the showoff.

Singapore
March 2, 2012 2:53am CST
i'm a green belt and i have this black belt junior in my club. i am older than him and trains a hell of a lot harder than him.but he doesnt really train because he thinks he is a black belt. he is constantly showing off how "good" he is but he cant even do a nice kick above waist level. he doesnt listen to his seniors when he is told to train. i just hate his attitude and feel like kicking him out of the club. they say that it isnt the belt that matters but how hard the person trains and the quality inside him, do u guys agree with me?
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@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
My oldest brother used to join a self defense club in my city when he was in High School and he has achieved the highest level. He was also the assistant trainer. My mom and dad put him in the club so that he could protect himself when there are people who attack him. However, one day he went home from school with a bruise on his face. My mom forced him to tell what happened and he told her that he was beaten by a boy in his school because of a girl. He didn't fight him back as he knew that he could him. So he asked my mom whether she was ready to lose the son as if she was he would go back to that boy and fought back. Of course that made sense. :) My second brother went home from the ATM with our cousin one day and some men came and pointed their knives and asked them to hand their wallet. My brother could have fought them but as my cousin was afraid, he just gave the wallet. He didn't fight them because they could hurt my cousin. So the point is, I think what you said is right. It's not about the belt, but it is about the attitude. I don't know about the green, black or red belt as long as the person who holds the belt knows the point of the training. If this junior still acts like he's an expert, why don't you try to challenge him in a fair fight? You know, just to give him a lesson. It can be watched by all of the members of the club and also the trainers. ;) See if he knows the point.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
Well, I know that you get the point, but does your junior get it? :D Someone must kick his as* first to make him understand. Lol.
• Singapore
3 Mar 12
let him get his butt kicked in his competition and we'll see how much more of a brag he is :)
• Singapore
2 Mar 12
totally agree with u man. i get what u mean. but i dont think i'll ever bring myself to do that. i did spar once with a friend, got him bad. and for the whole month, i felt guilty, REALLY guilty. so i think he'll get it when he does sparring with those better than him. i really admire your brother. i get that feeling, sometimes, it just isnt about recognition and winning. it's just something deeper..... i get it :) thank you for your time :D
@jessy589 (18)
• Germany
2 Mar 12
Well, the belt color in martial arts is not unimportant and it does say something about the experience somebody has, I guess, but of course that's no reason to become all stuck-up. Have you ever personally talked to this guy about his attitude? If no, could it be he doesn't even really know how much it upsets you and other members? Maybe he's just not really good when it comes to communication with others, so he might not notice how much his attitude angers you. I wouldn't go as far as kicking him out of the club without having had a good talk with him. How is your club organized by the way? Can you exclude members so easily?
• Singapore
2 Mar 12
its like a school club or something. i told him a number of times that everyone here is to be treated equally and all that counts is experience and skill. he said," yea, i know". but in the end, he is just the same. i really cant believe it. i wouldnt say i'm an expert, so when the others are doing sparring, i usually keep my mouth shut and let my instructors do their thing ( comment, giving tips ). but the "pro" beside me is talking non stop and telling them what to do when a junior and more skilled white belt can kick his butt. man, this pisses me off :(
• Germany
2 Mar 12
Hm, that really sounds like a difficult situation. Is there a possibility that you can have a kind of conference about that guy in the club, to discuss how to deal with him further on? I mean, he does sound like somebody who's difficult to handle, but I guess if you just throw him out without warnings and notices, it could be bad for your club's reputation.
• Singapore
3 Mar 12
guess as much. but i can see everyone already have had enough of his bragging. maybe i'll talk to him, if he doesnt change. then i'll do what i have to do then. thanks!
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
i agree with you nonsense HS 100%, I know a lot of guys who shows off a lot and then gets beaten in the game by the more focused and determined once, a person maybe naturally gifted in a sport or trade but if you don;t practice you become dull rusty even and becomes vulnerable to opponents with new techniques if not learned.
• Singapore
3 Mar 12
yea. as long as i dont rust, i'm ok with whatever he does. but when the time comes, he'll see he cant even spar with the white belts. thanks for your advice :)