People here you communicate with but haven't become "friends" with!

It's good you caught that you were not friends yet, because I have also been in discussions with a member, sometimes for years and it isn't until I decide to PM them about something that I realize we are not even friends when I thought we were... So I request them, I mean that way it would be easier to follow their posts, even though I thought I already was..

I agree with, my friend. Because in my stay here I don't find a real friend even a friend that I can regularly talk with... We can communicate to our friend list here but no one of them to be our real friend. Just add them into the friend lists but never being friend... I really wish that someday I found someone else here that different from the other. A friend that really want to be friend

There was actually one who I always find in the same discussions or in her discussions and I realized later that she wasn't in my friend's list, that is when I have decided to add her. My usual method now is I check my responded discussions, friend's started discussions, then I go to my interests, so I do participate in discussions created by members no in my friend's list as well. It's not too difficult to request anyway.

I respond to anyone's discussions. You'll notice that some users here are angry with me. It's because I responded to their discussions just to earn some money. But yeah, I don't choose where I'm gonna reply user-wise, just topic-wise. I'm trying to respect others on their discussion because some users really are sensitive when it comes to the discussions they've posted.

If I like a topic I respond regardless of whether we are 'friends' and just between you and me of the friends I have most of them have requested me to add them. I find no reason to clog my friends page as that list has not influenced me in any way.

Hello, JenInTN. There are many people here who I respond to because I like the discussion. A few of them have not been responding as much, but that is understandable. Things in life happen. I have only requested 1 person as a friend because I knew her personally...my ex...and that turned out to be a problem. She has not been active for several months, but that is okay. I remember I responded to a discussion you started, a week ago or so, and you said that you were going to take a look at my discussions. That was to let me know if you were going to accept my friend request. I may not be making any sense, but maybe in my subconscious I fear rejection so I dont send them. I dont know. It is strange, but I work in a field where I get rejections all of the time. I come to myLot, and start discussions, and get it. Maybe after a long day of that, I just want to respond. I will gladly accept any friend request, because I will be a friend to anyone. Have a great day. :) :)

ya there are p[eople on here that i talk to some times. i really dont have much time to spend on here, but when i do i do talk to some of my friends on here to see if there is any thing new with them. most of the time we talk about new sites that we find or ask about other site. its all a matter of whats going on. i love making new friends theres always some new to learn about some one or some where.

I have so many friends here that I could never keep up with them all. It's incredible how many requests I have received but so many have never made a comment on any of my posts. I just accept everyone as I'm not prejudiced. I'm only here as I have time and look for very interesting discussions from my point of view.

Well jen... I have not met such a friend (without in list) with whom i interact pretty much. If it happens either s/he or me send a request and it gets accepted. I always follow my friends discussions first but not all of them of my list. There some members who respond to my discussion rarely and i also do the same with them. After friends, i check the profile of them who are not from my list but respond to me. Then i try to respond to at least one of their discussion. It is just an honor from me for their effort towards me. Have a nice time.

hi dear Jen, thats really funny. As soon as I find some similarities with mylotters I request their friendship. Have made some real great friends here and you are certainly one of the special people in my mylot life. Hugs to you and have a blessed week

I sometimes think about how much the friendship is real : I remember last year I communicated with a celebrity on facebook , asking her how she lost her weight and wether she would like to go to the salsa club. She responded and we exchanged messages... I added her on my friends list but then , I realized we had no more things to talk about and I started to lose interest with her. She was just a regular human being like everyone else and she was a stranger. In mylot , I think the friend list adds to the mylot digest email notifications. If someone has interesting discussions and he find my discussions interesting , we better be friends so we can follow each other's discussion , respond them and make a progress. The friendship is mostly about things we have in common. With that celebrity , we probabely didn't have much in common.

Since I have only few friends, what I normally do is look at the discussion topics and choose the ones that interest me. Currently, I've started to send friend requests to myLotters whose discussions I can relate. I am hesitant at times though that they might wonder why I am sending them the requests.. :-(... I'll try to fight the feeling..

I don't limit myself when giving responses, as long as I feel I can contribute my opinion then I would not hesitate in giving a response on discussions. I also make comments on some person regularly and most of the time I am not aware that they aren't my friends yet. Maybe because I was too familiar with the name/avatar that I thought they are already my friends here.

Just in the short time that I have been on mylot I have found a few posters that I really like their topics and their answers. I like the posts/responses that sound like there is some thought put into them. I would request them actually I have requested the ones I liked I haven't checked to see if they were accepted at this point. Sometimes I wonder if the more senior members like yourself would accept the friend add of a newbie like me.

If it is someone who is around all the time, I usually think I am already their friend. . . I cannot keep track. Eventually one of us requests the other, though. I know what you mean. I usually request fairly new users, because then I know they are not on my list already. I am a "more the merrier" kind of gal.

lol dont think I have I know a couple juumped to me defence once and we are now friends others are friends of freinds that added me as a friend then there are the ones that ask to be friends and I look at profile and wonder why as none of thier discusions go along with any thing I respond to but if they look interesting I accept if they have 0 on every thing I dont accept as you never know whatt hey are like before they do some kind of post or resonce

That is one thing I have never been is shy with the friends requests.In the beginning,once I get a good response from my posts, I would go to their profile and see if I could answer any of their posts, If I could I would request them. Now a days I just wait and see.

You know that makes me realize you must not be on my friends list or this discussion would have come to my email instead of me stumbling across it while I was browsing through mylot. I almost never send anyone a friend request on here I just never think to do it. I think I have only done it once. If I get friend requests I always approve them IF they have over a 100 by their name so that way I figure they probably arent going to spam me.

I usually converse back and forth for a while and then realize we could be on each others lists. I guess what it boils down to is that you don't have to be on each others lists to be friends. If there are any that I haven't got on my friend's list it is just that I haven't thought of it yet.

Hi JenInTN Many a times we wait for someone to make the right move. We hesitate in taking the first steps and expect the other one to take the first step. I too have a few lotters who are almost on all of my discussions but we arent friends yet. Maybe some point we need to express. I rarely take the first steps. This happened here due to an experience quite early between me and a senior lotter. We had some difference in opinion and the way things went, I felt bad (today I have positively realized it was my fault, and I did say sorry and things went well) but somehow the memory remains. The next reason - there are some seniors whom I will love to have in my friend list - but I still hesitate as most of their discussions are beyond me and I feel I will not be able to give my best or at least better. But when they have some discussions where I can hop in, I do. One to mention - Dawnald - I like her posts, discussions and responses, we are even in friends lists but I hesitate in responding to most of her discussions just because they are mostly too personal or even too much US centric (my personal opinions only). So despite we are friends, chances of our meets are lesser. And yes, I still remember - and am thankful to her for extending her friendship to me.