I guess i'm still not yet ready

I have experienced similar feelings as you. It be very hard to get over a heart break. We know that it would be best for us to work on ourselves, to improve our strengths and work on our weaknesses. But we feel the need to be with someone. We don't want to be alone. And when we are alone it feels as a huge burden of depression is upon us. I agree that it can be very difficult to give our heart to another person. Continue to give yourself the time that you need and hopefully when the right person presents themselves you will be ready and have love to offer him as well.

In my opinion when it comes to broken heart. Normally you would feel the pain and if you are with someone else, not exactly dating another guy but at least with your friends or even cousins of course you wouldn't feel the depression but only when you are alone. I don't think searching for another guy to love with would be a good idea because chances are you are just forcing yourself to love a person for the sake that your broken heart will release. Just believe to the fate that there will be someone coming to your heart. It couldn't be right now, tomorrow or just next week but you must be patient enough to believe that it will come to you soon as long as you have move on emotionally. Take time to release all the depression and pain alone. As much as possible do not commit into relationship while you were still having a broken heart and you still love the past boyfriend. Chances are you will compare it to your recent guy and it will come to a point that your boyfriend will be affected with your emotions that you are having now. BUT IT IS A CASE TO CASE BASIS. If it happens that you are now IN LOVE with another guy and you believe that he is really the one for you. Of course it has to be LOVE FOR EACH OTHER then GO ON with that relationship and as much as possible forget the past. Now you are asking what if your heart will break again and it was the same feeling for being painful. So here's my question now. Who is that guy you have chosen to be with? Have you observed his character before you commit into relationship? Or you are a type of a person that you wouldn't care about his character as long as you love him and you are confident enough to handle it no matter what. Why don't you hope and pray that there will be a right guy for you who will love you, value you as woman, respect you, a trustworthy and honest being, and responsible enough to fight his love for you?

hi! as the other mention, maybe most of us experienced that kind. it is really painful to gone through like that of yours. especially when we expect that he is the one for us. it is really hard to move on and thanks that you are doing well now. we really need a lot of time to heals and of course we need the help of God. i always hear this from people, that a true love always come at the right time so we should not look for it. i am sure that will come to you when you are really ready to have it.

I have been very lucky when it comes to relationship and the few that I have ever had, I was the one who initiated the breakups since I felt that I needed someone that we were more compartible. It takes times to love or trust again and is a normal thing for those who undergoes a painful breakup. There is nothing wrong with that and you are just need sometimes to get through your breakup and then gradually, you will be able to fall in love again.

Look, im going to be extremely frank about this. If you constantly run away from your problems, you will quickly become a stagnant person. You'll be doing nothing but writing yourself a sob story hoping that others will come and comfort you about it. You have to jump into the pit of your emotions and confront the problem head on, only then can you truly start to feel liberated again.

I ever felt the same like even until right now. I just think maybe we just need time to erase that for our memories and to heal our pain. It's right to be more careful and take care our heart, because we didn't wanna make the same mistakes cause it's very hurt..,

You are doing what's right. You need to take time for yourself and make friends and learn to love yourself. Take time to heal and mend your heart.

I think you are rushing back into dating. I believe if you keep this up you will get hurt worse then your were last year! Sounds like you want to be on the rebound and find happiness right away to heal your broken heart. You are asking for trouble and you are better being on your own until your heart is healed. In time it will. Just give it time! If you continue not to,I smell trouble and is around the corner! Men love (At least some do) to take advantage of a woman on the rebound like you! If you don't stop this you will get hurt again and I can not say that enough! I have been there and never will go there again!

Please don't rush to find a boyfriend. Calm down for some time till you are emotionally ready. I have some female friends who haven't got boyfriends since they broke up yeas ago.

Your a woman and better not to give in easily because it will give you pain again if you don't think about the real one that loves you, who you are and love must not only a promise but forever... We have the same problem, my friend. But I prefer to find someone who really loves as I am. I am really tired of my relationship with my partner who obviously ruin my life with 10 years of relationship. Now, I decide to end it up to find someone else better than her... I hope you find the better person in your life, my friend. The person that really cares and loves you forever...

