Falling in love to the wrong person

This is not the guy you will be happy with for the rest of your life. Asking for your salary and giving you an allowance, then asking his mom for every decision, and not letting you go see your friends. This is not a relationship at all, you will only be unhappy. Please run as fast as you can, away from this so called "man". Any one can ask you for your and in marriage and if they're not even excited to set a date then there's nothing there, it is all about money and control for him. he doesn't love you. I'm sorry to have to break it to you like that, but I do care and can see the signs one bad relationship ahead of you if you don't totally break free of him and move on. ((Hugs))

I hope you do not get offended or upset with anything I say here... It doesn't sound like a relationship to me at all. It sounds like he is trying to control everything towards you but still needs his mothers help to do that and everything else. My opinion is slavery ended a very long time ago. No man should treat any woman like this. If you are earning money and your not married yet it is YOUR money to do whatever you want with! If it was me I would be running as fast as I could away from this guy... If he asked you to marry him he should be excited about the wedding and the date! If he isn't then theres another red flag. You are free and you should go out with your friends whenever the heck you feel like it! Don't let any man tell you something different. My opinion is there is a right guy out there for you. It does not sound like you have found the man for you yet. The man for you would not treat you like this. Were all here for you! You can find someone better!

I wouldn't accept a proposal before knowing someone really well living together is fine but I will make sure financial arrangement is clear if he ever asks me for my salary I will not stay sharing bills has nothing to do with salary and allowance we can set up a new a/c for sharing bills and each month put some money into it

For me,when it comes to weddings,what the girl wants should be followed.I mean,this is going to change her life forever then it should be a good transition.I personally think that he's showing off that he's the guy every girl is yearning for with all the money & the like but WITHOUT a backbone because he still can't decide on his own.If I were you,I'd tell him to grow up first.I hope my comment wasn't offensive.

Sounds like he is a momma boy and what momma says goes. After being cheating on I don't know that I could be very trusting a second time. Nice that he asked for your hand in marriage but not being able to decide on a date, or asking for your paycheck that's crazy. I would get away expecially if your having doubts....