Only One of Two To Select... Still Takes a While or Longer To Select!

Hi Viju, How are you?

don't forget the maybe's the shades between pure white and ebony black

Hi Viju yes, life is not all about the two only... as you rightly point out there are ifs buts (TWO again) and also little choices or major choices(TWO again) Opting to participate by selecting one of the available choices or not again is TWO. (Gosh! Think, I am going crazy i guess) Yes, I need more options everywhere - why only Life

Anything wrong mamu?

@ sree Hello sis... Mine is "whiter shade of pale" neither good or bad, live or die etc... I choose "OR" -just kidding

Hi didi Good = Better and Best ! TWO AGAIN That is the point. We go on classifying, most of the time we get two options. I am not confused just trying to find a logical answer if any to this problem. Even poems from greats - To Be or Not To Be! Two Again... even they were haunted by this two

Hi sree, Its true. Sid - r u confused? if yes - have some coffee, chocolates or some tea.. see you have more options. lol.

Hi myfb You know dear, food and chocos (even coffee) make me go crazy! So I can very well understand the reasons why we go berserk when we are to select from a variety of dishes of our liking or even when we are hungry And yes, I must say I agree with you when you say - we must make the decision our self Unfortunate that when we take a wrong decision, many a times we dont realize that the simplicity was made into something complex by us only and also we start blaming others. Anyways, this is not a gloomy post or discussion, so nothing more on the sad things... but coming back to chocos... I love anything dark - cofee flavored (just in case you want to gift me anytime)

and chocolates, perhpas or maybe? lol lol lol

Now, you are asking for chocolate gift from me, just because i pop-in your discussion? Yes Hatley, lets give him some delicious chocolate candies...Hope Thesids will likes to eat it.

Hi bro I have two ways to address you - Dear AKP or Dear Bro (this Bro again is like two options - Brother or b'Rather)... Anyways, if the problem you talk of is minor (hope it is not about GFs or even study) and can be shared, let me know, I will try to put it in the TWO categories...

Ha ha.. Wasn't much and already solved too... I was confused about my wearing for some family function and had too many options..

Wow... dressing up... Shorts or Full Pants, Tees or Shirts or Even Casuals or Formals

Hi adnileb Great article - God Vs Science. But I have a little more to add to the Darkness... There are two kinds (again I start, but seriously not in context) - One s without the lights (the one that this article excerpt mentions. And the other is darkness when you dont have eyesight. In effect, I feel one can still see in the dark if he has eyes but those who dont have eyes dont see anything even when there is light. So Light doesnt have much role in playing whether you are able to see or not... it is the eyes that do the viewing. (Seems I am definitely not in the right set of mind today) MyLot will find me or I will find mylot... I know this is tricky again... but I prefer to find mylot rather than it finding me... I am not famous or lost to be found

Seems right.... What can be the probable reasons... need to spend time thinking and finding them out

I am 100% sure that you're not in the right set of your mind today. Better rest for a while and soon find mylot.

Thank you Hatley. Earlier I was trying to think of examples of when MAYBE is a good option but I was drawing a blank and then had to go to work. I just got home and am so glad to see your response. It's perfect and I really wasn't in the mood for thinking tonight. Sid....What Hatley said!

but the sids som etimes maybe is the best opotion as it leaves r oom for change yes and no are definite carved in stone, maybe gives us a third choice and lots of times this is the one that works for me. it maybe a shade of grey or off white but its a good maybe as when I had asked if my mom could babysit for us when our kids wer young and she had answered" maybe I can if your dad has not other plans." so the day before we wanted to go out on a date she called me andsaid"yes I can babysit as your dad is called back to 'so uth Dakota for several days." so the maybe worked out fine.life is not all black and white, there are other shades too.

Hi dear Sid The Maybe! I forgot that one dear... But it seems I am not a good person when it comes to using this word... at least today... I am more confined to the black or white theory and I just feel horrible when I am undecided. I call the Maybe as a Hanging Situation and many a times this nearly kills me. Blame it on my star signs (at times - the cusp of Virgo and Libra) or even anything else. However, I wish I could learn the art and stay happy with that Unsure feeling - would definitely help I believe as many a times, I wish I had a third option

As much as possible, I don't take the third option. It makes life a bit dull if I always stay neutral or indifferent about things. Choosing an option would always lead you somewhere which makes life a bit more exciting.

Hi beamer For once... I see a better response here on my question leaving the entire thing off and moving to another one... but here too I see you take one of the two options - You Chose to Answer or Refrain from Answering.... The Mystery Deepens

Ok...life for me is like a "Rainbow" colorful, intriguing, interesting, mysterious and a lot more... And about MJ...his life is short :p

Hi di I didnt say Life is Black or White. MJ Did to inspire me

hi metatronik Well, I think it is easier to make a choice when you have a limited set of choices to select from.

