Is it OK to give up your best friend for your boy friend?

I think the first thing you should do is to talk to them and try to know why they do not like each other.Use all your shill to solve the problem and fix their relationship. because no matter who you give up,you will regret your decision.

I dont think you should give up your best friend for a guy. I would tell him I couldn't give up my boyfriend for him. It think sometimes its unreasonable to ask someone that.

It did happen twice in my life. However, the argument with the friend about boyfriend and me wasn't there. The situations were different from each other. Once I told my boyfriend to give up his best friend who was a serial cheater and had poor definition about love. In my previous relationship, I knew that my ex was very much influenced by his friends and that totally caused frustration in our relationship. Plus he used to gossip about me and I hated that. So when me and my boyfriend met and fell in love he told his serial cheater friend that he was in love with me. On hearing this, that cheato told my boyfriend something like "dude, that is cheesy, don't tell me again that you are in love". My boyfriend came and told me about it and I got furious in my mind. But then every time that guy called him my heart started beating faster. I was wondering all the time whether my boyfriend was getting brainwashed by him. Then came a day when he went to that guy's house and did not text me for 6 hours. I got more worried than ever. After that, me and boyfriend ended up arguing and I just ended up telling him that it would be either that guy or me. So my boyfriend broke up with that guy. In another case, one of my very close friends said a bad thing about my boyfriend. I got mad and cut off my friendship with her. I don't see a reason to make friendships too emotional. Friends come and go. Anyone can be our friends. However, we cannot expect them to know us emotionally. When they find love they get buys with that. Why should we sacrifice our own love for them? It is possible to have relationships with many partners. But we can love only one person.

You should ask yourself how you can stand both when they cannot stand each other. There may always be more than meets the eye. Who stood by your side when you are down, who is your constant confidant? There may not be a need to give up one for the other. Who knows, in the long run, you may have to give up both of them. I hope not though.

That is really very difficult. That would need a big time to think it over and over.

I think it's really up to you as to who you think is more important and if it's worth it. But personally I don't think it's necessary to even have to choose between the two. It's kind of low of your boyfriend to ask you to give up your best friend. Is it not possible to avoid them having to see each other? I'm sure you can spend time with your boyfriend without having your best friend around and same for your best friend.

Don't take actions based on their actuation. Always follow your heart. You don't want to lose them both, I bet. If this is what your heart dictates, then don't be forced to choose. Will they both dump you if you're not going to make a choice as to who between them? So, think again. In reality, both of them deserve you, and it's only you who can make them realize that they are acting like kids. Make them behave like good adults do. Good luck.

Since they are both dear to you, I guess the best you could do is try to know what is the root of their disagreement. This is the only thing I can think of so that you won't lost any of them.

I just want to ask why in the first place that your boyfriend and bestfriend had argued to each other? Are you also involved in their fight? Because if you are involved there then you must really choose your boyfriend over your bestfriend. If you are the one who triggers the fight between them whatever it is that makes your boyfriend intimidated about it then bear with the consequences.

Hi princess051585, As many of the replies here state, you shouldn't have to give up either of them. You choose your best friend as a best friend for a reason and you also chose your boyfriend as a boyfriend for a reason. Unless one or the other has done something unforgivable towards you then there shouldn't be any need to choose one over the other. They are going to have to thrash out their reasons for not getting along and ultimately it is your choice and yours alone to keep them both in your life. Another thing I'd like to mention here. You don't say how long you have been with your boyfriend, but tread carefully because if you are seeing to give up something or someone that you shouldn't have to right now, what kind of precedent is that showing your boyfriend for the future? What else will he expect/ask of you to give up unnecessarily and unjustifiably? IrishGal77 :)

I don't think that in the situation i will go with my best friend. Because i trust my best friend more than boy friend. But in my case, by best friend and my girl friend is one person. So i don't suffer this problem.

I wouldn't leave my best friend at any cost.

can you sure you and your boy friend forever? but i think your best friend forever

You shouldn't even have to choose or give up either of them but if it really comes down to choosing then you should think about things like who was in your life first, who was there to help you through tough times and who is more important to you. I reckon your boyfriend should take some time out to relax, sometimes we think and say things we don't really mean out of anger.

I won't choose unless I see a clear reason to. I would try to make them both work it out but if it still doesn't then I'll have to talk to the both of them. I can spend time with each separately, therefore avoiding conflicts. I do not want to give up important people because another one does not agree with him/her.

It's a difficult scenario. I would not give up any of them. I will just make a compromise. I will ask them to be civil with each other. I will not let them be in the same situation. Like my birthday, I will celebrate it separately - one with my best friend then another day with my boyfriend but not with the two of them.

Who I would choose? I will never choose between a best friend and/or partner. I don't see the need in it. If a partner is asking that from you (to give up your friends) I wonder what he/she will ask next. To abandon your family, your kids, to give up your life? A partner like that you should kick out of your life! We all need friends and I do believe that in the end a best friend is ore precious as a boy friend.

u should not give up any one of them. u have to ask them to accept each other, for your sake. they are your friends so they shouldnt leave you in this dilemma.

I would insist on with my friends,you konw, boyfriends and girlfriends are gonna come and go, but,bestfriends that is for life. If he really is in love with you, he should at least repect my choice and my friends.

I don't think you can be able to decide between two people who are precious to you. Of course, it's a different kind of precious for the boyfriend than it is for your best friend, but you probably wouldn't want to miss any of them. If I were in that kind of situation, I'd rather try to sort out whatever conflict there is between them. There are only very few kinds of conflicts that cannot be solved. Of course, they might never become really good friends, but there should be a way to make sure they both respect each other. On the other hand, I'd also become very angry with my boyfriend if he asked me to give up a good friend I had before starting to date him. It's just not possible.