Parents hurt by changes in behaviour of Children.

I have to believe that all children go through different stages in their life where there maybe times when they aren't as we raised them. I ignore them when they are speaking in a tone that is unsatisfactory to me, as I know we have raised them better, they know when we don't answer that they need to correct their tones. They do and they get the answer to whatever it was they were asking. When they do something incorrect they come to us and tell us and we deal with it. Sometimes if it's something so minor we discuss it and figure out a way to deal with it so that they know better next time, or they tell us what went wrong and how they have dealt with it. Don't get me wrong my children aren't perfect they have done some things that are less than desirable and we have had to deal with that as well, we as parents have learned to "not sweat the small stuff" so we choose which battles were going to tolerate and which we aren't going to.

I write as a father of 4 and a Grandfather of 5,I am very happy and proud of my family. I helped raise them as if they were small adults, with equal rights, and worthy of trust and love. We all lived happily together, and we continue that love and trust to this day. Our children made us strong, and the trust and love continues even to this day!

The closer it gets to the time a child grows up to leave home; the less they will agree with anything you say. Realize this has nothing to do with you. It's God's way of supplying a little push. As we become an adult we say things we don't really mean. Believe it or not, this will create wisdom in us all. We learn. When people say something that hurts me. I take it with a grain of salt. I look for truth then decide if I need to change. I consider who is speaking those words, where they are in life. I might just have something I can share and teach them. Love forgives the hurtful actions of anyone. In time, we will learn that it will bring peace and joy into our own lives.

good day apsara60, indeed it is true that there are some children who grew up having that behavior. no matter how the parents have molded their child/children to grow up disciplined but it is on the surroundings where the bad attitude was being adopted. most often than not, parents mold their children in a right manner. teaching good attitude and giving the right amount of disciplined needed. but, as the child grew up, he/she meets new friends that influences the attitude. hence, if the child is not really govern by the discipline and good attitude imparted to him/her by his/her parents, then, those children have the tendency to hurt their parents tremendously. thus, changes on the child's attitude is now taking place. and the values being formed and molded to him/her by parents was taken away slowly by the group of friends who influences him/her and the surroundings where he/she used to go. with reference to the above, perhaps, as a child, it will be best to take care of the values that has been teached to us by our parents. that we should always remember them every moment in our life. as these values will surely help us to gain our success in life. after all, parents are our guide during those years we need to learn. hence, we should do our best not to hurt them.

I had a daughter like that. Never satisfied. Already mean as a 1 year old (beating up her older sister). As she was 2-3 years old she stole from other kids and already was shoplifting. Never satisfied, always demanding, never sharing (although she found it normal others shared with her). I invested most time, energy, money in her but it was all useless. It was a relief to all of us she left at the age of 18. I don't feel any regret, dont feel ashamed, I don't see it as my fault, it is the way she is. I also was never blind for the kind of person she is or the character she has. I also don't care about her anymore I know she will always find a way to get what she want, by manipulating, abusing other people. She robbed many of her ex bf's as well, took all their savings, tear whole families apart. Don't be sad, invest your positive energy in yourself instead of someone who doesn't appreciate it. No matter if it's your own kid or a stranger.

hello friends, its really true parents get hurt when their now child is going on a wrong path in front of their eye sight and the hand are of no use at that moment In parent point of view children are like mud.. out of which they have to make a beautiful pot out of it and when the pot is ready by mistakenly the pot breaks than what feeling goes through them Now days children are growing with technology , they started thinking parents do not know anything that's really bad...........

I hope this discussion has not come up from a personal incident. But yes, change is inevitable. We cannot expect our kids to be obedient as they grow. Things change, lives change, people change. The situations and experiences that our kids face will not be the same as that of ours even though it does seem that way. And sometimes even if is the same situation, things have changed and the new generation reacts to it differently.

Hi aps! Very good post. It is so true that as our children grow up and cross the age of 16, they start behaving differently due to hormonal and other changes. They start believing that they have grown up so they could 'challenge' their parents and could say any damn thing to their parents. We also face the same situation and we scold our kids for their unruly and rude behaviour and tell them that they should not equate themselves with us.

oh,children's today are not in the proper teaching,nurture.It's the parents fault why they did not nurture in the early age to act not in disrespectful way. So that is the cause why kids act that way...If they train up in the right attitude,they will grow up with good manner.