Hi yspmyl Of course dear! Making the right Choices and sticking with them needs some foresight and the ability to take the right decisions. But again, there is no guarantee that you are always right...the theory of risk to be taken or not has its pros and cons (as you rightly mention)

Hi toni never mind the little one who is keeping you busy and sometimes upset. It is a pleasure to see your response on my discussion after so many many days I prefer white if I have to select between black and white and it is quite always. So I dont take too much time... But yes, I would love situations when I can select both - sometimes with chocos and cakes - You can't have the cake and eat it also... Though I think, unless I have the cake how can I eat

Hi mtr I dont deny the fact that we all need both the shades or even more many a times. We do to enjoy more, do more and also live more. The question is that why do we have things which mostly get classified and fall in two segments. Personally I stick with the options which come my way. And select one from the two. If I try to look out for a third or more, chances are that I get more confused and stand more chances of doing mistakes.

hi victor personally I feel that things are quite simple. We start complicating them because of our own thoughts, interventions to have more of choices for us. And there starts all the trouble. So I try to see things in pairs as this helps me take decisions easily and also lead a simpler life.

absolutely, correct.

I would say that greed or hate does not have much to do with this sid.Basically, if you choose to look at two options, any decision becomes simple.THis is ok with decisions; but in interactions with people you give the benefit of doubt to a person thereby allowing this shade of 'grey' to creep in.It muddles your thought but also keeps you from being less stern.For example, if I get hurt by a person I tend to give excuses to that person's way of thinking or circumstances or start looking back if I had provoked it even when I am guilt free and the other person has just gone out of her/his way to hurt me.On the other hand, my husband who can see only two shades just dismisses it , stops interacting with a person and goes his way.He keeps his mind free but is supposed to be less social than I.I am supposed to be friendly and this comes only when you are slightly lenient.

Dear Kalav Thanks for appreciating my discussion. Personally, I believe that life is always easy with the fewer options it provides us. But as we grow and start getting into the worldly affairs, we want more options from life and this is where I see all problems start. I have been able to live simpler just because I think and see things in two shades only. I know many consider this approach insane but I dont bother as after all it is my life and I decide what I make of it. It helps in keeping my brain and heart free from many vices like greed or even hate or jealousy and I am able to devote some more of their free time into things which I feel help me in better ways

Here is why I think this gets attached with greed and other vices - If I know and have no desire of more options, I stay confined to what life gets me. If not, say I want something else, I have to work more, fight more, and if at end I dont get that - I do feel pain as I see my efforts wasted. The vices come in when I cross and desire more... And also, yes, when it comes to interaction, I feel things still become easy - As you expect or dont expect. I dont. So I dont get to face the worries and sadness that oh dear, I was expecting this from you and you did just the opposite. On a broader sense, this helps. I am not sure still how to make it effective in the marginal sense but I am thinking on those lines. And hope I will have some proper examples for my stand. (going by the example of your hubby and you - well, in our case too the same stands. But I dont get to close all relations between me and those whom I dont need. I dont see the Bad Shades here, and just keep my choice to okay, distant) It may seem that I am getting heartless but that isnt the case. I love all - no matter whether they hurt me or make me happy.

Now they want me to think about either going on disability or seldom working. That's another entire couple of discissions to consider. At least it's only two, some day I might have 3 or 4. Thanks and take care, too. I will keep prayers for you in my heart also.

Hi writers I can understand and even relate to what you mention. Holidays are things that we all wait for so long and just before these if you see them standing a chance of being ruined for such health issues, making the right selection really becomes a big task. I am happy that things are improving and you are feeling better. Prayers from my heart always for you my dear friend

Hi SomeCowgirl Then a third option is just darn near impossible or out of grasp! I won't even mention expensive! Quite true. Many a times these are directly expensive or lead us to situations which make these decisions look expensive

Hi Porcospino There are always two choices. Two paths to take. One is easy. And its only reward is that it's easy. Great Quote indeed and so much meaningful. The gray shades are good many a times no doubt, but (personally) most of these gray shades add only to confusions, lure us into the wrong paths. I also think that these gray shades are made only by us to add to our own problems.

Hi sishy yup I like this one... the two can be opposites and as a matter of examples, yes these are opposites. Which does create a greater difference between the two.

Hi liyuan That is what everyone does dear... select what you want But then, at a later time dont start blaming yourself or anyone - if you could be this way... any decision you take would be fine