying now.
My best regards.
@amberchen3128 (19)
• China
29 Feb 12
In my opinion, if we want to have a successful married life, we should have a deep comprehension before get married. In our daily life, understanding is most important, so is comunication.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
Understanding alone is not enough, but there must be the ethics of dealing with others, regardless of their relationships with us. Respect and commitment that we take from the teachings of God, make us more successful and strength.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
29 Feb 12
yeah you are absolutely right these are the basis of success of married life.but all these i prefer understanding more because this is the only thing which is responsible in breakup.if there is no understanding between them or less understanding exists then this will create a more problem in between them.but only understanding is also not enough for beautiful married life.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
29 Feb 12
Our faith in God leads us to all that is good in favor of our lives. God put for our lives the Platform for how to deal with him and with others, even how to deal with ourselves. Understanding others is not enough, We must follow the teachings of God.
