How do you control anger?

@ajalitus (127)
United States
March 2, 2012 11:09pm CST
I'm generally a calm person but sometimes, someone or something (if they really try hard enough) can piss me off. I realized that I need to develop a way to control the rage felt when the unexpected becomes reality....because I'm certain there's gonna be a lot of times later in life that I will be mad. How do you deal with anger? Tips on handling it?
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@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
3 Mar 12
I eat dark chocolate sometimes. Other times I go for a walk alone and think, that helps me sometimes. If I can't do that I stay in my room alone and calm down and think as I breath. I've tried calming music while I lie down in bed but that only works for a few mins. Other then those I leave the situation or person if that is what is making me mad.
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I also leave the person or the place if i feel like bursting from anger. Other than that I do deep breathing and mind conditioning like rationalizing why being angry is not worth my time. It also help not to expect too much from others. Sometimes its the frustration that triggers anger in us. Hope it helps!
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 12
Hii ajalitus... Well nobody is perfect. People get mad, people get crazy, people get sad, etc, etc. It is normal, if you don't get mad easily it is good. So when you get mad it means you are in your top of your patience. If you want to reduce your anger, just leave the people and be alone. Or just go to take some oarnge juice, it helps me to calm down whenever I am sad or mad :)
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@mikeley (318)
3 Mar 12
I quite often get into rage mode and I find the thing that calms me down the most is just to think about all the good memories in your life and reflect on that. if that fails then just have a massive chocolate binge! :D
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
4 Mar 12
Anger is really something where many of us really just have to get a grip on it in our own ways. The problem is that we let it just simmer and build up for too long, as we keep get in a situation, as things tend to bubble and bubble, before things are just going to overflow and make us angry, losing our temper and really taking that aggression out on other people around them, no matter if it is not their fault. I think that in the end, I just sit back. I take a deep breath. If at all possible, I tend to pull myself right away from the situation. Easier said than done no doubt but that is really something that needs to be done. The longer that we stay in a situation that is causing our tempers to boil, the more likely we are just going to be flying right off at the handle. Channeling the anger productively is a good idea.
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I'm the type of person who really can't control my anger. When someone ruined my day, I throw a tantrums and Voila! I wasted a minute of a peaceful mind. Anger is inevitable but we can control it. What you must do is try to examine yourself. Remember the last time you got angry. What happened? What provokes you to be angry? When you do know the reason think again? If I can't have a grip of my emotion it can ruin my day and I lose a seconds of being happy. Remember: In every choice we made there is a consequence made.
• India
3 Mar 12
that's really nice you are calm almost all the time.. however according to the science research it said that angry is the weakest emotion in all emotions when a human being dont know to react to a situation he or she get angry so better keep is in mind at any cost i am not going to give up at any situation then you will have control on yourself ............. all the best
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I must admit I can't control my anger before I can get easily blast. Maybe because the stress I have in my everyday routine in life. There are lot of things to consider why people can't control of their anger and that's me before. Now I'm totally in peace no stress and I can manage my temper. If I felt it I just breath hard and count in from 1 up to 10 in my mind so I can composed my self to stay calm.
@GemmaR (8517)
3 Mar 12
You have to be very careful that you control your anger well, otherwise you will end up getting yourself into trouble about it. Whenever I am angry, I will take a few steps away from the thing that is making me angry, and I will take a few deep breaths. This means that it gives me the chance to calm down, and also the chance to think clearly about whether I'm overreacting to the thing that was winding me up or not. I have a friend who gets angry far too easily and he's going to end up hurting someone; I wouldn't want that to happen to me.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I control anger by drinking something cold. I try to do other things for me to forget what I'm getting mad of. If I got angry with someone, I would leave him as if I won't see him my anger would not prosper. I won't say anything or leave the house and buy something just for me to focus on a different angle that would control my anger.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Two most common tips to dissipate anger are deep breathing and visualization. Your controlled breathing relaxes your tense muscles brought about by your anger. Visualize also "happy" things while doing this. I for one have done this and it really works. But I think one other tip is to smile, force yourself to laugh if possible
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I get pretty mad easily so what I do to defuse the situation and to defuse my feelings is to get out the situation if possible. I would just go outside and try to calm my self down. I would either breath harder or think about something else. if I can't go outside then I would just try my hardest to say something that I don't want to be said to me. Putting myself in the other person's shoes makes me keep things in prospective.
• India
3 Mar 12
Angry is common fact for any living Creature. But it's not affect to much of animals Because it's not wounded the Heart. But our human anger always Break some hearts in all time. So control angry is need for us. Any calm person also frustrated in some time and then show thier terrible face to one. Some thinks i do on that time are not Leave the area we are getting angry hearing the speech of the imitateing us. Then doing meditation is always control our self in all matters.
• India
3 Mar 12
When i was angry i eat something.It's help me.
• Hong Kong
3 Mar 12
when somebody get me mad,the first thing i do is to calm doun my self inhale and exhale then read some passage in the bible,if the sitvation happen outside the best way for me is pray to God to calm me doun.
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I am an overly reactive person. I often express anger if a situation piss me off. A friend suggested that if madness occurs again (hehehe), I should breathe deeply for at least 5 seconds so that I could be a little more relax but if it can't help, I can totally openly express my anger. lol! But candidly speaking, it helps somehow. Try doing it.
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I must admit that I am not perfect in controlling my anger or rage, but I do believe that on average I am good at doing so. What I do is to focus on the underlying reasons and not work through emotions. Emotions can really pull out anger so one must be careful in keeping down the surge of emotions. Always deal with reason above emotion. If you can do this, it will be easy to cope up with anger. Anger management too can be done by doing breathing exercises. I suggest that once you are faced with a situation that can be triggering your anger, move over to try and breathe normally. People tend to have different breathing patterns when there are different feeling or emotions in them. Try to breathe in more oxygen when you are in the middle of the situation. The breathing time that you have can also clear your head and mind of surging emotions and can give you ample time to think about the situation and decide what your reaction would be within reason. It works for me so I hope that It'll work for you too.
• India
3 Mar 12
When i was engry i eat something. I drink a glass of water. Then my angry is my control