i don't know what to do in my stalker.help.

First, I think that there needs to be a distinction here between being stalked and someone giving you unwanted attention. I have had both, and there definitely is a difference. When someone has given me unwanted attention, I could just leave the building or premises (like your job) and the attention would end. When I was being stalked, on the other hand, he followed me around no matter where I went, showed up at my house, would randomly show up in places that he should not have been ... that is actual stalking. If the janitor is just giving you unwanted attention, then I think that you should try to make it clear to him that you are not interested. If that does not work and it really makes you uncomfortable, then you should talk with the administration again and file a formal complaint. If the janitor is really stalking you, though, then I definitely think you should contact the police, because it is a serious issue that the school does not have the authority to stop.

That sound pretty scaring. I would probably report him to the security officer incharge, if I find that he is still stalking me after I give him a warning.

Just ignore the guy. He is playing with you and you are playing back. Do nothing. He is getting off on the reaction he is getting from you. He's probably pleased that you are telling people he is stalking you. Just ignore him and pretend like he is not there and he will shift his attention elsewhere. This sort of person is only doing these things to get a reaction. I cannot understand why so many people make such a fuss and thereby give them what they want.

i also used to stalk a girl i liked very much. Ofcourse i didnt mean any harm to her. I just waited for her to arrive at stipulated times at various points just to have a glimpse of her. it was love really hehe. So i wont say anything because i have done this myself hehe

Report it to the police! They will know how to handle it. Usually that type of person has already had some experience with law enforcement. If school administration isn't taking this seriously the police will tell them why they should!

may be you should report him to the police or to the school authority where you guys work

Report him to the police as stalkers can be very dangerous, even murderous!

Tell Everyone. I mean his boss , your boss , your family and friends and mostly the police. That way Everyone Knows. It may not stop him but you will have All the support you need. comforting him alone won't help. He may think you like him since you talked to him. But if his boss Knows , he/she maybe able to either get him the help he needs or fire his a$$!

Call the police! its against the law!

Stalking is a serious matter. If you really feel he is stalking you you should talk to the authorities and have it stopped. I wouldn't be talking to him about it either.

You should report it to the police. He may not do anything to harm you, but you never know and it is better to be safe ahead of time.

has he actually done you any harm? made any threats? followed you home? watched you outside your house? the man works at the school, so your bound to bump into him on a daily basis, if he hasn't made any threats or harmed you, then he's not stalking you, please, make sure that you get it right before you act upon it, there are people who are just over friendly or after attention so define the word stalker to the other 2 things before you actually accuse him, if he is making life h£ll for you and he is threatening you or following you, you have every reason to report him, but think before you do this, this could cost him his job for no apparent reason, think before you act.

I would talk to the principal of the school and report him to the police. Stalking is a serious crime and if it escalates you could get hurt or worse. Don't wait until something bad happens. Tell someone at the school and get help.

Hi I'm Melinda and I'm sorry you're going through this. I would advise you to go to your boss and speak to them about this and find out what policies they have at your job about these things. I'm sure that someone should be able to help you because I'm sure that they have strict rules about such things. Maybe you may have to consider a restraining order but you can talk to your boss about that. I hope that this helps and good luck and God bless and I wish you all the best and that things get better soon so you can feel safe again.

Did you ever tried to report him to any authority of the school? Try to tell him that If he will continue stalk on you, you will report him to the police. It's frightening for someone is following, you'll never know what he will want from you. Do some action before it's too late.

Hi Arianne, As the others have told you...you need to report this guy. He sounds pretty creepy and he is working at a school where IF he is as creepy as he sounds then he has plenty of opportunity to pull something. Please don't wait. I have to ask you though if you could elaborate a bit more on just what it is that he is doing that is making you feel so uncomfortable?

Report him to the school authorities and make a record of his activities with the police. AFTER you make the report, let him know the police know about him. Make sure all your family members are aware of what he's doing. In other words, let as many people as possible know what is transpiring. BIG NOTE HERE: Make darned sure he IS stalking you, because you could easily ruin the reputation of an innocent man if you are not correct in your assumptions.

It's a bit hard for me to understand what that stalker is exactly doing to you. I've been stalked for 14 years day and night (following on the street, phone calls etc etc had to move each year, secret address etc). It doesn't sound to me this is the case with you. If he talks to you ignore. if he calls you don't answer the phone. If he follows you on the street call the police.

well if you have a boyfriend then why dont you tell him that you already have a boyfriend and he may find someone that is much better than you..

Creepy. I used to get angry with people who try to stalk me. But nowadays, it's just really scary to just tell someone to stay away from us. We never people are really crazy these days. I guess what you can do is try to always be with someone so he can stop bothering you.