compromises

No That isn't compromising. It is agreeing to disagree. And If you do this , I'll do that , is the ground rules, That is Still not a compromise!Not to me. I didn't lose anything . in a compromise I wuld lose almost everything.

No I do having you on compromising you just don't want to admit that I have seen you do compromise. We do disagree to agree a lot but those aren't what I'm talking about. To have a compromise that doesn't mean anyone lose something. Some compromise are built for both sides normally to get what they want. That is what a compromise is. There are compromise where neither people get what they won't, some only one person gets what they want and other lose that to me would be a bet not a compromise. To me a compromise should be both sides getting something out of it. For me a compromise would be this isn't a good example but this is something I have to do with myself. Am in the mood to day to have a cup of soda or chocolate because if I have or or the other I can't have the other. How can I get both if I feel the need for both. Then I say to myself what kind of chocolate do I want? Now I know what kind of chocolate and how much I want so know I can say yeah I can go a day with out a soda or I can half a cup or less for the day. Or I can not have chocolate and just have soda. That is me compromising with myself because I know when pregnant I can't have both because too much isn't good for little nugget to have. This is a good example of me and hubby working together so that both of us are happy. I don't like clean he doesn't like to clean so we split it in half equally to get the cleaning down in a way that makes us both happy by doing what we each like cleaning. I don't like doing the bathrooms he does. He doesn't like washing clothes but I do. He likes taking the trash out and I do. I like vacuuming so I do that and he does the trash and we both equally hate doing the dishes so we just trade off turns of doing the dishes. That for is a good compromise since we both get what we want out of it and both are happy. Some times this rules in to sugars bed time we take turns putting her to bed. Neither of us wants to put her to bed every night so we do the best we can by making it equal as possible out every week. Some weeks one of us will put her down more often then the other but then the next week they have to put her down more then the person of last week. Although there are times some times where one of us does it back to back one night so that means for the next two days the other person has to do the same. For some people they might not see it as a compromise but for us and our relationship it is a compromise either of lose anything and either of us really gain and up hand in anything where the other feels like they are doing too much or too little and if one of us is feeling that way of course we're going to try to fix that and make it more far. That is a compromise in mine and his relationship. As I said some people need compromise in there different relationships and others don't. Coming to and understand is a form of compromise depending on the person and how they see it. Its coming down to an agreement common ground. Two people not agreeing on something isn't common ground and that isn't a compromise. But either person lose or wins in that kind of thing any ways. Not all compromise mean that someone is the only person that wins. Some times both sides lose, or both sides win. It rather have both sides win and be happy about what every out come it is to there compromises. Compromise are meant like the word means a promise someone gets something always but that doesn't mean you are the lose and the other person is a winner its all about how you set up the compromise is that person being selfish and other thinking about themselves and there happiness or are they making a compromise a promise that will make that other person just as happy as they are going to be. I'm not going to make a compromise to someone that I can't full either way it turns out. This is why when I do have to compromise that both sides are going to be happy.

Oooh I got you, you do compromise you just don't know it. You'll have to look back on some of the discussions, because I got you number and you do compromise. Its not a defeat its a deal or understand if you do this or that you get this or that or I'll do this or that. Or if I do this I'll get that from here or there or where ever. Even some emails have compromise in them. We agree like 75 to 80% of the time that was a compromise a while back on that one.

When I try compromising it try to go for something that will make both sides happy where you know nobody really loses or wins you both just find way to that medium area of agreement or understanding.

Okay but you didn't explain what a compromise means to you?

I don't think we always need compromise some thing just come to a come ground naturally and other things do and that's when you work on a compromise about what ever it is so that way a big old fight don't start or that way one person doesn't feel like they are being completely take advantage of.

I don't get what your saying at all. I'm having a hard time seeing the connection.

Compromise are need in life we all do them. Yes you can either both win or both lose depending on what the compromise is. Normally its a neutral thing coming to come grounds on something.