Is anger important in a relationship?

Hello my dear anuragv22, It is completelly normal to get angry sometimes even for such small things. This is because your relationship is in standstill. You must change something in order to reinforce your love. When the love is turned back with even greater strength you will stop getting angry and you will be happy. Another solution is to talk with your sunshine and explain her what you feel about her mistakes and that this makes you angry and this anger later comes out for completely different things. I guess that your girl is very smart and she will understand you and your relantionship will get better. No matter what you do, you must stop gettig angry, because anger kills you from inside and this is bad for your health.

I think getting upset with your partner is pretty natural. When your angry, you have to atleast talk it out, or it will manifest into something bigger then it was. My husband and I made a rule when we got married, to never to go bed angry. It doesn't matter if we're up until 4am, we make sure we both understand what and why we're mad about, we come to an agreement, and we let it go. There's nothing worse then waking up bitter, it will ruin a perfectly good day! NEVER WALK AWAY!!... My husband hates confrontation and tries to walk away, I feel that makes the situation worse...just get it out in the open, you may even have to agree to disagree...but get it out and let it go!

I think there is nothing wrong with showing your feelings and emotions. But if you get angry for no reason or about small things you should ask yourself why? Are these small things really the reason you get angry or is something else going on? Are you unhappy with your life, your relationship, your job or did you never learn to control your emotions? You always been like that? Are you testing your partner when she will give up on you? When she says: STOP no further? Write down everything that pops up in your mind till there is nothing to write down anymore. Re-read it in 2-3 days. Do you still feel the same? Is there more you want to add to it? Did you change your mind, is there something in common? You will find the reason this way.