kissing your kids
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
March 1, 2012 11:56am CST
I was asked the question by a group of moms on fb. Do you kiss your kids on the lips?
My answer was no, because well I was never kissed on the lips as a kid and I feel that a kiss on the lips is for my kids to do when they are older and dating or is married. I find it odd for at least me to even think of kissing my daughter on her lips. I do give her kiss but normally that is on her little cheeks or her forehead. Some times her hands when she is messy and on the go.
What about you?
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11 responses
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
22 May 12
No I would not kiss my kids on their lips.As a kid,I have not been kissed on my lips and I would not do the same.According to me,a lip kiss is something that I would have intimately with my girl friend or with my wife.I have the idea that lip kiss is connected with sexuality and love and not with affection and care.I would not do it.Different people have different ideas and opinions.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
22 May 12
that is how I feel as a mother kissing is for your partner and not for you kids like that. I get hands, feet, tummy, forehead, cheeks they all make scenes to me and are okay in my book but to kiss my kids on the lips is just weird and inappropriate.
@saaramin999 (32)
• India
26 Mar 12
I agree no one kisses their children on their lips,,I think its weird kissing on lips often practiced for lovers so no one used to it
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Apr 12
For me I find it to be inappropriate for an adult weather you the parents or not to kiss a child on the lips. Hands, feet, forehead, cheeks that to me is all normal places to kiss a child. Other wise to me it would be harder for a child to understand a good touch from a bad touch. That kissing on the lips is indeed for me something that you do with a person your in a relationship with.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Mar 12
I agree I see as that as well. You only kiss the person your in a relationship with on the lips your child never. I feel its inappropriate for a parent to kiss there kids on the lips. I kiss my daughter on the cheek. I was never embarrassed as kid or even in my teen and adult years now kissing my parents on the cheek. For some people as they get older its not something they want to be show publically or around friends.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
Never on the lips, of course. I always kiss kids on the forehead or cheeks. I found it strange if a father kisses his daughter on the lips.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Mar 12
I find it odd if any parent kiss there kids on the lips. I kiss my daughter on the cheek to show her that her mommy loves her as well as lots of hugs. I feel kissing on the lips is an adult thing that you do with the person your in a relationship with.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Mar 12
I do kiss both of my children on the lips and I've kissed them on their lips from the day that they were born. I believe that the reason that I do that is because of the fact that I was raised in a family where our parents kissed us on the lips. Now, when it comes to aunts and uncles, thoses kisses were always on the cheek, but they did kiss us as children and still do now that I'm an adult.
My husband, on the other hand doesn't kiss the kids on the lips because his family never did any kisses or acts of affection for that matter.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Mar 12
For me I find it inappropriate for an adult to kiss a child no matter who it is on the lips. I think it would confuse a child in understand what is a good or bad touching. Something like kissing on the lips for me is for you and your partner only. Since my daughter was born its been on her cheek, hands, forehead never the lips. My parents never kissed me or my brothers on the lips we did get kisses and other forms of affection but I'm pretty sure they say it as not a good thing to do towards there children to show them love that way. My nephew he has kissed me on the lips and I didn't like it so if he wants to kiss me or I kiss him I always try to get him to aim for my cheek instead. Its hard for him to understand that auntie doesn't like it. I don't see him that often so its easy to avoid.
@liyuan5665 (89)
• China
2 Mar 12
i have no kids,but i think you can kiss your kids face but don't kiss your kids on lips.that's odd?
kiss on lips is between the lovers
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Mar 12
Some parents feel its okay to kiss there kids on the lips. I don't find it to be and appropriate thing for a parent to do when they kiss there children on the lips. Cheek forehead or the back of the hands that is normal to me for a parent to kiss there child or for there child to kiss them back in the same places. To me kissing on the lips is for the person your dating or married too.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Wow, I think it is very interesting that many of the responses here agree that kissing children on the lips is not normal and that it is only associated with lovers. I wonder whether or not it is a cultural thing.
I kiss my children on the lips, on the face, hands, belly, feet ... mostly any body part that is available, especially when they are babies. I think it is natural to do that. Of course, as they grow older I do tend to only kiss them on their face or on their cuts when they are hurt, but sometimes I will still blow "raspberries" on their bellies when we are playing and tickling each other.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
Good day ShyBear88,
I find it sweet if the parent(s) kisses their child on the lips but, we are not used to that. As I remember, my parents are not so sweet as it is. My father used to kiss me on my forehead before bed time. But my mom, never had did that. As my mom does not have any sweetness on her. Now that I am a part mom to my niece and nephew, I do kiss them but on their forehead or on their cheeks but not on the lips. As I am not trained in this habit. And although I was, I will not still do it. I have no concrete reason but, I think, it will be best to just kiss the kids on the forehead as a sign of respect and on their cheeks as a sign of greetings. And it will be easy to explain to them if ever they have asked why on the cheeks and why on the forehead.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
2 Mar 12
I find in the other hand rather cute, really kind gesture. I think it's up to the parents, there are those who do it and those who doesn't like. If I had kids I would like to say goodbye with lips and cheeks kisses. I'm also sure I would hug them all the time, I'm a hugger.
@kalyani1234 (637)
• India
2 Mar 12
Hello shybear, I do kiss my little son on lips occasionally, it is very sweet and he loves it at this point of time. But as he is growing older I would not do that!
At the moment we are both content on showing our affection in this manner and to be honest, he does find it more secure and safe.