Hello there I would like to put on some light on your questions.I myself got hurt and fallen in love so many times.It is better to have experienced those feelings and learn lessons from them.But I would like to reiterate that if you are not yet ready for another relationship, don't force it.Just because you got hurt and you want to forget all about it, forcing yourself to engage in a relationship while mending your broken heart is hard.You are actually engaging yourself again in another heartache.Try to calm yourself and not to think that it's the best solution.Try to go out with your buddies.,cry a lot it helps I promise you that.I am suggesting those to you because I have experienced those things and it helped me get better.Don't force yourself to see other guys and date., make friends but not boyfriends if I may say.Your heartache will eventually fade in time just like the saying goes " time heals all wounds " and I believe that.Someday when you are totally over your ex boyfriend it will eventually show and that is the time that you will feel that you are ready for another relationship.Just relax and stay happy. :)

Getting into a serious relationship is not as easy as everyone thinks. It requires commitment on both sides. But, a breakup from a committed relation can really change your whole opinion on relations. You may begin to feel that you cannot trust others anymore and will maybe stop relations for a long time. But, I feel that we should remember it's the past. If the breakup hurts too much, take a break or a vacation and learn to enjoy yourself rather than sulking at home. If you consider other men as a way to ease the pain, it won't happen. Just keep enjoying life and someone is bound to come by. Hope this helps :)

well I have been in that situation also. There time when I can't open my heart for new love. But then I realize that we just need time. It's ok if your heart not ready, give time. Keep up the friendship, someday one of them may be can touch your heart. Let your heart lead the way.

i went thro this but it was many many years ago. i had this guy that meant the world to me and i didnt know how i could b without him. we were so perfect we were planning on gettign married. when things ended the wayt hey did i thought i would never find ne 1 else that could have my heart. many of the guys i dated i would say "he means id great but the other was better" i guess i wanted what i had n the next guys. it took me about 2 yrs before i reazlized that no one would match up to him. he was basically my 1st real love that i just had to have. once i realized that it was just another chapter in my book of life that is when the healing began....now dont get me wrong when i did start dating i was scared,worried,nervouse,ect. but i tried to hide it. with this last guy i even went so far as i broke up with him scared he would do it to me but that hurt me and him both more than it did any good because i had finally opeded my heart again more than i had since him. well there is a happy ending i think you just havent found the right guy yet. i am married to the guy i broke up with many times because i was scared and we have 2 wonderful kids. so hang in there hes out there somewhere and only you will know when it is time to give it another shot :)

I think most people do go through this sort of thing, it is ok you know to take some time to have a breather from the relationship thing and learn to love yourself and that is another quality that will attract someone nice...

Second After Break you need to be more carefull because you already Broken heart so Give your heart again to who trust you and understand you better then your parents is cool and keep your heart relax and not Pain. Second after the Break is must need we need to run in our life always what problem comes life must go on. It's such more important to you to give Peace to the mind.

Your heart is still healing, so maybe it would be best to give it some rest to heal properly... Starting a new relationship has its risks. As long as you are still in love, your new partner might be kind of a replacement - if that's the case, better to be honest, so no one get hurts. We cannot lie feelings. Don't give your heart and trust if you are not ready, a new love will come but don't be in a hurry. I think it's good that you are meeting people, creating friendship with those who understand you can help a lot.

I think what you do is right. You are active and make yourself cheerful, by meeting friends and getting to know new people, instead of hiding in the room. I would say it's not easy to fall in love again, but you don't have to be afraid. Trust yourself and listen to your heart, look for the right person who can tell you 'I love you' truly and keep his promises. I'm sure you'll find happiness again!

Yes, I have the same situation. It was last year, I was engaged, but in the same year the guy told me that he regreted, he broke with me. After that I can't trust any man, I'm afraid I will be hurted again. I think we just need some more time to forget the pain, we need to belive the right guy will apear in our life.

according to me true love happens only 1 time in life and dats what u r also experiencing the same thing coz till now ua heart dint allow anyone till now..!!