i can not break him form this habit

Hi kristinad, A lot of children will do at home the opposite of what they will do/not do at school/other peoples' houses or elsewhere. I think it's down to knowing that as mum or dad we will help, complain, stress out....or whatever! They like to try our patience lol!!! I think I'd go with a reward chart.....you can buy these or make one yourself/yourselves. You can keep it exclusively for that chore (of cleaning himself in the bathroom, without asking for your help) or if there's any other 'issues', incorporate them...such as dressing himself, eating all his greens etc. I wouldn't go too heavy on him though at almost 6 years old. Rewards don't have to be anything fancy, or expensive. It can range from an extra 10 to 15 minutes stay up time one night during the week, a small sweet treat or an extra one if he gets them already say after dinner, a small amount of money etc. The rewards can be given as you see fit....per day or per week if you want to allow for a couple of mishaps in that week that's up to you. So say for example if you say if you get 5 stars out of 7 we'll go to McDonalds at the weekend. Or something like that. IrishGal77 :)

It is a matter of how did you discipline your son. Why in the first place you allow him to yell? Just give moral advise to him and be strict as much as possible. The child must obey their parents and they don't have the right to shout at elders. You know in our country we are totally particular of respecting the elders. That is the reason why most elders are abusing the humility of the child. In my case I am being abused as humble and respecting the elders. No one ever inspired me on how to respect the elders. Again in your case you should really be a disciplinarian and strict then as much as possible don't allow him to abuse your kindness or else he is going to do that forever.

i have had the same issue with my daughter too when she was 5...in school, she says she does not use the toilet at all, we seldom go to other's house, so she mostly uses our toilet only....a few times even i did what you did, but then gradually i started to ignore her when was yelling out for me and would respond a bit late, then after some days, i told her she could do it herself but would still continue to do it for her, then finally, one day i told her today you do it yourself, tomorrow i will do and she agreed, thats all, then i made her continue the same saying you did it yesterday and did it well yourself, i am so proud that you are grown enough that you can manage yourself, she was so happy that i encouraged her and gave her soem treats, from that day onwards, i stopped worrying about it...

ignore him, it's the only thing you can do, since you know he is able to help himself.