My son hasn't seen his daughter in more than 3 weeks!

I'm glad that you have decided not to give him money anymore. Sorry to hear that your son acts this way. Hopefully with time your son will grow up and see that his daughter should be the most important in life. If he doesn't soon enough he will learn the hard way that when she is older she will not want to spend time with her because she will feel that he never cared about her. I'm happy that you and your husband have custody of her. I know that it must be hard raising such a young child all over again. But she needs you both.

It is a complicated situation. Your son is really irresponsible, I am sorry to say this. His love for his boyfriend is obviously creating problems for his entire family. I hope he grows up.

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation with your son. It does seem to be a case of his love is blind. At least, it seems to be that way, from what you've said. However, being a parent myself, I don't quite understand why he doesn't see his daughter. It seems strange to me that it seems that he's not interested in seeing her. In his situation, I would want to see her every chance that I could get. But I guess that's just the type of parent and person that I am.

That's a shame and I know it is heartbreaking for you. It amazes me how people will sometimes choose partners over their children. I could never do it. I think that sometimes people's heads get mixed up and they forget what is really important. I am sorry he is acting the way he is. The saddest thing is by the time he realizes it, she may already be grown. I have spent most every moment with mine and it was truely a blink of the eye and their youth is gone. I still have a 13 year old at home that I am enjoying but I know that I will wake up and she will be a woman..just like my other daughter and my son. Stay strong friend and enjoy that little girl. I will be hoping that he decides to do the same.

My respect for you and your husband that you both adopted your granddaughter. A liar who you call a sweety? I am afraid you can't do anything to change your son's opinion. The harder you try to harder he runs out. so my advice is: let him go, don't give him any money. Concentrate and invest in your granddaughte, now your daughter. There will be a time she will ask for an explanation.. don't do like I did and find excuses for the behaviour of her bio-parents. She will know like my kids knew. The bio-parents will be the ones who have to answer all her questions one day.

Wow doesnt he miss his daughter? :O I could have never be without seeing my daughter (if I had one) for that long! Also I feel sorry for that his boyfriend is stealing from you and lieing to him :-/ I hope he will soon realize what his boyfriend really is like. All the best for you, your son and his daughter!

Hi, Maybe your son is in love. Sometimes love is blind. I am sorry to hear about this. I hope your son sees his daughter very soon. Have a great day!

your granddaughter is lucky to have you and your husband. i think your son is blinded by his love for his boyfriend so that he believe in him and cut your relationship with you as his parents. at this point, talking to him will not really help. just give your understanding to him instead of talking to him about his daughter because that will make him even stay away from you. make him feel that in case he wants to move back in your arms, he will still be welcome. remind him that a family is a family and the only persons you can turn to after all have turned back at him. in time he will realize that and just pray it should not be in a bad situation. love her daughter much though it will not be enough. you have a very kind heart and that you will be bless more by God.

Sounds like a classic case of love is blind. He is obviously mesmerized by this boyfriend and doesn't want to do anything to harm the relationship they have built to this point. Some people are under the misconception that love and happiness far outweigh the need for money. Its definately wrong and most know that but in the situation they are in they are blinded by it. As for seeing his daughter, you didn't mention your sons age but maybe he's not at the age that he wants anything to do with kids, the Department of Human Services made them give her up maybe he hasn't gotten over the fact that he was forced to give her up, at least it worked out that his parents adopted her and he can still see her but it may be that he is hurt that he himself couldn't make the decision to either keep her or place her in a more stable home. You are doing a very nice thing taking in your granddaughter allot of parents would just say to their kids you made the bed you lie in it. Your very kind for doing such a wonderful thing. This little girl won't have to go searching databases to find her natural parents and will be raised by caring and loving people with the influence of her biological parents.