i need help!!

United States
March 5, 2012 10:31pm CST
i have 2 kids both of them girls. they are 4 yrs old and 2 yrs old. all they do is fight. yes i know that kids will fight but it seems like it is from the time they open their eyes in the morning until they close their eyes at night. they will play nicely together sometimes but on other days it is so bad idk what to do. times out does nothing at all for them. they will hit each other throw things at each other and sometimes they will bite. they will not share their toys unless they are made to and i am to the point that idk what else to do. is anyone else going thro this? have you been thro it and have some pointers you could give me? or do you just have some ideas that might make things change before they start school in August??
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@olliekobra1 (1825)
7 Mar 12
There is always going to be sibling rivalry its natural for to sisters to compete but i think they will get better with age.
• United States
7 Mar 12
i sure hope so lol....sometimes i think there is no end there to the fights and screaming..
8 Mar 12
the children are still very young they proberly dont even realise that they are doing wrong, sisters will always argue. I have two sisters and i still argue with them but i still love them. just stick with it, it will get better
• United States
9 Mar 12
thanx for that. i also still argue with my sister sometimes but i love her very much :) i didnt really think about it but you are probly right they really may not realize they are doing wrong. i am working on getting all there stuff ready to start school this coming up year. i just hope they are nicer to the little kids there than they are to each other lol....thanx i will stick with it and i am sure it will get better...sometime lol :)
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
6 Mar 12
I’m certainly not an expert on children but then would it help? Every child is different and they need their parents who know them better than anyone. Fighting or rivalry occurs in every household and to be expected. Conflict will happen but it is how conflict is resolved that is the most important consideration I think. Sometimes let them work it out themselves but intervene if it gets too abusive which is the parents responsibility to do so. Don’t think you can stop every growing up squabble. It is part of learning and growing up too I suppose.
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
9 Mar 12
I don’t think there are any wrong or write answers as each family and situation that arises is different. I do remember growing up and mother seemed to be in some other location but had ears and eyes in places without me ever knowing. Then, as I got older she wasn’t around but extended a trust to me simply by saying if something goes wrong you will tell me I hope. I would say yes. They seemed to allow children to be just children where today I find some parents sometimes overactive and involved very much with their children. It could well be a good thing though in some cases not maybe. I like how I was raised but then we were allowed to lay on the ledge in the back window of that old car without seat belts too. What seat belts, they didn’t have any.
• United States
9 Mar 12
lol i like your life to haha when i was a kid i had a lot of rules and my grandparents were very strict. may b that is why i am a little over reacting to my kids and what they do. i think every kid needs a certain amount of freedom also because i am a full believer that if they are to sheltered then they will rebel and then possibly be to much to handle. i ahve seen that happen way to many times in families and by that time it is sometimes to late :( idk what i would do if my family ended up like that...
• United States
7 Mar 12
i never looked at it this way but i guess if i really think about it i do try and stop every fight instead of there being some they have to figure out together. i guess this is when the "pick your battles" comes in...when i was a kid i also fought with my siser but i dont remember it being this bad lol but thank you for helping me to realize that it really is in kids nature to do this and that may b ur r right may b it is a part of growing up. sister seem to always b really close may b this is the process to that....
@lampar (7584)
• United States
9 Mar 12
Children fight over toys occasionally is very normal behavior, but if they constantly fighting over every thing and every hour, then somethings are wrong in their behavior. Have both of them visit a child behavioral therapist clinic may turn out to be a good idea, let the therapist analyse some of the behavior and personality in both children, then provide expert opinion for a parent to deal with their aggression, whose known, the expert advice may turn the table and alter your super aggressive daughters behavior for the better. You never know until you try, the outcome of the consultation with the child expert may well solve your problem once and for all.
• India
6 Mar 12
Little childrens always doing like this. They have some possessiveness in all of their thinks including parents relatives, and their things. So it's not need to take so much care now. They need to grow up well , when they growup they automatically realised about this matters. If it's continued in future when they grow like teens. Then we need to talk them and realized about their relationship between them. Then they understand.
• United States
7 Mar 12
thank you i will keep that in mind :) i have just been worried that it will always be like this and it is really unfair to my youngest because it seems she is the one getting beat up the most. she spends a lot of her time crying...
@Lisona (177)
6 Mar 12
I bet you feel like tearing your hair out at times, my 2 year old has an attitude right now,..lol. They are learning to cope to be socialible and for them to understand that is quite a task. My 2 year old fights with his 12 year old brother which is bit of a brave thing to do :0) I supose if they are close in age, they may have simular likes and dislikes, like painting, drawing, playing in sand pit ect, get them to do more activities together, and get them to try and play nice, and praise them alot when they are nice to each other, kids love to hear praise. If they start to fight, pull them away from each other and say why, give it a minute, not longer, then encourage them to give each other a hug and a sorry. It usually works for me. I know it doesnt always work , but it does get better once they are both in school.
• United States
7 Mar 12
thanx for the advice...i will be looking in to more things they can do together. my kids (like most kids i am sure lol) love to be praised for doing things they are suppose to be doing. may b that will help and make things a little better. i do try to do the hugs and i am sorry but not all the time will they do it sometimes they are to mad to do so...would u make them anyways or wait until it calms down??...i sure hope it is was diffrent when they go to school because i do not want my kids known as the trouble makers lol
@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
6 Mar 12
I have a boy and a girl age 5 and 3 1/2. my little girl is so mean to her brother. She will run from one end of the house to the other and tackle my son. I mean they both fight like cats and dogs but yet they get along fine together and they are good as gold in school and at day care but i so now where you are coming from nothing works for me either so i cant help you there but wanted to comment on it that way if someone comments with some good advice i will also get the info thanks for asking.