daddy's confession...

Hi there, It must have hurt you to know that your father is cheating in the relationship. But I think i would agree with the rest of mylotters to keep it a secret between you and your mom. Yes your brothers deserve to know too but if you want to keep your family intact dont do it. The less people involve the better for now if it is a one time occurrence. I am close with my mother too but i feel burdened whenever my mother confides my parents problem to me. They make me aged, maybe because I am a worrier. Does it make you want to wish your mother should have never tell you so that you wont you your mother differently?

I think this time, your dad or your mom has to tell them. it is true that your other siblings deserve to know and being cheated on is really just painful and it will break your heart and your world even. but you owe it to your mom as she confided in you and trusted you. the matter now is in their hands. it has to be dealt with as a family but it should not be you that divulges the information. I guess it is just a matter of being patient and since your mom tells you everything, i guess she too would be willing to listen to you. I guess what you have to do then is to convince your mom to tell your siblings about the situation or sort it out first with your dad. i am praying that you will find the wisdom you need in this situation. do not let your emotions get the best of you and always remain calm so your mom can still remain strong as she would see the strength in you. she does need that and you owe it to her as her daughter. Always stay by her side and comfort her and remind her that she is loved and she is important and everything will be alright.

Hi there Rasalhague12! I think that it would be very hard to suggest what action you should take because it always differ from one situation to another. I think the best thing to do is to just agree on your mother's request since it is mainly a matter between a husband and wife although we could never deny that the children are also greatly affected by such issues. Just give it time. If you think it is getting out of hand, then you should ask for advice from an older person like your grandparents, depending upon your and your parents' relationship with them, or you can suggest to your mother what you think would be a better thing to do, or you can talk to your father. It all depends on how you think they would react or handle the situation and on your principles in life.

Just remain silent and let your mother keep on telling you that kind of things. part and not part of the family everything will be understand by your elder brother why you keep silent, just to give respect from your family and its your mother choice not to tell, maybe there will be a time to confess this from your elder brother if its needed your mother is much in control of your fathers relationship. what your brother can do about it to change the situation is there a good effect for them at this stage maybe think about how they handle the situation, maybe they would be rebellious when they are upset about it. or lack on focus, that why woman are strong in this kind of scenario how to handle family. maybe think how can you bond more with your father and express to him that he is important to the family and they would have there own feeling about this and now you know I now that daughter is much closer to there father try to write him a letter that you express how important he is from you as a father maybe it can help.

How awful! Your mom confided in you because she needed someone to console her. I am not sure what I would do in that situation. Did he confess and say he wont do it again? Are they splitting up? I guess it would depend on all those things.

hi rasalhague , i know it really hard time going around you but for everything there is a time and place, in my opinion now more then your four brother knowing the truth your sweet mother need moral support from you if now god comes and stand in front of her she will not believe but your words and action as more value to her now then anything in the word , so the truth can v relived anytime to your four brothers but now your mom is important its my kind request to you spend as much as time possible with her whenever the thought comes back to her try to divert into something else try to keep her in your arms as much as possible and keep her busy . BELIEVE ME TIME WILL SURLY HEEL THE WOUND , THE WOUND REQUIRES ONLY YOUR TIME AND LOVE

I am sorry for your family that your husband let this weakness in his life and your family's. It is very sad. The best thing I know for you to do is to pray about it and you and your mom hold hands and pray about it. I guess you feel like your dad has let your family down. As far as telling your brothers, I think the best thing is for your mom to tell them if she thinks she should share this with them. Then again, I don't know what kind of relationship you have with each of your brothers, but maybe there is one that you might could talk to. Pray about that. Ask God to show you what you should do in this.

Tell your siblings about it ( if they are 16 years old and above). Do it discreetly & make them promise that won't tell your mom that they knew about it. Thay have the right to know because they are part of the family.

I'm sorry you found out your dad was cheating. That must be terrible knowing that. I agree with other responders here, your mom just needed someone to talk to about it that she could trust. I think when your mother is ready she will tell your brothers. Maybe she needs time to process everything for a while. If you want your mom to confide in you in the future you really cannot tell them. Like I said I'm sure they will find out when she is ready for that...I hope your heart heals soon and your mom's heart too.

Hii rasalhague.... I am so sorry to hear that. Hope your mom is doing well. Family problem is family problem and every member of the family needs to know the problem. Who knows one of them can help to find the way out or make the situation better. If your brothers know it, maybe they can cheer your mom up, give her more fondness and make her sure that she has her children right with her. Keeping this as a secret will give you no way out. The situation will be the same and always like that. just an advice, I have the same situation, but I have no brothers nor sisters to share with. S o I just take all the sweetness and the bitterness all alone. Think it again before your brothers feel like they are not important

First of all, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I agree with some of the others, your mom just needed someone to talk too. Once she's ready I'm sure she'll tell your brothers, but if she doesn't seem like she's going to, maybe ask her why she wanted you to keep it a secret. Again, I'm sorry this happened.

It sounds like your mother is close to you and that she's using you as her confidant, she feels like your the one that she feels confident enough to confide in that you'll listen and make her feel like she's not to blame. I wouldn't say anything to your brothers either she will tell them when she's ready or they are close to your father and it should come from him and not you. I know when my parents argued or they were having a moment my mom would always come to my house and stay with me, she just needed that time to get away and collect her thoughts. She shared many things with me that to this day haven't been shared with the rest of the family, at least not by me. She trusted me and felt close to me to get these things off her chest to move on. Your parents will decide where to go from here, and once they make that decision they will either forgive and forget, or they will part ways at that time I am sure the affair will come out and your brothers will be advised of what happened. OR maybe your father is close to the brothers one or all and has already shared this information with them and they advised him to tell mom. Good Luck I hope you are ok.