Abusive partner..
By audsalas
@prettyauds (258)
Philippines
March 1, 2012 2:01am CST
A relationship with the right person can be a wonderful experience. But,a relationship with the wrong person can lead to suffering, emotional and sometimes physical stress. At the start of a relationship, the so called "honeymoon stage" is a tricky as on how to tell what kind of person you are dating. Most relationships goes well with joy and happiness,but sadly,in many relationships,once the "honeymoon stage" is over you are left with the person you never thought would be. Being in a destructive relationship can hurt yourself, your friends and even your loved ones. It is better that we have knowledge with signs that your partner might be an abusive partner. Some of these signs are rough treatment,quick attachment,blaming of faults,uncontrollable temper and paranoia to name a few. If you happen to see these signs,it is better that you leave the relationship before you get hurt or things get worst. Love is a greatest thing but if it's taken for granted,it could never called love.
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7 responses
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
1 Mar 12
you are so right...you can never really know a person 100% and you do not always know when things are going to change for the worst. If you notice these signs you need to get out quick before it is to late. I know sometimes people feel they are unable to get away but there is always some kind of choice but most it is fear and fear alone. I understand that and it isnt fair to anyone involved. Love is a great thing i have only been married for almost 3 years now and i thought i would never get here but i want to say this if you are in an abusive relationship dont let this bad guy ruin it for all the good ones out there.....u can find love it just might take a while to let that wall down again :)
@programmerprimo (77)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Another problem for people in this situation is that sometimes they are completely blinded by the love they have for their partner that they are oblivious to the fact that they are being abused everyday. Even when the person's friends see it the victim doesn't believe them and starts to get defensive and doesn't want to be with their friends anymore and falls more into the arms of the abuser. It really is a shame as well as sickening to hear that people can do that stuff to another human being.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
These are very, very helpful. And I agree that no matter how much you love a person, you just have to give the person up if he's abusive. I know some would not agree with this, preferring to hang on to love instead. And you can't blame them since sometimes love can really make us blind on some things. Sometimes though these signs of abusiveness might not manifest till people get married. I've seen this happen to at least two friends of mine, and they both had quite a long relationship before they got married. And they only found out their husbands' true personality when they've really settled down.
@amitpro (75)
• India
2 Mar 12
Relationships need to be nurtured with love from both the ends in all possible ways. Being abusive to each other may feel good for sometime but in the long run i think it is a bad habit to be pursued. Forever attachments and affectionate pairs are formed by a regular process of understanding each other, not by being a partner ready to cry about faults of the other.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
hi,
actually your topic can compare to the music sang by carpenters titled love me for what i am,because sometimes a person take an advantage the love for his/her needs or in short just to benefits from you only,they will abuse your being good and lovable to them just because if money and after that you will cry at the end.
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
1 Mar 12
Thank you for sharing this. It's true, in the honeymoon stage it's very hard to see if a personality has a dark side. And even if we see it it's hard to believe if love makes us blind.
I also read that there are other signs of someone being abusive, like: extreme jealousy, demanding and controlling behavior, criticizing and humiliating the partner.
It must be very hard to leave this kind of relationship, even though it would be the best to do. Abuse can be not only physical but psychological.
@xiaoqian19880825 (180)
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1 Mar 12
yes, it's necessary to watch out when you begin a serious relationship. Thank you for your reminding. the signs you list are very useful. thanx. happy mylotting.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
1 Mar 12
Finding the partner is not an easy thing for anyone as we all keep growing and sometimes along the way we change also sometimes before marriage people try very hard but if they are actually having to try then they get a bit tired of trying and reality sets in...I don't think anyone really knows any other person 100% anyway, I think humans are way to complicated.
