When you are your best friend, you hardly feel lonely
By katie0
@katie0 (5203)
Japan
March 2, 2012 4:15pm CST
Of course we need a boyfriend, husband, fiancé, wife and a friend but I think that people who are really good to their own, that have that healthy self dialogue hardly feel lonely.
Maybe loneliness comes from we abandoning our own in a manner that now someone else must fullfill the void.
People with good selfesteem treat themselves well and are comfortable when they need to be lonely or are single. Now insecure people are terrified of not having boy/girlfriend and actually makes fun of those who are single now.
I remember at 27 I was single for a time and a girl that I heard she saying had a terrible relationship asked me if I had a boyfriend, I said no, normally, with no shame and she looked down at me and asked why but her expression and tone showed she felt superior, I wasn't going to say anything but that pissed me off, I told her that it was because I wasn't in love to anyone wich I find it obvious. She kind of laughed and said yeah but at 27? Then she pushed so I answered her that I rather be happily single than to pretend like her and fight in a doomed relationship. She was really shock but she provoked, she should seen that coming.
I'm really against being in a relationship with any other reason than love. Either we love or not, if not, it's time to get out.
That goes for bad friendships as well, there are people that take so much from those who are not really a good friend.
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8 responses
@picjim (3002)
• India
4 Mar 12
Being attached to someone is good.It is even better if that person loves and cares for you.But that is no reason to gloat and belittle others.Your friend deserved what she got from you.She invited trouble by needling you.If one is at peace when one is all alone then that shows one is comfortable with oneself.That is a good trait than basing our happiness on how others reciprocate or being in a relationship where there is no true happiness.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
3 Mar 12
Hi katie: I feel just as you said. I don't feel alone because I am my best friend. I tried to feel busy and don't worry too much about relationships and having friends. I prefer just to have one friend and it's real than having a bunch of fake friends. At the same time, the most importance thing is feeling comfortable with yourself.
ALVARO
@GemmaR (8517)
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3 Mar 12
I think that being able to enjoy your own company is brilliant, and I wish that I was like that, but I always need my family or friends around me otherwise I just feel as though I am very bored with nothing to do and nobody to talk to. It is better to be on your own than it is to be in a bad relationship though, and sometimes it is nice when you come out of a relationship to be able to take a little bit of time to yourself and rediscover the person who you really are rather than the person who you were forced to be by your relationship.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Hi there katie)
I think being single is great, but since ive found my one true love i think differently now, well anyway in my opinion whether your single or not as long as you treat yourself right it is all okay, and not only you are going to know it people will surely admire you for loving yourself as much as your partner.
@trinkabelle (432)
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3 Mar 12
i agree that we need people around us to not feel lonely, but this is only me speaking for myself, i don't NEED a boyfriend or husband, i got rid of him ages ago because his family were too heavy to handle, too much drama and trouble, if he hadn't have had kids we would be together now but this is not the case, i have been single for about 3 years now and i just love it, i have my friends back again, before that they wouldn't come here because they didn't like the vibe he gave off, i was very lonely without them, even having him around, i was still lonely, they stopped contacting me and coming round for our usual girlie nights in, my family are enough to keep me company now and my friends the same, but i do agree that we all need somebody in our lives
@silence777 (121)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
sorry but it sounds weird to me.
Maybe I misunderstood but having a dialogue with yourself sounds crazy. Or maybe you're a very independent person who doesn't need other people's opinions to tell you what to do.
Whatever you're doing, I wish you luck.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Mar 12
I think being single is becoming quite common, especially in women these days, I think women have come of age and know they can handle controlling their own life and live the life they want in their own way...all my married friends it is the male that makes all the important decisions in life, I am afraid that doesn't go well with me...
@Cranos (273)
• Belgium
2 Mar 12
I think it's about taking control of your life. People with high self esteem take action when they feel lonely while when people with low self esteem feel lonely or just bad in general they tend to keep sulking and moping around (I know I do). It's not so much about not feeling loneliness then it is about how they deal with the feeling.
You're totally right about staying single though. Living a lie must be terribly frustrating and the real deal is supposed to be really great (until you grow old and bitter).
