how could a mother hate her own child!

@sharay (2769)

India

March 2, 2012 5:02am CST

This has actually happened with one of my friend's friend. her husband was doing very good both physically and financially well until they had their daughter, a month or so after her birth, he met with an accident and had to be operated on his leg and has a lot of trouble with it until now, he is able walk without any problem, but not fast, he does not have to use any crutches though, he does not feel that way about the child at all, but his wife feels so that the child is the cause for everything that has happened in their life for all this happened in their lovely family only and right after the birth of their child and she hates that child for that, but she is the one taking care of her, how could a mother hate her own child

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@Dominique25 (9464)

• United States

2 Mar 12

Yes it is so sad that anyone can hate their child. Especially a mother though. She has to understand that her child is not the cause of their problems. Her child has nothing to do with any of those things that happened to them. She didn't even ask to be born into this world. Unforeseen occurrences befall everyone. And they brought her into this world knowing that. Including the fact that their daughter can be affected by aweful things throughout her life. So the mother has to deal with the things that she is going through because of the accident. And get over the thoughts that it is her daughters fault.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

yes and hope she can come of it as early as possible before it starts to create a major impact on the child's life

@Dominique25 (9464)

• United States

6 Mar 12

Me too. It is sad that there are people who feel this way about their child. There is so much love that a child has to offer. They are truly precious and need to be treated as such. Because it isn't her childs fault.

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@lamineramzi (59)

• Romania

2 Mar 12

Usually the parents that hate there child or abuse them ar persons who are having trouble in their lives. Trouble at work, no money, trouble in marriage are the most big problems that lead to that behavour. Nevertheless they have no excuse to do such horrible things and they really need to go to some therapy.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

The main factor that bothers her is not even the money but that her husband is not the same as he used to be, but she must be thankful that it was not a major accident and he is able to walk now after a year

@espoir (184)

• China

3 Mar 12

I guess the mother just wants to find someone to blame. And her child comes handy in the case. The mother must haven't experienced and setback in life and she just wants to enjoy the material and comfortable life and don't want to give.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

I feel it is the love for her husband that is hindering the love she feels for this child

@Tamosree1993 (1525)

• India

3 Mar 12

I also agree with you.

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@deodavid (4150)

• Philippines

2 Mar 12

Hi there sharay, well if she really hated her then why still take care of her then right, well mothers can't really completely hate there children in my own opinion except for the nutjobs out there but again i think even though circumstances are like that a mother would still be a mother whatever happens.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

i thought from your view point too, the fact that she is anyhow taking care of her is a great relief and that is mainly because of her husband for she loves her husband so much

@Mashnn (4501)

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2 Mar 12

It is a form of displacement where someone picks an innocent person to put blame on. I suggest this woman may also be suffering from a depression. It is unusual for any woman to her own child.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

2 Mar 12

sure she is under depression that her husband's health has deteriorated...but she is being unfair to her child

@Mashnn (4501)

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3 Mar 12

Sometimes it hard to judge someone especially when a medical condition is involved. I just do not think that she really want to do something bad to her child.

@dazzledlady (1618)

• Philippines

2 Mar 12

There is what we call post partum depression, the mother gets depress after childbirth. And that maybe the reason she hates her child and is likely acting opposite to a tender loving mother.I have read that it can be resolve with the help of counseling. But if the mother is really blaming the child for the misfortune in their family then its her belief. And I would still advise to seek counseling for the sake of the innocent baby.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

2 Mar 12

it is a post partum issue because the child is now 1-1/2 years old and still she does not want to get out of her stupid belief

@prinzcy (32305)

• Malaysia

3 Mar 12

I couldn't understand why as well. She probably depressed over what happened with her husband and find something or someone to place the blame on. Indeed she felt a bit better that way, though her daughter would felt the effect from it. She would continue to treat her like that until she realize it herself, which who knows when.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

4 Mar 12

I could understand that she might have felt better blaming that child, how could we even think of putting blame on an innocent infant who has got nothing to do with the situation she is facing

@airasheila (5454)

• Philippines

3 Mar 12

good day sharay, with regard to your topic discussion, perhaps, the mother does not really hate the child. it is just, the mother could not find person to blame and exactly when she gave birth, the situation was happened. as a result, all of her pains was threw out towards to her child. and because she is also thinking that timing of her giving birth the reason why the incident was happened. so with these instances, the mother was really in pain that she find it difficult and does not want to open her heart to another life that she must face.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

4 Mar 12

yes you are right and i hope at least once her husband is well healed, her hatred towards the child will turn to love...

