He beats her because she is fat

Sori, I misunderstood. I assumed that they were living together. If they were then they are similar to husband and wife with the exception that he is not responsible for the mother and the child, legally. I am from the old school, where marriage is a union between 2 people who have decided to spend their lives together and share responsibility.

Just because two people live together that doesn't make you husband and wife at all there is no legal anything binding them together at all. If one moves out they don't split things 50/50. When married you have to be law everything that you have is the other person when not married nothing of there is yours. Having a child together doesn't give you rights to the other person positions either. When you live together for so many years then by law you are married. They where not married but yes they did live together and yes they do have a child together. The only thing the guy has is the right to take care of his child. He doesn't have to take care of the mother at all he doesn't even have to respect her or like or even have to live with her if he or she doesn't want to be under the same roof. She can actually ask him if she wants to for money for her child but that is it other then maybe asking for him to sign his rights way to his child. I'm sure now they will not ever get married to each other I wouldn't want her to marry a guy like that at all. Not one that doesn't like her for her. Having a child together doesn't mean you have to spend the rest of your life with them or that you are going to get married one day. Marriage is a union between to people that legal want to get married and be together. Other wise then that two people living and having a relationship isn't marriage they are a couple dating each other or engaged.

I never said above that they where married. I said he was her boyfriend much different then husband. He never was around the baby so there for she was a single parent after her son was born its just that she let him keep coming around and hurting her. Animals have more respect for each other. I would say that animal are similar because not even animals partners hurt each other a lot of animals mate for life.

Yes, I kind of figured it was something like that. I left an abusive marriage but I had stayed in it too long before leaving and looking back I couldn't self-analyze just why I stayed as long as I did.

I think once a person is in an abusive relationship its hard to see why you stay and why that person wants to hurt you so much. Love shouldn't have to be that way for some women I guess its just harder for them to figure out how to leave or what to do. But once out I think they are a lot happier with themselves and what they are now doing for themselves and there family.

Reason why all depends on the person. Some times its fear, the fact that they do have kids with this person. Some times its money that keeps them if they aren't working and being supported by the abuser for some women its the mental hold the guy has. A lot of abuser will say I"m sorry I"ll never do it again and that gets people all of the time and that is what keeps a lot of women in a relationship with this type of person. Certain they hunt and look for a women they they know will most likely never go away no matter what they do because that women to him is weaker then himself and won't really fight back.

I'm sure Steve and his guys would have walked all over the guy especially after her called cops pigs they where not happy then.

Agreed.He wouldn't win the fight but he would have fought! Some of these cowards would just run away.

Some of them yes they would just run away.

I agree there is other ways he could have just left or tried a nice way of saying hey maybe you could work out or find time for your body to get healthy again or try to eat healthy. If you do I will or help her out so she can go and work out if she wants too. If bothers him that much just moving on to someone else would have been better.

Women are not helpless women are just as strong as men and some times women hit and beat up on men. There satisfaction is making themselves feel better like any time any body picks on someone or bullies that is the same feeling that they get to make themselves feel better and to make someone feel smaller and scared of them. Like I said above she did leave she walked way that is what leaving is. She got the courage and took her son and went her way and had him go his way. There is nothing wrong with his thinking and there is something wrong with his thinking. It could be the way he was raised or how he was taught to treat women. There are people still out there that are stick way back when where a women is nothing and a men is everything.

Yes because that is what he said out loud in front of thousands of people he beats his girlfriend because she is too fat he feels. Well this isn't his wife its his girlfriend. Its not just wives its girlfriends as well. Men that are like this will hit man or women some times of all different ages and stuff. There is always a reason for why someone does what they do when there an abuser they will find something to get upset about and use to hurt you. Most of the time they find people that are weaker then themselves to pick on because they are to them and easy reachable goal and they wouldn't dear to much to go for someone that would just completely stop the second something wrong. It takes some just as stronger after being abused to finally say enough is a enough.

You're right, if it wasn't because she's fat, it would be something else. It's awful! I think most of the time when men beat up on their spouse or girlfriend, it's not because the spouse or girlfriend is fat or lazy or whatever, it's because the guy has insecurities and needs to have control over her. That's just my opinion. My older sister's first husband was abusive to her. She was always a very strong, confident person. But he was able to wear down her self confidence. When we had picnics in the summer, she would be wearing long sleeves. They lived on a farm and she did all the chores plus made the meals and took care of their children. She finally left him after 5 yrs and 2 children. She was 17 when she married him and I was 12 yrs old. When I got older, it made me mad when people talked about women who stay in abusive relationships as though they were weak. They would say that they wouldn't of stayed in the marriage that long, and that they would have hit the guy back. I told these people that actually, the women are strong, that's why they can endure it, they had children and were trying to make it work. The abuser would lie and tell them that he wouldn't do it anymore. If they didn't have kids, my sister would have left him early in the marriage. I also told people "Until you have walked in their shoes, you have no idea what you would do."

