What if your best friend for 10 years suddenly have a bf or gf.

Maybe she got tired of waiting for you...

The smartest thing I received in emails lately says our friends are given to us for a time and for a purpose. Eventually, however, most leave us, whether they just drift away, or we have an argument, or one of us marries and moves to a different part of their lives where we don't quite fit. All of this is very true and seems to be what has happened in your circumstance. Your friend has served her purpose in your life and now she has moved on. Wish her godspeed and let her go. Move on with your life and don't let losing her stop you from enjoying everything you do. Hugs, Maggie

I had a friend who after she got married stopped talking to me. She had a baby and I found out from a mutual friend. I was devastated because she said I was like a sister to her. I tried to make contact with her and its hard.

Don't think too much about it. I don't think she hated you. It was probably she was too busy with her own problem. You never knew what actually happened to her. Please don't think negatively about her.

Most of the Girls doing this because of their Life need to Comfortable and Move on Smooth with his Family, the fact is they are Girls. Most Important reason the boy who is loved now his husband has to do this. Most of the Guys doing this because of the Possessiveness they have. It's the reason they are doing like those thinks in my View.

yeah i think you deserve to know since you're her bestfriend , but right now all you can do is to be hapy for her and wish her luck :)

I would probably forgive my best friend for not confiding that she is in a relationship. But not getting invited to her wedding or even knowing about it is a definite disappointment for me. It would make me feel unimportant after all the years that we have known each other. I know that some women consider being married and having kids as another phase of their lives that they don't feel like sharing with their single friends. But on the other side of the coin, your friend may have reasons for not letting you know about it. Maybe she feels that you might not approve of the relationship (I have had a friend like that who doesn't tell us that she is in a relationship for fear of being judged, which we don't really). I suggest to just let it be and maybe someday you and your friend will bump into each other and your old friendship comes back.

Well that's really sad, I have some discussion here about my friend that I missed, it's only for a month that we don't have communication and I've been so worry about it. So much in your case knowing your friend has been married and bare a child and she didn't bother to tel you. The best thing you can do about it is to talk to her, if you both have problems that she turn her path from you. Being away from my best friend in many months I thought of many things from having a best friend in life is not permanent relationship. Time will come you will be separated but you never expected it to happen. For now we must treasure the things together so that if someday they are not around the memories are still there.

I guess this shows that one can never take anybody for granted.What you thought was friendship has turned out to be false.She may have withdrawn from you maybe because of her boyfriend but you should have atleast communicated with her once in a while and then maybe she would have invited you for her wedding.I feel that both of you are to be blamed equally for this.However life goes on.I am sure you will find someone to replace her.The world is big enough for more friends.

That is really weird...Yes, friends sometimes grow apart because of bf or gf- especially if you are not friends with their lovers- but losing complete contact is another issue. Do you still know where she is? You should have a talk with her to clear things up, it's hard to just forget 10 years of friendship..

I know it was unfair with you when you have heard from other people that she already got married and had given birth already knowing that you were best friends for 10 years. But, she must have a good reason for that. You have to consider that generally there are insecurities and dislikes on both sides. What I mean is that for most women who get married, their husbands do not trust their new wife hanging out with their friends especially male friends. So, just understand her situation my friend. Be happy for her. I know one of these days, she will be looking for his best friend. I know very well that she will call you. Just trust her.

A long friendship for 10 years just doesn't disappear. Right now, you think she's avoiding you. Maybe, she thinks you're avoiding her. Mistakes tend to happen like this and can change life dramatically. So, call her up and talk to her. If this is not the issue, there must be something else troubling her. The best thing is to call her or better yet, meet her in person and talk to her. Hope this helps :)

I was in a simular situation with my best friend of 22 years, she didn't want me in her life as much as we were. It was ok for her to know me when she needed my help, but when I needed her she didn't want to know, You think you know somebody, but really you don't and it does hurt as they are like sisters to you. I just thought to myself well its her loss, If they were a true good friend they would see what relationship you have with each other despite the situation. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve I told myself. We still do not speak, its a shame but life goes on. Friends move on with their lives let them I say. Its their loss :0)

hey my friend I feel so sad for you,but in china ,it's so simple in our life(yeah I'm form china ),my suggestion is,forget your best she,becaus she has a new life now,and the reality is in her new life,without you.so ,my friend,face the reality,began your new life!

That is sad for you, maybe she is the type of person who doesn't want girlfriends around, years ago when I was going with this boy I kept my best friend and I used to bring her everywhere that me and my boyfriend went until one day I had a party and things happened between them and she had the cheek to say it was my fault because when you have a boyfriend you have to step aside from your girlfriends, I never did believe in this but unfortunately after that I soon learnt that maybe it is a nature thing that when you get a boyfriend girls should keep girlfriends away, because I trusted both my friends 100% and look what happened... just a thought.

I will be happy for her/him even though I might feel a little bit lonely. But in your case, she doesn't seem to treasure your friendship very much.

Wow, that's terrible that she isn't contacting you anymore. But it's great news that she got married & had a baby. I'm really sorry that this has happened to you. Maybe her husband is controlling/jealous and doesn't want her to talk to other guys?

It's not normal for her to do that. It certainly happens to most people that friends drift apart, but not even inviting you to her wedding or letting you know she's pregnant is really weird. That's not drifting apart anymore, that's cutting you out of her life. I'm not sure why she does that. The thing that comes to mind is that this guy was uncomfortable with her having a best male friend, but of course it could be something completely different. If I were you I'd be really mad and demand a reason, but I'm sure that's not the most ideal reaction (even if it is justified).

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