@Metatronik (6199)

• Pasay, Philippines

3 Mar 12

That thing pisses me off and I hate the mother like that? Does she have logical reasoning? I can't see the logic of blaming an innocent child. Doesn't she think what would be the effect psychologically to the kid when she grows up? I won't be surprised if she will become rebellious against that mother. More so she sound like that kid is unwanted. Obviously her world is just turning around to her husband. She sounds immature and over crazy to guys.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

there cannot be any logical reasoning for the child is only 1-1/2 years old and is full of health. hope she comes out of this madness very soon

@Archaiwy (599)

• China

3 Mar 12

I think the mother may misunderstand her child.Chilren are innocent,and they will do no harm to everyone especially her parents.It is quite wrong to blame their child for their misfortune.It's a kind of blind faith.And it's unfair for the child.It's an obligation for parents to raise their children .

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

to her, it is just an obligation to raise that kid, she does it mainly for her husband's sake

@surekharathi (14146)

• India

3 Mar 12

This is shame if mother hate her child. Now the parents born the child 2,3 or more and then they annoy on them or every time beat them that is not good.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

4 Mar 12

yes...she beats her child too, she says that she is unruly and had to use a cane...hope this stops very soon, otherwise, i have decided to speak to her myself

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@thelmadacullo112659 (642)

• Philippines

3 Mar 12

Perhaps mother could hate her daughter if her daughter commits mistakes.Thats it.Mother will be angry and hate her if she is not doing well to her parents..

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

but this is a small child, she is still an infant, what could have she done to her

@Tamosree1993 (1525)

• India

3 Mar 12

I don't think that. Every mother loves her child.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

hope and pray that she start to love her child

@gracepadirog (201)

• Philippines

3 Mar 12

how could a mother hate her own child! - it is true that some mother hate her own child, if the child is unwanted too be born, or when she got pregnant her husband or boyfriend abandoned her and leave her alone, mother hates the child.also, i think that lady is not normal she's abnormal person!

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mother hate her own child

@sharay (2769)

• India

4 Mar 12

mother hating their child are very rare cases, one very close to me behaving like that was a shock to me, my friend is trying to speak her out of such thoughts, lets hope she comes out of her stupid belief

@Sreekala (34312)

• India

2 Mar 12

Hi sharay, I heard that some parents say, our child brings luck for us, if their life developed after the birth of the baby and vice versa. There is no issue when good things happen but on the opposite side, it really creates problem. It is a kind of superstition to believe the birth of the child brings bad luck. Up and downs in life is natural and blaming the innocent child never find any solution. If she thinks like that she will spoil not only the peace at home but her child’s future too.

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@sharay (2769)

• India

2 Mar 12

the child's future is what i am worried about, it is complete superstition, how come an educated person could fall for such things

@salonga (27775)

• Philippines

12 Mar 12

A child is the source of joy - Well-loved child

How could they ever blame the child for all these misfortunes that befell them? They must be really stup!d for thinking that way. The child is too innocent to have caused all those things. Just because all the bad things happen after her birth does not mean she is the reason and the main cause of the misfortunes.

Instead of hating the child they should rather find joy in the child. They should rather thank the Lord that despite the things that beset them, they still have a child and make her the reason for them to hold on and keep fighting till the storms pass by their life.

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@liyuan5665 (89)

• China

2 Mar 12

really i can't believe.the maternal love is great i heard the young mother putted up a car to save her kid so ask that mother why?

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@sharay (2769)

• India

3 Mar 12

I intend to speak to her, but donno how and when because i have been introduced to her by my friend only once in our daughter's school function