There can be many reason why someone can't lose weight. Medications some times, eating habits, some times its your own body, if your taking care of kid on your own and your working all of the time you might not have time to work out. Some people are just happy with the way they look. He should be there helping her support there child but instead he wants to hurt the mother of his child by hitting her and by telling her he is doing this because she fat or big. I roll my eyes at the way he thinks. He's never been pregnant some of that baby fat never goes away ever period no matter what you do.

Pretty much every where in the world if any body hits someone you can press charges. She lives in the US so she knew she could have gone to the police and filled and order of protection as well as charges for hitting hurt. Weather you married to a person or not that kind of behavior is wrong period. If a women doesn't go or even any other person doesn't go the police can't and won't do anything unless your killed. Normally here if someone hits someone you will go to jail for a night if charges are brought up if not then nothing happens to that person.

There isn't a reason at all but he thinks that a women being fat is a good enough reason to hit his girlfriend as well as the fact that to him women need to be controlled and one way to do that is by hitting them. It is a shame of him for treating human being like that as if they are an animal even a poor animal needs to be treated with more respect then that. Of course when a women gets pregnant she will most likely gain weight some where on her body. I've been pregnant and I had a stomach I wasn't big but you could tell I was going to have a baby at some time. I'm pregnant again and I'm already what they call showing. Some women they lose the weight like nothing and they don't have to do much and other women they have to do some work. It can be hard to lose that weight some time with each pregnancy your not going to lose all of the baby weight its always going to stay with you and the only way to get ride of it is through surgery. Hitting a person because they are fat or big isn't right at all.

I said man opps I mean hi beat his girlfriend. Yes a real man would never hit a women at all period not even another man should hit a man. If someone man or women is uncomfortable with how there partner looks then they should just walk away or address it in a nice way to where you just want them to be healthy and happy. A good partner would do that in a supportive way.

I'm sorry I didn't mean like that with you men. Like I said above to someone else that brought to me attention. I didn't mean it like that I meant was this man or this time of man. My mommy brain is on most of the time so I don't always look back on what I have said and how I've said it. That is my bad. As I've heard you never touch anyone in any way that you wouldn't to be touched in. If you truly love someone you respect them you try not to hurt them in any way shape or form especially physically hurting them. I agree if someone is wanting to lose the weight you should encourage them and support them in a positive light and not in a negative light. Its hard for women after having a baby or two to lose all of the weight when you have a newborn that baby is more important then your body imagine. Some women it comes right off with out trying and other women have to find time when they can to lose the weight. Some women are comfortable with the way they look and there partner should be okay with that and if they are not then I say they should go.

I agree no abuser should have respect what they do is wrong no matter what the reasons they feel for doing what they are doing they are never good enough reasons. I can agree to a certain thing that they are cowards for some of them its what they have seen all there life so to them do things like that is normal part of life and for other is coward and they feel they have to hurt others to make themselves feel better.

I agree he is a bully and she did do the right thing by moving and making sure that her child know that isn't how you treat people. It took her a year to completely cut him off but she felt safe with other people being there backing her up and she did it. I hope now she has a better life not only for her but for her son.

He isn't her husband just her boy friend and father of her son. A good partner would have seen that yes all women get have a little baby weight and some times more after having a baby. Its not easy for all women to just magically lose the weight. Yeah it was easy for me but that isn't always for everyone. Yes some people are just naturally big as I like to say. Nothing wrong with a big person. Some try and try and don't get any results it just all depends on many many factor. Yes a men should just love his women no matter what her size is. A women no matter what her size is should be respected

Yes every case of abuses tends to be different but there are ones that are the same just with different people. Not all women have jobs and work some are still stay at home moms like myself. A lot of abusive relationships normally ends where the person that is being abused stays home but its still not uncommon to have someone that is being abused working for a living but that normally means that the person doing the abuse isn't working then if the person they are hurting is working.

I'm sorry I didn't me to offend you or to mean in that way as in like all men. I should have choice a differed work. I meant was this type of man, not all men I know for a fact are not like this one guy. I was trying to say this kind of guy feels that his girlfriend is too big, and should be control like an animal is his thinking process. That kind of guy I don't really like at all because the fact that they are an abuser and taking some kind of control a way from a women or even another men, and not being a supportive partner. What he did was out of the question wrong as a men, an adult, as a father and as a partner to this women. I'm am glad and grateful that the his girlfriend the mother of his son choice to walk from him and not say any longer in that type of relationship. Everyone deserves a loving caring partner that will support them. For me it was easy and quick to lose the baby weight after having my first but for some women its a lot harder and he should have been more supportive and help her lose weight in a positive way when she was ready to lose the weight. Again I'm sorry for incorrect word choice. Please do forgive me on that one. I some times have my mommy brain on with my 1 year old running all around and me being pregnant again I tend to use the incorrect word or term I'm looking for. Didn't mean to offend you or any other guys out there.

I'm sure almost every where in the world they have that. In the US if anyone commits to an act of abuse there is some kind of punishment depending on what type of abuse is being. Even a punch is abuse, pushing, spitting, cursing is all abuse in the US. Not only are women protected and children but men as well. A lot of people assume that men are never hurt because they tend to be more the aggressor then women are but some times the women are the bad guys too. In this case it was the guy being the abuser. Most likely he'll be arrested and serve a night or two in jail.